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    lately i've been getting annoyed real easily by customers when they say "no" or when they do something rude. I don't know what my problem is but i can't seem to snap out of it. I almost feel like i've had to be so constantly fake at work you know with the smiling, flirting, and the feigning interest and whatnot, that I've burned myself out on it. It's totally messing up my hustle because i'm being super impatient with customers, and i probably look like i dont want to be bothered. Anybody else go thru phases like this? and how do i get back to being all bubbly and carefree and charming??

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    Yep, that was similar to me 2 weeks ago, felt like I was surrounded by assholes and no patience what so ever left so I had last week off, chilled out, feel better and ready to back into the fray tomorrow night :-)

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    Yeah I'm guessing the best way is to take a lil break if you can?

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    Default Re: i need an attitude check

    Ditto that. It happens to me a lot, and so I try to take a few days off (or a week).

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    A week off definitely helps. Also for me I've found a herbal mood enhancer. It has valerian in it which is supposed to be herbal alternative to valium. I've never taken valium so couldn't tell you if it's similar. It's probably just a placebo effect anyways but I find it calms me. I feel almost slightly stoned but still able to focus on working. I don't want to get dependent on it though so I only take it when I feel a particularly stressful night is coming. For example there was a huge rugby final here in Oz last weekend so took it then when the club was full of wankers.

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    Default Re: i need an attitude check

    As everyone else has said ... you need a break!

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    Yep...classic symptom of burnout. Take a week off, then come back and work less than you did before if your budget can afford it. You'll probably make MORE money working LESS days than you did working with a bad attitude (and more days) beforehand.
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    sounds like you need a vacation. you are welcome to come with me to explore san francisco and try to figure out streetcars.

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    Never get angry at being turned down since it's never personal. A small break, as others have suggested, would probably make you feel a lot better about things.

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    Default Re: i need an attitude check

    i totally would take a break but i can't. i cant take a break cuz i havent been making any money, but i'm not making any money cuz i have a bad attitude, and need to take a break!! its a frustrating cycle im stuck in....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jessie_tinydancer View Post
    A week off definitely helps. Also for me I've found a herbal mood enhancer. It has valerian in it which is supposed to be herbal alternative to valium. I've never taken valium so couldn't tell you if it's similar. It's probably just a placebo effect anyways but I find it calms me. I feel almost slightly stoned but still able to focus on working. I don't want to get dependent on it though so I only take it when I feel a particularly stressful night is coming. For example there was a huge rugby final here in Oz last weekend so took it then when the club was full of wankers.
    Valerian is an awesome calming herb,it really works.Anyone who's russian will second me on that.That's what everyone's been using forever in stressful situations,most commonly in drops (ahh,childhood memories).Just try to be careful,it can cause drowsiness,hence often taken before sleep.Great idea for work,but would be careful if drinking or driving or both.

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    As far as the OP....Definitely,vacation or time off will help.That's why I take a lot of mini-trips.Just even a change of scenery or being around different people will recharge you for dealing with work.Although taking longer time off is difficult at this time,with the business being a bit slow,but using that 1 day off wisely will make up for it.Maybe take a day trip or just do something different on that day,go shoppinf,hang out with friends,etc.

    Hope this helps.

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    Since you cannot take a break, maybe a change of SC scenery and checking out a new club would be good for you!!! You will be out of your element and will be the "new girl" if you are somewhere familiar with locals, which means you should get alot of attention. Just be careful for the catty types!! Hth.

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    I thought Valerian was for insomnia?

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    Well since you can't take time off neccessarily, your only hope is to cultivate that little "hate it but do it" center of your brain that is responsible for all the things you hate to do but they still have to get done. If you can develop this part of yourself- those things you "hate" like waiting patiently until the custie wants a dance, or laughing and smiling to same dumb questions or comments will eventually become second nature because you know you must DO them to achieve your ultimate goal- money which results in : peace of mind.

    of course I am like the worst advocate for this as I fiiiiinally did laundry today and still haven't been doing my homework reading. Go figure! But still- knowing about the "hate it but do it" is the first step to utilizing it so we're in the right direction at least!

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    Default Re: i need an attitude check

    I need an attitude check too.
    Today I wandered over to the bar to get a drink and the guy who was standing there turns to me like "I'm Sorry, I've already got someone for tonight" all condescending like and gestures at another girl...
    This was at the end of a super slow-super rough shift. I just looked at him like the moron he was and said "I'm sorry, I wasn't aware I'd fucking asked you anything." Haha. I then turned to my manager like "Woah. It's officially time for me to leave for the day!" He just laughed and cashed me out.

    Some days I just can't help the attitude. I normally just go home for the day and start fresh in the mornings!
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    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    If you cant take time off, maybe try some retail therapy? I always found that when I bought a sexy new outfit for work, my confidence would go up 100%. Therefore my mood was waaay better and I could brush off the negative stuff stuff cause I felt so good It also helped cause I wouldnt take off work and fall behind on bills and then stress about that. I could make the $ back for my shopping trip and then some. It works for me, but I may just be a shopaholic!

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    I find telling off the customers who are rude helps me be less annoyed with the ones who are just telling me no nicely.

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    It happens. You're normal. I mean a girl can only take so much sometimes.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Nuclear Martini View Post
    I thought Valerian was for insomnia?
    It is used as a sleep aid in higher doses but in smaller doses (the ones I use for work) just make you feel relaxed. Kinda like being mildly stoned. I do also take the sleep aid strength and it doesn't knock you out or anything...just makes you mega relaxed so you can fall asleep easier. I am naturally a very hyper active person though. I know some girls who get really tired if they take it.

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    Reading through the DancerWealth workbook before work seems to kind of help my attitude. It gets me into more of a professional mindset, and when I'm in business mode, my attitude adjusts accordingly.

    This sounds silly, but I also kind of recommend listening to one of those environmental new age CD's...you know, like "Calm Mountain Stream," or "Exotic Shore," or whatever. I have one I listen to at home, and my general attitude seems to have improved.

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