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    this annoys me so much and its probably really silly

    I really like my boyfriend but i feel so insecure, hes into big boobs like he always makes comments about them..okay well not always but when he does I probably fixate on it and I remember ages ago when he was with his last gf and we were just friends and I asked what she was like he went 'shes got big boobs' like i am already insecure about my boobs and he always like complimentary and tells me Im silly but most of the time he doesnt even bother to take my top off during sex so its quite obvious hes not that interested. And when I was tidying I found some crappy note he had wrote ages ago like some poem thing obviously just being silly but it said something about cumming on her tits which in all the time ive been with him he never ever done to me, it honestly makes me not want to have sex with him but its my issue not his as he doesnt ever try to tell me anything is wrong with me but i can tell from his actions if you know what i mean?

    I just dont know how to get over this??
    It makes me so sad haha im sucha geek.

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    If I were in your shoes I'd probably smother his face in my boobies and make him like it ! Have you told him you are interested in that kinky business? Maybe he has no idea, doesn't think you're the type to want to try it or something.

    But if it's not his type then it's not his type. He should quit pussyfooting around it and just fess up. You can't force pieces together that clearly don't fit, so it would make things much easier for both of you. You shouldn't be made to feel insecure with someone who should be making you happy and comfortable, and he shouldn't be going around trying to make you feel that way, if that's the case.

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    Does he HAVE to be interested in your boobs? If he is interested in YOU, so what? The harsh reality is that we will never be perfect. If it wasn't your boobs, it would be something else. But does he care for you as you are? It sounds like he does.

    I would say that you are insecure about it because that was what he liked in his last girlfriend. And how did that work out? Hmmmm . . . maybe it's good he sees you as more than a pair of boobs?

    The question is, do you WANT him to give your whole body more attention, or is your concern just that if he doesn't like your boobs, then he doesn't really like you?

    If you would like more attention, just ask, or grab his hands and show him what you'd like.

    If it's just your concern over his interest in you, I think that's something you're going to need to work out. It's OK to mention your insecurity to him, because if he loves you, he will want to reassure you. Tread carefully, though. He could get confused. Men are taught their whole lives how shallow it is to be so interested in boobs, and now he's in trouble for NOT being interested?

    I think a good place to start would be to let him know you'd like to get some attention there because YOU like the way it feels, both physically and emotionally. That way it won't come off as if he's doing something wrong and you're "fixing" him.

    DON'T bring up the ex. Concentrate only on the two of you.

    DON'T force him to do something because you think he "secretly" wants to.
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    My ex made me feel insecure because I HAVE boobs! You can't win with everyone, but you can learn to accept yourself. He must be attracted to your other qualities if he's with you at all, but if his comments are more like put-downs, dump the boob-head. No one deserves to be psychologically abused.

    Embrace your body as you are. If you don't like something about it, then change it, but do it for YOU, and not anyone else.

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    Well I wouldn't be too fixated on him not cumming on your boobs or the fact that his EX-girlfriend had huge boobs. There's a reason she's his EX after all. If he had a major problem with your boobs, then he would still be with that other girl and you wouldn't even be posting about this right now.

    Maybe he just gets so heated and into it that he doesn't bother taking your shirt off. Just ask him straight up why he doesn't take your shirt off and see for yourself.

    Hope this helps!

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    If you really want to find out how much of a 'big deal' your BF places on big boobs, ask him if he's willing to pony up so you can get a boob job !

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    I had to say this- When a guy is really attracted to you, it doesn't matter what you look like, all your physical qualities will intensify his attraction. Things that you are insecure about, he will like. If he's so hung up on the size of your breasts, he's not worth it.
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    haha god I wish he would buy me a boob job!
    Its not like he puts me down or anything I thought it might come accross that way i dont think its an issue for him but when I say I wish I had bigger boobs he doesnt like disagre haha. Its just my issue! And I guess the only thing that wil fix my own problem is implants i cant afford that right now though so I will have to wait. I realise that hes not with ex and hes with me but I worry like he might have found her more sexually attractive etc!! Thanks for the advice x

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    Quote Originally Posted by J.D. View Post
    I had to say this- When a guy is really attracted to you, it doesn't matter what you look like, all your physical qualities will intensify his attraction. Things that you are insecure about, he will like. If he's so hung up on the size of your breasts, he's not worth it.

    I dont think hes hung up on, its more I am. And I know I like him so much I dont think about whats not physically my type or whatever but I just thought men were alot more about looks than women so I thought he thinks different.

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    Looks are about initial attraction, which is why they matter so much in the SC. After that, it's more about the whole person.

    I wish I could find the study, but for now you'll have to take my word for it. But the gist of it was that people ranked pictures of people they knew as "more attractive" than people they didn't know.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Shy_Guy View Post
    Looks are about initial attraction, which is why they matter so much in the SC. After that, it's more about the whole person.

    I wish I could find the study, but for now you'll have to take my word for it. But the gist of it was that people ranked pictures of people they knew as "more attractive" than people they didn't know.
    Well thats quite nice to know!
    I feel bad to even ask him why he doesnt take my top off like someone suggested because it will make him feel awquard I think probably cause an argument lol! Il just try to concentrate that he likes me as a whole.

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    Again, if the only reason you want him to take your top off is because you want him to want it, well then skip it. If you would like him to take your top off because it would make YOU feel better, let him know that you would like it. As long as you are making it an action he can do to please you, you should be fine. Say that you'd like to get completely naked (NOT wouldn't HE like to get you naked), would he help you? Guys like to find ways to please their partner. (Well, at least they should)

    If it comes off as he's doing something wrong and you're fixing him, that could cause hurt feelings and the dreaded fight you mentioned.
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    Aside ... You're post reminds me of the movie "Singles" ...





    Try not to let your insecurities get the best of you. Yes, he may like "big boobs", but obviously there are other things he likes about you even more.


    Take care.

    (PS: Next time, you could wear a burlap sack or something really scratchy. Bet it will come right off! heh)
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    He probably likes you more than big boobs which is why he mentioned it. Big boobs aren't all that and neither are big dicks.

    I like the person, and so do other people.

    Maybe he wants to seem "attractive" SOCIALLY TO YOU.

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    well, to simplify things to the Occam's Razor minimum, ... if

    A. he likes big boobs, and
    B. you wouldn't mind getting big implants, then
    C. the only real problem that actually exists is MONEY i.e $5 grand for a boob job !!!

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    ^^^^ I think the average boob job costs way more now.
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    ^^^ obviously the price of a boob job is highly location dependent ! Also, with the 'recession' underway, one of the side effects has been a vastly reduced demand for 'luxury' expenditures ... like cosmetic surgery. Thus in point of fact, there are some 'bargain' prices to be had right now where boob jobs are concerned !!!

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    Then start talking about big anaconda dicks.

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    ^^^ Vyanka, you're downright evil LOL !!!!

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    ^^^ Vyanka, you're downright evil LOL !!!!
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    here's my ?. I have 34B boobs. real ones. and when i lean over forward they become stretched out saggy hanging boobs. Is this natural. otherwise when I am standing up they are perky.
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    Quote Originally Posted by britney45317 View Post
    here's my ?. I have 34B boobs. real ones. and when i lean over forward they become stretched out saggy hanging boobs. Is this natural. otherwise when I am standing up they are perky.
    yeah thats normal,well im the same size and mine do that anyway.


    Also Thank you for all the replys everyone I am starting to feel abit better like I would hate if I had big boobs and I felt that was the only reason someone liked me. I brang up the not taking my top off thing in an argument about something else and he was like 'I do take your top off' but i was like when..when was the last time you took it off?!? I dont think he knew what to say, he has been taking itoff more but obviously just because I said something haha im never happy but nevermind.

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    do guys think its gross when boobs look like that when your on stage and crawling towards them?
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    Quote Originally Posted by britney45317 View Post
    here's my ?. I have 34B boobs. real ones. and when i lean over forward they become stretched out saggy hanging boobs. Is this natural. otherwise when I am standing up they are perky.
    Quote Originally Posted by britney45317 View Post
    do guys think its gross when boobs look like that when your on stage and crawling towards them?
    I've long thought that women are far more critical of their own beasts than men are. In my travels (both in civilian life and in strip venues) I've yet to see a pair of boobs that made me go ugh....

    Variety is the space of life and it would be very boring if dancers had identikit breasts. Add into the equation that male tastes in boobs vary - meaning every guy will rate every dancer differently.

    As to your question about crawling on stage, I suspect from a male POV, the problem is not the effect of gravity on your boobs, but on your self-confidence. If you feel your boobs are not attractive when you are crawling, then you'll tend to communicate that through your body language - making your audience a little uncomfortable in turn.

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