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    Default Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    This article is kinda controversial (and long) what do you guys think of the author's assertion that men prefer very thin women?

    Actual article link but I included a summaized version below
    http://www.elle.com/Beauty/Health-Fi...My-Body-Shrank

    Summary of article by Jezebel.com

    You know that whole thing about how being superskinny is an ideal originated by the fashion industry and perpetuated by female competitiveness and like, totally NOT AT ALL what men are interested in etc. etc.? Well that's bullshit, says a story in the March Elle by Amanda Fortini, a 5'6 woman who dropped to 100 pounds a few years back. "Many men, I quickly learned, really do like frighteningly lean women, whatever they may claim to the controversy. As an average, medium-size young woman, I was unremarkable, innocuous. As a skinny slip of a thing, I was something of a sensation. In restaurants and at parties, men flirted at me extravagantly." Men in media and literary circles hit on her frequently and audaciously, (one of them with the awesome line, "You remind me of a heroine from a Joan Didion novel." (You know, "all bones and big eyes.") "As a male friend once put it to me, semifacetiously," she writes, 'A little anorexia is hot.'" But would they have thought it was hot if they knew what was swimming inside her guts??
    That's right, it wasn't anorexia! Turns out she had a whole bunch of Entamoeba Histolytica , tropical parasitic protozoa she'd contracted in Belize, digesting her food for her!
    Anyway on a side note, she describes herself as someone who worked in "fashion magazines," but when you Google her it seems like she was also once on staff at the New York Review Of Books — which is sort of the annoying part: literati dudes actually dig waify anorexic types, in my experience, more than bankers. Because they are little and not very manly and it's not as brazen as digging girls with weaves and implants and also it's cool to hate on fat people. God I hate New York!
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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    a reasonable subsection of middle class+ white men prefer very thin, physically unhealthy white women. you see that in the preferences for very thin women who have high bodyfat and no muscles (ironically, a physical norm among vegans, which is a popular celebrity diet).

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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    I didn't read the entire article, sorry--but I did read the first page. I much prefer very slender women who are in good shape, but I have certainly dated outside that general category. And not all slender women are in bad condition--there are some badass petite girls out there, I have worked with them and they rock.

    OTOH, even reading the first page I could sympathize with the author, since I went through a phase where I didn't want to eat at all. It was weird, I'm really just now snapping out of it.
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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    It seems the skinny skinny almost sickly looking girls do make really good money. The older white men love them.. And especially the shorter ones, which to me look like little girls.. Short and really skinny.. But hey whatever.
    Personally I prefer a more womanly body but I am not a man so there goes that.

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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    Well I've only read your summary so far, and I have two thoughts so far ...

    - Is this only based on one woman's experience or was there an actual study done? How much of an effect did her own confidence level or positive self image have in the results she saw?


    - There is a difference between women that men will want to sleep with and those they would consider being in a relationship with or even marrying. Does this article address this? Does she mind that the extra attention may be from shallow men who would dump her the moment she added some weight?
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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    Well now that I've read the entire article ...

    The topic of the male response to her being thin was fairly brief, and didn't seem to be readdressed when she became skelaton thin.

    I also find it funny that she writes ...

    " ... I remember standing beneath the harsh fluorescent lights in the dressing room at Saks and thinking, Give me tight! Give me diaphanous! Give me sleeveless! ..."

    and then a few paragraphs later writes ...

    "... And I could only point to my sudden waifishness, my newly excavated cheekbones and sinewy upper arms, as the source of all the silly come-ons and smoldering glances. ..."

    Perhaps her attitude and what she was wearing had something to do with it?

    Also, is 5'6", 120lbs, really a "medium build"? Sounds as if she was fairly thin to begin with.

    Ultimately, her observations regarding men are based on "some" men, and not "all" men.
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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    Quote Originally Posted by verfolgung View Post

    - There is a difference between women that men will want to sleep with and those they would consider being in a relationship with or even marrying. Does this article address this? Does she mind that the extra attention may be from shallow men who would dump her the moment she added some weight?
    this idea isn't completely accurate. first of all, i don't think super thin women with no boobs are the women that men just want to have sex with and then leave. the men that are into skinniness are perhaps technically shallow, but not in the way we generally think. they are thinking that being super thin means many other things about the woman, such as being intelligent and committed (to not eating food). also it implies that you're of a higher social status, well combined with the right clothes. so therefore while the skininess originally is what attracts them, its not for the reasons of just sex. but i've been skinny all my life and been glad that i haven't gotten any of the shallow guys that just like big boobs. i find the guys i've been with have always been really into me and wouldn't dump me for anything, esp not a few lbs.


    from the article:
    People apparently feel it’s appropriate to comment on your weight if it falls toward the low end of the scale. It’s assumed that, as the saying goes, one can never be too thin; telling someone she’s too skinny is like telling her she’s too smart. But that’s not how it felt: It was like being constantly reminded of how sickly I looked. And of course, I hardly need to add that had I instead been gaining weight, not a soul would have dared ask about my dietary habits.

    i can't stand this! i recently gained 10lbs so i don't get it as much anymore, but my whole life people felt it was okay to comment on my weight. like random girls will just say to me "you're so skinny!" like wtf am i supposed to say to that? okay? people just think about other people's weight entirely too much.

    thanks for sharing that article!!

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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    yes 5'6 120lbs is considered an average build in nyc, esp if she works in fashion. it probably wouldn't be in texas.
    and i def don't think that all men like women super-skinny, but i think lots of rich ones do. i'm also biased from living in new york. i love it here because i'm considered hot by the businessmen who like the high-fashion thing, but prob not so much in miami and LA where everyone has lovely fake boobies. i don't go out to work in vegas because of my lack of boobage, i feel comfortable here in manhattan with the suits.

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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    Well, I've been waifishly thin and curvy. I get hit on about the same both ways (but when I got down under 80 once I didn't get hit on at all). I have lived in NJ and the South and I really don't see many southern guys dealing with a super skinny no-boobs girl, but a lot of NY/NJ guys certainly like the curvy playmate look. I seem to notice an increase in requests for dates at around 100lbs (my weight goes from about 95-105 usually, so smack in the middle).

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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    5'6" ... 120 lbs sounds pretty thin to me...less than 100 lbs? It's hard for me to imagine that looking good...

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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    this article is full of shit.

    i dont like anorexic looking thin women, i think its unattractive. when they're naked they look like skeletons wearing a spandex body suit.

    theres gotta be some meat on those bones!

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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    how is the article full of shit? its just one woman's experience. no one ever said all men like super skinny women. i really don't see where you're coming from.

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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    Quote Originally Posted by laurcon View Post
    how is the article full of shit? its just one woman's experience. no one ever said all men like super skinny women. i really don't see where you're coming from.
    it states that men prefer very thin anorexic looking women. sure some guys do but the majority of men prefer a more shapely body. for example no dude is going to say to his buddy "check out those cheek bones" or "look at her protruding shoulder blades", lol. they're more likely to comment on face, boobs, butt and legs.

    now if the article stated that men prefer thin women, not very thin women, then i would find lots of truth in that.

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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    It depends on the guy. To generalize is silly. I'm 5'4. I weigh 100lbs. My best (guy) friend and my husband both say I would look better if I gained 10 or 15. My ex loved how tiny I was and would probably have liked it if I weighed less. It's all relative. Everyone has a "type".
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    Quote Originally Posted by laurcon View Post

    from the article:
    People apparently feel it’s appropriate to comment on your weight if it falls toward the low end of the scale. It’s assumed that, as the saying goes, one can never be too thin; telling someone she’s too skinny is like telling her she’s too smart. But that’s not how it felt: It was like being constantly reminded of how sickly I looked. And of course, I hardly need to add that had I instead been gaining weight, not a soul would have dared ask about my dietary habits.

    i can't stand this! i recently gained 10lbs so i don't get it as much anymore, but my whole life people felt it was okay to comment on my weight. like random girls will just say to me "you're so skinny!" like wtf am i supposed to say to that? okay? people just think about other people's weight entirely too much.

    thanks for sharing that article!!
    Its actually a social behavior known as female fat talk. Its actually a very hot topic in research right now. It usually goes like this:

    -oh, you're so skinny
    -no I'm not, I'm totally fat. I need to go to the gym everyday
    - you're definitely not fat. Look at me, I'm fatter than you
    etc., etc., etc

    Its a way for women to bond and express their feeling about their weight without breaking the taboo of not talking about it.

    Not saying that I support this...Just mentioning facts

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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    It depends on the guy. To generalize is silly. I'm 5'4. I weigh 100lbs. My best (guy) friend and my husband both say I would look better if I gained 10 or 15. My ex loved how tiny I was and would probably have liked it if I weighed less. It's all relative. Everyone has a "type".
    Jay when I saw your photos I thought your body looked perfectly healthy the way it is really. :-) And I am not just flattering you.

    5'6" 120 seems perfectly healthy to me. Then again I like to err on the thin side because that's there I have always been comfortable. Trying to get down to 120 again right now. (I know, I know... spare me)

    I would definitely say it is regional. In the South, for sure, they like girls a little "fluffier". But I'd say in places like NY and SF, not as much.

    You also have to keep in mind that in places like NY or SF you are way more active anyway. They say the average New Yorker walks like 5 miles a day or something like that. When I lived in SF my body was bangin' because I didn't drive and went up and down those hills on foot all day.

    Totally relative.

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    Quote Originally Posted by laurcon View Post
    like random girls will just say to me "you're so skinny!" like wtf am i supposed to say to that? okay? people just think about other people's weight entirely too much.

    thanks for sharing that article!!
    I always say thank you and then talk about my healthy lifestyle. Like "Oh thanks! It's been all these awesome spinach strawberry salads I've been eating for lunch. They're super good for you!"

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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    I seriously dont look at weight unless your just huge...i take it that its meant as a sexual partner. As far as friends, some of my best friends that were girls weighed more than me.

    But its really not that big of a deal, prob cause i have met so many hot sexy ugly as shit women.....yah and i know same thing goes for men...that wasnt meant to be mean...its just true whether your a female or male

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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    hot sexy ugly as shit women??

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    Quote Originally Posted by laurcon View Post
    hot sexy ugly as shit women??
    meant as hot and sexy on the outside and ugly on the inside....in other words the weight is not near the most important thing

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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    I think it depends. I've always been around 120-130 pounds, and some guys like me and some don't. I wasn't very thin, but in shape (I am athletic with big boobs). I had one guy I was dating who'd put me on a scale and if I didn't slim to 110 pounds he would order me a grilled chicken and salad (no dressing). Of course it's fine if guys are chubby, but a woman who's average? Often bad. That double standard really always made me mad. I kind of blame society for pushing this (and tv shows with the hot wife, fat husband stereotype).

    Regarding clubs (or doing parties), I think those who want very thin girls (and no I don't think 5'6 120 pounds is very thin) tend to be younger and white. Those that like heavier girls are often minorities (in particular African American and Hispanic, but not Asian) or older guys. I've been rejected for being "overweight" because at the time many clubs wanted the very thin look.

    However, I think some guys when they say thin just mean "not fat". Sounds strange but average sized people are harder to find than they were many years ago.

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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    i'm 5'6" and i weigh 140. i live in ohio. if i moved to new york i guess i would be obese.

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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    OTC, ppl tell me I am too skinny. In the SC, I get a lot of compliments.

    I already don't give a flying fuck what ppl from OTC have to say about my weight... as long as I am making money, that's all that matters.

    Even my exbf use to tell me all the time that I had to gain some weight. Yet, his friends use to compliment me all the time when were out.

    I don't stress about what ppl like/say anymore. As long as i'm healthy & like the way I look...that's all that matters.

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    Default Re: Do Men Prefer Very Thin Women? Elle article

    My experiences on this have been very conflicting. I have never been very very curvy but when I was a bit heavier, which I was until about 22, I definitely got more attention and compliments on my body. However, I have to realize that not only was I in my prime years, but I was dealing with a body I knew very well and knew how to dress and show off. Now that I am thinner I do not get nearly as much attention but it is hard to say if it's totally because of my body (I am older and more cynical after all!) I've felt slightly uncomfortable in this thinner body to be honest, I feel like I'm in a weird no-man's land- not cirvy but also not truly skinny.

    However, it worked the opposite when I was working. When the pounds came off I definitely did better in the clubs. A friend of mine had a theory (which I think bears consideration) that SOME men are attracted to any signifier that the woman has made a huge effort to be attractive to him. So, looking very thin would indicate some huge sacrifice to look appealing, which would indeed appeal to men who like having that power over behaviour. I don't know what stock others put in that.

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    I dont really know what to say about the article...

    I can say that here in the south especially in the clubs around here the thinnest women are the money makers here, moreso if she doesnt have boobs or not more than a B cup.
    There also seems to be a correlation of being a top earner if you happen to be under 5'6, blond, look a little lolitaish and the above mentioned body type.

    However, the minority clientle, and the close to thirty to mid thirty always define these woman as sick looking or in need of dietary aid, so who knows.

    I have seen some thinner women who look incredible but I also seen plenty of the ones who really scare me and make me wonder if they had eaten anything in the past week.

    I have no desire to be model thin, so I will be disappointment to the men the article is based on...and I am more than happy with that.

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