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    Dizzy I chickened out.

    Ok so last week i called and asked my local Deja Vu when to come in for an audition, and everything i needed. I was told 9-12 at night, and given a small list. What type of thong, pasties, etc. My local one is a no contact, thong, and pasties required type place. I did my nails, got the stuff i needed, outfit, shoes, everything.
    Monday night i go there at 10:30 with my bf in tow for support. I tell the bouncer im there to audition, and he tells me ok, but the bf cant come in with me. I have to do it alone. I was really sad, but with him walking in with me i was ok. Im pointed in the direction of the manager by the bouncer. I go talk to him and he tells me it's too late that night, the girls are already on their rotation, and i should come back tomorrow between 8-830. I say ok and tried not to look to disappointed, and walked to go out where the bouncer just gives me this look like "what just happened, why u back so soon?" I tell him he told me it was to late tonight. The bouncer told me to for sure come back, that i will get hired. I go back out to the car, and get the same look from my bf of wtf, and i tell him what happened. The bouncer had come out to get something for one of the dancers, and so my bf asked him if he thought i would get hired, or if it was worth even coming back. He said for sure they would hire me, just come in another night. That he didnt know why he turned me away to begin with.
    So Tuesday i get all ready again, and im so nervous. Way more than last night cause i know im alone. We drive there again, and i get out to go in. I get halfway to the door, and i chicken out. I go to the drivers side and tell him i dont think i can do it. He basically said we need the money, we're vested in this, and blah blah blah. Nothing supportive. I know he's frustrated with money now too, so i cut him some slack, but i really needed words of encouragement, not a guilt trip. This morning though he was really nice, and talked to me about it. But said he's not going there a bunch of times just for me to leave again.
    I want to do this, i want the money, i dont know what my problem is. Im not insecure with my body, i used to dance for cheerleading and dance team no problem in high school. I dont know if it's that i think ill freeze, or what. Someone please help. Anyone do this before?

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    Default Re: I chickened out.

    The first time I auditioned... it was at a dive who let me do it RIGHT THEN... AND there happened to be another girl who went first for the same thing...
    If not for that... I don't know that I could've done it either!
    I still think I nearly threw up I was so nervous.

    Once you actually get on the stage... it's REALLY easy...

    My advice is to not over-think it and freak yourself out.
    Just go in and do it!

    Some people get more comfortable going in and checking out the place like a customer...
    Personally... I think it's easier to just audition and get it over with!
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    It took me a solid 2 wks to get up the nerve to audition. And then when I went I was hired right on the spot without even having to change. It winds up becoming a bigger deal in your mind than it really is. If you're fine moving and you're fine in the heels you really shouldn't have a problem. Remember to take a deep breath, move slow (ppl have a tendency to go really fast when they're nervous) and smile and it will be over before you know it!

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    Default Re: I chickened out.

    omg. i was coming on to make a thread about the same thing. I chickened out as well. except i didn't even make it inside so kudos to you.

    like you guys, my fam needs the money as well. and i looked so good, i was so ready....or so i thought. right when i pulled into that parking lot i freaked.

    so please veterans.....share your tips for us newbs.

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    When I went to audition for the first time, I was soooooooooooooo fucking nervous. I drove up to the club, chickened out, turned my car around and parked around the corner. I must have sat there for 20 minutes, giving myself a pep talk. Finally I just decided to nut up and go back to the club, when I got out of my car I was so scared my knees were shaking! I was so intensely nervous I can still remember everything that happened in perfect detail. When I went inside...the manager told me come back next week because he was in a bad mood that day and doesn't hire girls when he's feeling down. It was so frustrating, at that point I just wanted to get it over with!

    When I came back the next week to audition I was still so scared...I was all shaky again and I thought for sure I was gonna fall on stage from nerves and lack of prowess in the shoes. Plus I had to change in the DR and I was super super intimidated by all the girls back there. The DJ pulled me over and gave me this speech right before I went onstage about "oh you don't know what you're getting yourself into, you're an Aries so you'll end up being ruined by this job, blah blah blah", so I was extra freaked out. But honestly once I went up on stage it was not that bad! I just walked around the poles and removed an article of clothing here and there.

    I guess the moral of the story is...just fucking do it. It's always gonna be scary, and it's scary for 99% of girls who start, and you just have to suck it up. I actually think that the hardest part of becoming a dancer for many people is working up the nerve to physically go to a club and ask to audition. Just get over it, the adrenaline rush once it's over is totally worth it anyway. And those girls in the DR who seem all glamorous and intimidating? They were noobs once too. The funny thing is that a few months from now when you are starting to feel more comfortable and experienced, new girls will be starting out and look at *you* like you are some kind of pro!

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    Default Re: I chickened out.

    think about how proud you'll be of yourself once you finally do it!

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    just think about how much you need the money. im new to it as well, i just started sunday. i went to this club called cheaters, and got hired on the spot. he asked if i wanted to start right away but i decided to come back later. i was most terrified of going on the stage, never got on it cause my friend was scared but next time i go i'll make sure its the first thing i do it looks like fun

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    Default Re: I chickened out.

    Don't think about needing the money - I think that just makes you more anxious and feel more intimidated. Plus, on your first day, making money isn't going to be easy...it just takes time getting used to hustle. Think about how awesome it will be to say to youself, "I did this. I wanted to try it and now I'm doing it!"

    I actually started tearing up in the dressing room when I got hired - I didn't know what I should do, all these girls were ready to go, glamorous as hell. But, you're already there - just get it over with!

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    DO NOT BRING YOUR BOYFRIEND. You think it's going to help, but it is NOT going to help. Sure, have him drive you, but keep him out of the club. You have to sink or swim on your first night, and if your boyfriend is in the club, you'll end up with him the entire night because the first night can be really scary!

    The best thing to do is go with a girl. Go with a girlfriend who either works there or wants to try out there. That way you have someone else in the same boat as you, who will pep talk you up throughout the night. If you can make a friend of one of the dancers there by going in with your BF as a customer, she can walk you to the manager next time you come in to get hired. We're all friendly girls like you, so don't be scared to pop your head in and say you wanna get naked too!

    Your first night is going to be about getting yourself to talk to people. Dtxgirl told me that you can't get told no 100 times in a row. So, set a goal like "I'm going to talk to 100 people tonight" Just think... if they all give you 5 bucks.. that's... $500.
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    Default Re: I chickened out.

    I did sort of, as in i kept telling myself i would audition then found ways to make myself busy so i couldnt, i was really nervous. However, i then told my close circle of friends that i was going to. After I told them that and spent the last of my money on stripper gear, i had to. I went to one of the shittiest places because i knew i would get hired... and i was still literally shaking before my audition! I was a horrible dancer, fortunately i learned quickly and moved on to a better club within a few weeks.

    Now here is the part that worries me:

    Quote Originally Posted by Tink52 View Post
    We drive there again, and i get out to go in. I get halfway to the door, and i chicken out. I go to the drivers side and tell him i dont think i can do it. He basically said we need the money, we're vested in this, and blah blah blah. Nothing supportive. I know he's frustrated with money now too, so i cut him some slack, but i really needed words of encouragement, not a guilt trip. This morning though he was really nice, and talked to me about it. But said he's not going there a bunch of times just for me to leave again.
    I am not sure what your situation is, but are you planning on supporting your boyfriend? The fact that he says 'we need the money' scares me. Please dont become one of those dancers who supports their man. Actually, if you have any reason to believe he is going to use you for money, this might be the reason you chickened out. Part of you might believe dancing isnt right for you and that you are being pressured by your boyfriend who you shouldnt be supporting. For whatever reason you choose to start dancing, be it monetary or personal, it should be for yourself, not your boyfriend. The only exception to this IMO is children or family or super extenuating circumstances where its an only option. And in this economy, stressful circumstances will NOT help you make money!


    So please dont let your boyfriend pimp you out-- for your sake. Its no good!


    Anywho, best of luck to your audition if you go through with it. Stay strong!
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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