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    I've been working at a dive club lately, because it's a different hustle and much easier. Well, tonight I guess the girls finally ran me off. They were never the nicest, and they looked like rejects that couldn't get hired anywhere else. Like the sorority from House Bunny. Seriously. These girls would complain about working twelve hours and leaving with 100$ WTF WHY do you dance????

    Anyways, I had all I can take, and I'm so pissed off at myself for letting them get to me! I walk on the floor, only to see that they've all claimed their territory as far customers. I go sit with one guy, and a girl walks up to me saying, "Why do you work here? This is not your type of club!" Um, ok. I try to be nice and put a smile on my face, only to get attitude and dirty looks, FUCK THAT! Ugh, I'm so mad at myself right now, I know there was a right way to handle this situation, but I didn't know how.... does anyone else feel my pain?
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    I work in a dive too. It's a different class of girls sometimes. I know what you mean. Chin up girlie.
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    Default Re: It got to me....

    You have to decide if the money you make there is worth it. If it's not then don't waste time and risk daily drama. At my club there was a brawl last night and two dancers broke each other's faces. This morning two girls cornered another girl. It's disgusting but it happens and you don't want that mess to happen to you. Try to make a buddy there so you don't look so vulnerable.
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    I have worked lots of dives, perhaps made career of it. The best way to get to these girls is to make as much money as you can and refuse to leave, no matter what. Just keep smiling no matter what they do or say. It'll burn em up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by J.D. View Post
    I've been working at a dive club lately, because it's a different hustle and much easier. Well, tonight I guess the girls finally ran me off. They were never the nicest, and they looked like rejects that couldn't get hired anywhere else. Like the sorority from House Bunny. Seriously. These girls would complain about working twelve hours and leaving with 100$ WTF WHY do you dance????

    Anyways, I had all I can take, and I'm so pissed off at myself for letting them get to me! I walk on the floor, only to see that they've all claimed their territory as far customers. I go sit with one guy, and a girl walks up to me saying, "Why do you work here? This is not your type of club!" Um, ok. I try to be nice and put a smile on my face, only to get attitude and dirty looks, FUCK THAT! Ugh, I'm so mad at myself right now, I know there was a right way to handle this situation, but I didn't know how.... does anyone else feel my pain?
    Do you have an inner bitch? You know, that voice inside your head that you hear when people are being cunts to you? ACTUALLY SAY THAT STUFF. Go ahead and tell those girls to fuck off. I've worked dives for years and years and you just gotta stand up for yourself and take whatever rawness and meanness you have and use it to deflect them.

    It also helps to have thick skin AND selectively poor hearing. The way to go, beyond telling them once or twice to shut the fuck up, is to IGNORE THEM. Seriously. Pretend they never said anything at all, because they are LOOKING for a response. They get off on making you upset, and if you become upset, they win. So just don't! Just brush it off, smile and IGNORE IT.

    It's hard but once you do this for a week or two, the drama will probably die down. People won't keep bothering you if they don't get a response because it will become BORING to them.

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    Default Re: It got to me....

    I'm sorry they ran you off but if you were making good money there then you don't have to let anyone influence how you make your decision where to work.

    There's a possibility that I'll get into shit with girls no matter what type of club I go to. I work 3 nights in Manhattan and 2 nights at a dive club. When I started at the nicer club no one really caused shit but a few that were just snobby. However, in the dive club I noticed that the girls could be a little jealous. This is because a lot of the girls make most of their money on stage and they see that I skip stage (I pay the DJ) and they see that I can make a lot of money. When i start at a dive, this might sound totally stupid, but I usually come in with no make up or hair done and the girls can see the transformation and they don't get so jealous thinking i'm always totally perfect. And I also noticed that when I started there was a girl that was there earlier than me and she was pretty and knew what she was doing and she NEVER had a problem with me because she knows she can make her own money.

    Did you decide if you are going to work there again?

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    I've had this problem before as well. It sucks. I got attacked by a crack head one time. I would let the owners know. Chances are they know that your a commodity and want to keep you around. I actually had to have a bouncer with me every time I went to the dressing room at one club. I just went in and stock piled the money I made for a month and didn't come back. I've even had owners ask me what they could do to get more girls like me to work there before and work with me so that I might help everybody.

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    Thank you guys, I LOVE this website! I don't think I'm going to go back, it was to the point last night that the MANAGER came up and tipped me a dollar on stage. I guess I was giving him a WTF look, because a waitress nearby was like, "Take it! He only does that for the girls he REALLY likes!" Calm down, it's only a dollar! I would rather save myself the drama and work somewhere where I fit in better, girls can be mean!
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    ^^^^That's funny! When I see a manager or bouncer checking me out I thik, "Dude, you're not supposed to get hooked on the product!! That's for the custies/addicts !!!" It tickles me when they get seduced.
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