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    Question Love hate job relationship?

    I've been reading a lot on here lately, and Im seeing that a few of you ladies don't like your job at all, and you're only doing it for the money.

    I've seen people say that the girls that like their job and treat it like its fun don't make much money.
    And that the real dancers don't treat it like a party, and they dislike the girls that do it because they seak attention.
    I get told by custies that they dislike the girls that treat it like "work" and that it makes it boring and unfun for them, then again they could be telling me that because I'm one of the "fun" girls.

    So I'm wondering, how many of you actually enjoy dancing?
    What do you like about it, what do you hate about it?


    Personally I LOVE my job. I go to work with a smile, if I'm not feeling it I don't go in because I know I wont make money.
    But when I'm in a good mood and happy to be there I make bank.
    I'm always smiling at work, I have fun, I express myself on the pole/stage and put my personality out there for everyone to see, and I get a lot of complements from it.
    I even get men who don't usally tip on stage sets come up to me and tell me because of my happy go lucky energy they had to come up and tip me.
    When I give table dances I happly pretend to be enjoying the dance, because that usually gives me re-peat dances.
    I love the feeling of being in control and being so great in a mans eyes that he'll spend 200+ dollars on me in 30 min.
    I like being able to work when I want, and if I don't show up to schedualed shifts I only have to pay out more and not lose my job.

    What I don't like is the women that lie and cheat and stab the other dancers in the back.
    Being around drunks all day. I don't drink, not even out side the club. I don't like going to partys where everyone is getting smashed. I really dislike alcohol, and what it turns people into, but I deal with it at work.
    And the fact that some men act inappropriately, and think that because they give me money for being entertaining, they can stick their fingers where they don't belong or they can whip it out on me, or anything along that line.


    But yeah what are you're views on working at a strip club.
    Do you hate it and just do it for the money? or do you enjoy comming to work?

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    I like it far more in Austin than I did in LV. I love my managers, my club, 99% of the girls I work with, everything. I feel super at home and never go in and say GOD DAMN I HATE THIS CLUB like I did almost every day in LV.

    At the end of the day, do I like dancing for men? I'm neutral to it. I don't hate it anymore. But I'm not like WOO HOO I GET TO BE NAKED FOR THIS DUDE! I like the money. But that is my sole motivator. If I could do something else and make equally good money, I likely would.

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    if i could make the same kind of money doing something else, i would.

    i'm not really a people person, so dancing takes a lot out of me, emotionally, just being around so many people.

    the other dancers stress me out with their weird life choices that i don't understand (having babies back to back while selling oxycontin for your abusive boyfriend). histrionic behavior stresses me out. i hate being in the dressing room because i hate overhearing horrible shit and being made to feel like it's normal or okay when it's not.

    men generally gross me out, but i deal with that okay. i'll act sexy as long as you pay me, but the ones who use the power dynamic reversal to get off for free (pretty girls begging me for money makes my dick feel bigger) get on my damn nerves.

    but when money is good and the other dancers aren't crazy and customers aren't beating off during couch dances, i'm alright.

    when money gets bad, chicks start letting dudes finger them for $1, and customers start asking if i want to see their dicks, it causes a great deal of work dissatisfaction.

    i also don't like how there is no job security. like, i can lose my job if the manager's wife had cramps that day and didn't make his oatmeal properly. i cannot stand that shit.

    dancing drives me crazy.

    but then, working for $15/hr would make me outright insane.

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    i love my job but i dont treat it like a party. When the girls on here say not to treat it like a party, they mean dont show up and do the job to fill an emotional or attention void in your life and just act like a party girl and hang off customers for free because they are good looking and complementing you. Liking my job helps me make money, but I see the earning potential for this job and treat it accordingly. I take it seriously as in I have revamped my look to appeal to more people, i work hard on strengthening my hustling skills, and i am always making goals and pushing myself. When I am on the floor i am all business... i have fun and do it with a smile and a wink, but in the end, it's still business .
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    On any given night I can love it, on any given night I can hate it. There are many things that Im at odds with myself about over this job. At the end of the day though stripping isn't something I really want to do but it's the easiest way for me to get my bills paid and be a FT day student.
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    I personally love it. I'm like you. If I'm just not feelin it for whatever reason I just won't go in. I don't smoke, do any drugs or drink alchohol so I don't treat it as a party. But I smile, I sing the songs that are on, I dance while I'm standing in place (not crazy-ily but I move my body to the beat type thing) when I'm not on stage and I have a great time. I also hear alllll the girls at my job complain how much they HATE being a stripper, how they hate thier job and yada yada yada. The money just makes it all that better for me. I don't deal with asshole guys tho ever. I really can't remember the last time a guy gave a girl a hard time in my job. It's so incredibly rare. I mean really -really- rare. The guys are great really. The girls are wonderful I work with and I swear our mgmt is the best around.

    I think one reason I love it so much is b/c IRL I'm shy/reserved/quiet. I haven't been out to a club in about a year and a half. I do not talk to many people. I love being home, alone. So when I enter the SC, I immediatly become (stage name). It's my alter ego. I do and say things I normally would never have the balls to do. I totally envy my alter ego if that makes any sense at all. She is fabulous, care free, sweet, sassy, confident, sexy and just has it goin on. But IRL.....I'm so not that way. So I would bet that has something to do with why I simply love it and have stuck around so long.

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    I still really like the job, but I dislike certain aspects of it. I like the cash, the freedom, the show and fantasy aspect, dressing up in clothes I wouldn't be caught dead in otherwise, meeting people I'd never meet otherwise, being able to travel as much as I want, the feeling of power over men

    I severely dislike the rampant misogyny among male staff and some customers, the assholes who feel entitled to abuse women in the industry because of their own fucked up "morals" or because they happen to pay us some cash (usually very little at that ), the negative effect on romantic relationships, and being unable to report my job on rental / credit / job applications.

    However, I've worked plenty of "real" jobs besides stripping, and I can tell you for sure that misogyny and abusiveness toward women exists in the "real" world as well, it just happens to be a bit less obvious. If I have to deal with this crap in life, I prefer to deal with it directly the way it manifests in stripclubs, over the indirect "hidden" way it usually manifests in the "real" world.

    Like most girls, when money is bad, I find it incredibly hard to motivate myself to go to work. It's easy to say that this is because stripping is so draining that we can only put up with it when money is good. I disagree with this reasoning, because most people find it difficult to motivate themselves to go to work for crap pay. We place a premium on personal and sexually-related services, plus factor in the limited potential careerspan, so obviously we expect to make more than we would in most average jobs, and if the money isn't there, we generally don't feel it's worth it to do this instead of something else.

    It's also easy to say that we'd definitely do another job if we could earn a comparable living as we do with stripping. I'm here to say: Don't be so sure! I have left a good job with good pay and benefits that afforded me the same living as stripping because of the lack of freedom, scheduling demands, mental stress and lack of fun.

    I've been dancing quite a long time. I will probably dance a fair while longer, and I am comfortable with that



    Regarding comments in these forums about party girls not making money vs customers seeming to spend more on the "fun" girls. There is a vast difference between the party girls who strip strictly for the party lifestyle, are always drunk/high and irresponsible at best, vs the girls who are good at the job and put on a show for customers in order to get paid well! Customers enjoy strippers who can convince them they're having a good time and know how to entertain and provide the service they seek. Most customers don't really care if the girls truly enjoy the job, as long as the fantasy is maintained.

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    I do love the job. My club is fantastic, the employees I know personally and work with are great, we work together well, and we have each others backs. That is very important to me. I need to feel safe and secure in the club, and I do. If I worked at a club that was not up the par on this, I would probably have a different opinion..
    My club is more of an "entertainment" strip club, meaning high energy, great stage performers and more of a party crowd. I LOVE that. I love dancing on stage and entertaining people. My main thrill in life is getting on stage when the club is packed and the people are responding to my stage set, when my adrenaline is pumping a million a minute and people are having a great time with smiles on.. that is why I love the business.
    I also loooove the money, of course. If I could do the same job, but clothed (like bikini dancing) I would. But it would not be the same! There IS something about being naked in a room full of people that is exhilarating and so crazy. I've never really said that out loud.. But it's true.

    Of course there are many downsides of the business... And there are times I want to leave and do something else. Times when you cry b/c when it's bad, its BAD- because it is so personal. But overall, I know I won't b/c I do love my job. I'd say about 10% of the time I think about doing something else/cry/curse the day I started dancing. But the other 90% I feel blessed to have learned everything I have and get to go to work excited to be there

    You can usually tell the dancers who hate it and are there just for the money. I am sure we all come across that way to someone at some time or another. B/c you can't blend with every customer at all times and they often think we are faking and what not. But being a dancer and watching fellow employees, you know which girls HATE the job, and which are the partiers, and which really enjoy it. I definitely think those who love the job make the most money, just because they exude that and people pick up on it..

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    Hate it. I do it because, like someone else already said, it's the easiest way to get enough money to afford school.

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    love it cause... it is a big party when u want a big party
    i get to show off
    i'm pretty much my own boss
    the money
    little work
    learn a lot of things
    make my own schedule (work as little or as much as i want)
    i like to dance
    women of all types work there

    hate it cause...i don't eat the days i dance
    have to shave my cooch
    i freeze my ass off sometimes
    creeps
    depressing when i don't make $
    stigma
    surrounded by unintelligent life

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    Quote Originally Posted by cede View Post
    hate it cause...
    have to shave my cooch

    surrounded by unintelligent life



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    I love it when the club is busy and the customers are spending, I hate it when its dead and they are being cheap asses saying they just came in for a beer.

    Pretty straight forward really!

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