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    So I approached a couple of customers at work the other night, in a bikini top & thong, holding my skirt cuz I had just come down from a VIP room, asking them for a dance before the night was over (last call was in 10 minutes).

    One of them (pretty intoxicated) asks "whatcha been drinking tonight?" I tell him nothing, just water, and he keeps insisting that I mustve been drinking something (??). So he offers me a drink and I politely decline (dancers in NC aren't allowed to drink on shift at all, plus it was 1:50 AM and the bartender was trying to close up shop), he keeps insisting that I get some booze and I take his hand and tell him that if I drink so late at night I'll get sleepy and I don't wanna go to sleep just yet *smile*

    So he says "you're one of them proper chicks aint you?" And I'm just like "um, hah what do you mean 'proper'"?

    So he says "throw that shit out." "Umm throw what out?" I reply. "Throw out that proper white-girl bullshit. Just, throw that shit out." I turn to walk away and he pulls me onto his lap. Not sure what to do I start slipping my skirt back on and he's just like "nah nah nah" and pulls my fucking skirt down, and finally I get back up and walk away, while he whines to his friend about what a bitch I am or whatever.



    First of all, "proper white girl bullshit"? I'm very clearly not white, and nothing I say makes me white. Does every woman of color have to act super fucking ghetto to be "real" or "authentic"? Don't get me wrong I grew up in poor urban neighborhoods and lived in some pretty rough ghettos in my life. But that doesn't mean I have to drink booze at every possible opportunity or let men pull my clothes off without my consent or give customers a minute of my time without them paying me. I don't care if other girls give off the whole ghetto vibe, it's just not me. And I can't connect with the kinds of guys who expect or want it. Secondly, who grabs a girl and forces them on their lap or takes a stranger's clothes off that they're clearly trying to put on? Especially when it's obvious they don't like you or are trying to get away from you after you've insulted them.


    Sorry, just needed to vent...

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    Quote Originally Posted by SerenaSin View Post
    First of all, "proper white girl bullshit"? I'm very clearly not white, and nothing I say makes me white. Does every woman of color have to act super fucking ghetto to be "real" or "authentic"?
    I get stuff like this a lot. Meh, whatever. I'm not going to apologize for not fitting into their pre-conceived notion about how brown girls should act/talk/look. What can anyone possibly say that would automatically associate them with a specific race anyway? I get called out like this a lot when I'm not at work too.

    Sort of unrelated, but I also get the following comment from young guys atleast once a night at work:

    black guys- "You probably only date white guys, huh?"
    white guys- "I know you probably only date black guys, right?"

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    Ugh, dumb, drunk customers stereotyping. I'm white. I drink when I want or when I don't want. Proper or not. White or not. I always wanna say what I really think to guys like this, but I would probably get fired. And it wouldn't be "proper".

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    wow what a shithead. I am sorry you had to put up with that. It would have taken a lot of willpower not to deck that guy in the face. I wish i had some good advice for you on how to deal with that, but I dont . Hopefully they wont return to the club. If they do, avoid them and warn the other girls.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Yeah. I know what you mean. I don't drink at all and a guy kept trying to buy me a drink. He kept saying, "C'mon I ain't never met a black person that didn't like to get their drink on."
    Wft!!!! I'm sorry you ran into that jerk.

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    Some guys are like that at that club. I hope tonight was so good it made up for it. I ended up going home sick. Keep your chin up, and don't let lame assholes get to you.

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    that sucks. some people are just ass holes. if that happened to me I would have just ordered the most expensive drink and tell the waitress to bring a fake one and for her to keep the difference in price. at least someone could make a tip and empty his pockets.

    as far as stereotypes no one really does it to me but i'm mixed and no one can really tell that i'm black especially when i have my hair done. a few times people told me i sound puerto rican lol?

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    omg i hate when they try to tell you how you should act around them. bitch you like me or you dont lol. no worried cuz someone else will enjoi my company more.





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    You know people have probably said the same ignorant BS about Michelle Obama. It seems like most people realize that "ghetto" talk and behavior is socio-economically driven, not race driven. People are just stupid, end of story.

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    guys say stuff like that to get you to try to prove them wrong.

    so in his mind, he says that, and you prove just how nasty you are by pulling his dick out and blowing him in the middle of the club. and pay him for the priviledge.

    in other words, just a dumb ass kid who needs to learn what reality is. properly walk away and try not to let it bother you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rayna Skye View Post
    Yeah. I know what you mean. I don't drink at all and a guy kept trying to buy me a drink. He kept saying, "C'mon I ain't never met a black person that didn't like to get their drink on."
    Wft!!!! I'm sorry you ran into that jerk.

    Shoulda said, "You want ghetto? I can do ghetto." And procede to kick him in the teef.

    J/K--kinda

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    You have me rofl, Evan86! ;P
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    Normally I would chalk it up as someone who was drunk being an idiot except that I really hate the stereotype that all black and hispanic women who speak properly are "trying to act" or "talking" white. That shit pisses me off.

    Technically I am not white (according to those little standards the government has set to put people in a little box to decide how worthy they are of receiving tax-backed aid programs) but because I pretty much look white and speak like someone who has an education and a bit of class.. everyone teases me for being such a white girl.

    Whatever,

    If a white girl talks like she is from the hood (*wheter or not she is) then she is somehow "trying to be down" because she wants to fuck balck guys or she is considered trashy.


    when are people going to stop buying into these archaic nothins of race????



    Anyway, rant over. Fuck that dill hole. He sounds like a douche.
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    You will find ignorant everywhere. It takes talent to not allow it get to you lol.

    The only thing that really matters is if the way you talk is who you are, and not something you are doing to copy/be someone you are not. That's all that matters. If you're sure it's you, stand up for who you are. Who cares what they think? And that's the truth.

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    Quote Originally Posted by she sells sanctuary View Post
    guys say stuff like that to get you to try to prove them wrong.

    so in his mind, he says that, and you prove just how nasty you are by pulling his dick out and blowing him in the middle of the club. and pay him for the priviledge.

    in other words, just a dumb ass kid who needs to learn what reality is. properly walk away and try not to let it bother you.
    Yeh, you have a good point there. Same as when I sit with a guy for a lil bit then pop the dance question and the guy says "convince me" or "do something to make me wanna go upstairs with you". I mean what the fuck am I supposed to do, out on the floor (where it's light 1-way contact), for free, just to get maybe 1 dance out of a guy? And what the fuck does he think i was doing sitting with him in the first place?

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    I would have told him "I don't care if I'm f*ing purple, don't touch me or my clothes." I'm pretty famous for telling people that piss me off, "Your in my house a*hole. I didn't come to your living room and get naked. If you don't like the rules in my house I'm sure there are a lovely set of sticky magazines hanging out in your living room that you can treat however you want".

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