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    I have been to a few SC in my time and I was wondering what the norm was for reactions from the guys enjoying lap dances.

    First, is there a certain reaction girls expect from a guy from the effort of the dance?
    Or is there certain body language a guy gives off during a dance that is expected or is the guy suppose to sit there like a deer caught in headlights?
    Do you girls prefer to be looked at in a specific spot during a lap dance and does staring at certain body parts excite you more than other areas?

    And then I have been to a few places with my friends who claimed to actually achieved male finishing during the dance just from being grinded on. Is it normal for guys to just reach male patterned hardness or actually to finish off?

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    Quote Originally Posted by worldfamoustoddyepthatguy View Post
    Do you girls prefer to be looked at in a specific spot during a lap dance and does staring at certain body parts excite you more than other areas?
    LOL! Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but we don't get "excited" over the dances. No matter what you do.


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    And then I have been to a few places with my friends who claimed to actually achieved male finishing during the dance just from being grinded on. Is it normal for guys to just reach male patterned hardness or actually to finish off?
    No, it's not the norm. Actually it's widely considered disgusting and completely inappropriate.
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    Quote Originally Posted by worldfamoustoddyepthatguy View Post

    First, is there a certain reaction girls expect from a guy from the effort of the dance?
    Yes, we expect him to react by giving us money.

    Quote Originally Posted by worldfamoustoddyepthatguy View Post
    Or is there certain body language a guy gives off during a dance that is expected or is the guy suppose to sit there like a deer caught in headlights?
    The only thing that the guy is supposed to do is enjoy himself and not break any rules.

    Quote Originally Posted by worldfamoustoddyepthatguy View Post
    Do you girls prefer to be looked at in a specific spot during a lap dance and does staring at certain body parts excite you more than other areas?
    As Elvia said, we are not "excited" by anything that you do, other than giving us money. I will say that I find it creepy when guy stare directly at my face for long periods of time.

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    ^^ What they said.
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    Basically, just respect the dancers boundaries no matter how excited you are. I've had guys whip it out or grab me and say "I'm sorry I just couldn't help it." That's bullshit and I know I'm good at my job but I don't want to see your junk.

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    Quote Originally Posted by worldfamoustoddyepthatguy View Post
    Is it normal for guys to just reach male patterned hardness or actually to finish off?
    Well with the right ATF dancer it can and does happen.

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    I just act normal during a dance, that usually works fine. I admit I get turned on, but hell, it's a hot girl doing a sexy dance. I don't like to get grinded on a whole lot, I find it makes the nuggets sore later...and I'm not looking to cum in the club anyways.

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    The only reaction they expect is for you to reach into your wallet and pay them. Beyond that the words "why don't you keep going for a while" are always nice to hear as well.

    Be respectful and let her take the lead. Contact rules and comfort levels vary all over the country and what you where able to do in Providence will get you thrown out of the club in Boston for example. Let the lady set the tone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by worldfamoustoddyepthatguy View Post
    First, is there a certain reaction girls expect from a guy from the effort of the dance?
    Yes. More dances and more tips.

    does staring at certain body parts excite you more than other areas?
    No, and no. However money is quite exciting.

    friends who claimed
    People lie. Sorry. No guy is going to brag to his buddies how he spent hundreds or thousands of dollars and didn't get off.

    They are going to brag that they got off, they got the stripper got off, and her lesbian lover, he got her phone number all for a $20 dance that she gave him for $10 because she thought he was hot and had a big package. AND she is skipping work on Friday night to go kick it him because she sees him more than just a guy in a strip club.

    Is it normal for guys to just reach male patterned hardness
    Yes.

    or actually to finish off?
    No.




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    Oh I think we all get it that a lap dance is a business transaction, you pay to play. But that said, seems the dancer would enjoy the atta boys of complementary banter. I often tell them how beautiful they are, how soft their skin, how gorgeous her shape, how good she is at what she does. I know it's all about the money, but geez, kindness is never out of place.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stripper Hacks View Post
    They are going to brag that they got off, they got the stripper got off, and her lesbian lover, he got her phone number all for a $20 dance that she gave him for $10 because she thought he was hot and had a big package. AND she is skipping work on Friday night to go kick it him because she sees him more than just a guy in a strip club.
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    First, is there a certain reaction girls expect from a guy from the effort of the dance?


    The most rewarding part was when he gave me my money!



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    Quote Originally Posted by bigmarv View Post
    Well with the right ATF dancer it can and does happen.
    Ok. I'm not mad or anything but I would like to say something.

    Let's call it what it is: Prostitution. I know, it's "extras"... but "extras" is prostitution. So I would say that these "dancers" who get dudes off during a dance, allow prostitution services etc are in fact not dancers, but prostitutes. Amd I get upset when I see them being championed constantly.

    Some dancers are prostitutes but not all prostitutes are dancers.

    Sorry I had a bad run in with one last week and it's still getting on my nerves. I almost beat the shit out of that girl.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stripper Hacks View Post
    Yes. More dances and more tips.


    People lie. Sorry. No guy is going to brag to his buddies how he spent hundreds or thousands of dollars and didn't get off.

    They are going to brag that they got off, they got the stripper got off, and her lesbian lover, he got her phone number all for a $20 dance that she gave him for $10 because she thought he was hot and had a big package. AND she is skipping work on Friday night to go kick it him because she sees him more than just a guy in a strip club.
    This killed me. I feel like I have read some incredible works of fiction on here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    Ok. I'm not mad or anything but I would like to say something.

    Let's call it what it is: Prostitution. I know, it's "extras"... but "extras" is prostitution. So I would say that these "dancers" who get dudes off during a dance, allow prostitution services etc are in fact not dancers, but prostitutes. Amd I get upset when I see them being championed constantly.

    Some dancers are prostitutes but not all prostitutes are dancers.

    Sorry I had a bad run in with one last week and it's still getting on my nerves. I almost beat the shit out of that girl.
    That's why I only pay the lady for her dances. I've never once asked a dancer for any extras.

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    The most rewarding part was when he gave me my money!
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    Quote Originally Posted by mcmillan View Post
    Oh I think we all get it that a lap dance is a business transaction, you pay to play. But that said, seems the dancer would enjoy the atta boys of complementary banter. I often tell them how beautiful they are, how soft their skin, how gorgeous her shape, how good she is at what she does. I know it's all about the money, but geez, kindness is never out of place.
    I'm sure most dancers would prefer the occasional complementary banter over,say, a sharp stick in the eye, but probably no more than anyone else doing customer service work.

    With all the bullshit they hear all day (both good & bad) , I'm sure after awhile alot of it is repetitive and starts sounding the same. Prolly hard to take too seriously after the gazillionth time hearing it.



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    Wow, you really can't win. All you hear from these strippers is "THE MONEY," and "Show me some respect." Okay I get it, She's 20 years old, spends 10 minutes out of an hour on stage, and the rest of her livelihood is derived is by grinding her ass on men's laps for the duration of a 4 minute song. And for the 4 minute ass grind she makes $20. If she's good at her game, knows how to market & hustle herself, it can be a lucrative gig. My hats off to 'em.

    I thought it was funny that you read over and over they're only there for the money, and could give a shit about being told they're beautiful. Oh but be sure and show them some respect. So is it disrespectful to say, "Bend over babe, love to see more of that ass?" I mean she knows that's what she's being paid the $20 bucks is for, to show the paying patron her nearly naked ass.

    Putting on her G-String is the equivalent to a nurse putting on her scrubs. Not sure who works harder or who makes more money. But you know the nurse is there for the money & the job satisfaction.

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    All you hear from these strippers is "THE MONEY," and "Show me some respect."
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    ^^^lol I get excited when hot guys are turned on... As in ones I'd be too shy to talk to in the real world. And cuming in ur pants or even letting me know u have a boner just makes me feel disgusting. Compliment me... I don't want to hear about ur penis.

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    Actually, if a good song is playing and I get in the zone, I find the dance pretty exciting. But it ain't because of you. I just get horny over how awesome I am.

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    Don't get me wrong, I admire a gal's sense of self who at 20 years of age has the balls to be a stripper, especially if she's good at it. They've figured out that men not only enjoy looking at women's asses, but will pay for the opportunity to do so.

    Social boundaries are porous in SC. You go out in public and women show up dressed to be noticed. They don't want you staring at their ass, but they want you to notice it. SC are different. She not only wants you looking at it, she's doing everything she can to enhance your view. For $20 you can't beat that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mcmillan View Post
    Wow, you really can't win. All you hear from these strippers is "THE MONEY," and "Show me some respect." Okay I get it, She's 20 years old, spends 10 minutes out of an hour on stage, and the rest of her livelihood is derived is by grinding her ass on men's laps for the duration of a 4 minute song. And for the 4 minute ass grind she makes $20. If she's good at her game, knows how to market & hustle herself, it can be a lucrative gig. My hats off to 'em.

    I thought it was funny that you read over and over they're only there for the money, and could give a shit about being told they're beautiful. Oh but be sure and show them some respect. So is it disrespectful to say, "Bend over babe, love to see more of that ass?" I mean she knows that's what she's being paid the $20 bucks is for, to show the paying patron her nearly naked ass.

    Putting on her G-String is the equivalent to a nurse putting on her scrubs. Not sure who works harder or who makes more money. But you know the nurse is there for the money & the job satisfaction.
    Ouch.

    I just started working so I'd love to hear anyone say that I look good. Although I definitely do not show it or let it affect me while I'm working, I'm really self conscious about being around the other girls who are working.

    I totally agree with the respect thing though.
    I'm not stripping to earn respect. Of all things, I know that when (if) I tell my friends and family I'll lose their respect. I could give a damn if some strip club guy respects me. I only expect that he pays me for the services I provide and that's all I need.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mcmillan View Post
    Don't get me wrong, I admire a gal's sense of self who at 20 years of age has the balls to be a stripper, especially if she's good at it. They've figured out that men not only enjoy looking at women's asses, but will pay for the opportunity to do so.

    Social boundaries are porous in SC. You go out in public and women show up dressed to be noticed. They don't want you staring at their ass, but they want you to notice it. SC are different. She not only wants you looking at it, she's doing everything she can to enhance your view. For $20 you can't beat that.
    Au contraire. Unless I am with my fellow, I usually wear his sweatpants and two layered wifebeaters during the day- for grocery shopping etc- and at night, I just wear jeans, a nice tshirt and my converse. When I am out with him, I want him to be proud of me. I really like that.

    But in general, I don't want men's attention. I'd rather do the picking and choosing. At work however, I get all flashy because yeah, I do want you to look at my body, because I want your $20.

    Also, about the respect thing: this is just my take but here's the deal. Yes, I want your patronage. No, I don't want you barking orders at me, I don't want to be spoken to in a sleazy manner and I expect you to respect my personal boundaries. Other than that, if you want to stare at my boobs and tell me I look nice- go for it. I'm ambivalent about compliments.

    Unless you were referring to civilian women, in which case my point is moot.

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