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    Hello there,

    I have an ongoing problem here at my club. I've been stripping for almost a year. And when I first started at this club, this girl started saying to everyone that I was giving hand jobs and such. Even to customers! First of all, it's so not true. That's gross. The manager saw it on tape that I wasn't doing anything, apologized to me for the girl's behavior and said it wouldn't happen again.

    Whell after about another 6 months, I thought thinkgs were going whell...just the occasional "she said" kind of crap but I can deal with that. But pretty much girls have been hating on me. I mean I don't make HUGE amounts of money, but I do make money on most nights. But I had this girl who started talking mad sh*t about me. Telling customers that I'm a pathological liar and stuff. I do do a lot of things outside of the club, school, ballet, soccer etc. And I guess they think that that's just not possible for a stripper to have a outside life. On top of that I have been undergoing chemotherapy.

    So these girls team up and start saying how I couldn't have done chemo and stuff and saying I don't have cancer. That hurts. It's a real sensitive subject, having cancer and it's been such an impacter in my life that I feel the drive to go out and do a lt of things with my life. And it hurt so bad to hear that girls were being so mean to me about it. I mean, you can doubt that I'm a ballerins, doubt that I'm fgoing to school but the hurtful things to say about the cancer...they have NO business. They actually didn't even know until recently when I went home throwing up and dizzy and sick from a chemo day.

    I don't even know what to do. Another well respected dancer talked to my manager in hopes that he'll do something about the one girl who started saying that to customers. But the rest of the girls have teamed up and shared stories about me. Just because the one girl is gone, doesn't mean that the rumors won't perpetuate. Ad it normally wouldn't effect me except for the fact that customers are being involved and I could be losing money because of it.

    I'm not a bi*ch, I don't fight or confront and I'm getting walked over because of it. I will drop the next bi*ch who says anything.

    But I need some outside input or advice, please tell me I'm not alone in this. Help, I'm so miserable I've come home crying on numerous occasions.

    Thank you so much,
    Kami

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    Sweetheart, all I'm going to tell you is to ignore it or go to a different club. Girls hate and most of the time you can't do anything about it, unless you leave and they will take that as a win for them. I will tell you to keep your head high and not think about it. I have learned a long long time ago that its something you should sorrow for them, not for you. People that attack others like that usually means something is wrong with them, and they can't handle it so they attack others they know they will hurt.

    Just act like its nothing, be brave and just smile. With time it will show they can't fuck with you anymore and it will scare them, making them try but with no win. In the end they will realize they can't, they will shut their mouths and only give the dirty look to you and small comments you can kill with a smile.

    *hugs* I been thru this too many times to count, its not something to get yourself kick out for by screaming at or hitting someone even though it tempting..

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    Quote Originally Posted by DesuvsDeath View Post
    This is why I never really try to befriend other girls.
    It seems to turn out that way a lot when you let them know personal things.

    Not always. And it seems okay to make a friend or two... but when everyone knows your business... this seems to be what normally follows.
    Agreed.

    There are headcases amongst you. You can't trust them. It can get much worse than this.

    Don't tell people in the club your business.

    Girls who are being treated badly and are in bad situations naturally turn against anyone who has something they want. They are deprived. Don't tempt them. Empathy means thinking of the other person. If there are girls amongst you that have it rough, then you going to college and doing ballet may sound like bragging to them. And now when your chips are down, you are going to get ransacked. It's dog-eat-dog. Then you have the girls who are just catty because they choose it. etc. etc. etc. I mean, you've got a rainbow selection of disorders, issues, situations, backgrounds, intelligences, etc. If you open your mouth too much, you are bound to piss someone off. Same with the customers.

    Ignore it until it goes away. But try not to be hurt by people who are hurting or foolish - psychology can be unkind. Beating people up isn't the answer either. I had some bitches who did this to me as well, I just ignored it and it went away. Once they realize you don't care, they stop doing it and move on to the next "victim".
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    ^^ I agree with what's been said.

    Also - and take this from someone who learned the hard way - it's best not to share all of the honest details of your life with your coworkers at the club. It just opens the door for someone to use it against you.

    If they don't know about your personal life, hobbies, family, health, etc, they can't twist it or lie about it.

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    success is the best revenge. Just keep your head up, and keep making money......... And ignore those bitches. You come to work to make money, not friends.

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    No wonder they're talking shit, they can only wish they had what you have. Just know that if any of them had your problems, then they'd be sitting at home garnering sympathy from everyone around them, using their condition as an excuse to get what they want from everyone they know. Instead of doing that, you continue on with your life, you continue to work, and you do it well. Don't let these jealous bitches get you down since you are miles above them in every way.

    Really, anyone who makes light of someone having cancer isn't worth stressing yourself over. And your customers probably understand that.. Everyone knows someone who had or still has cancer. If anything, they're probably doing you a favor by showing your customers what they are really like. And being a catty bitch isn't sexy.

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    I agree, don't tell others at the club details about your personal life. at smaller clubs I have girls I am friends with but at big, high hustle clubs, it almost always backfires. I have been sabatoged before- I told a girl some personal details and she told customers where my day job was, something i didnt want, and then talked shit to me about the club owner, making up lies about stuff he said trying to get me pissed off so I would quit.

    it sucks but you just cant trust girls in the club. they are cut throat. I would switch to a new club and try keeping to yourself at that one, things will be a lot better. and you will have more energy to focus on making money, not being upset with other girls! I bet you'll make WAY more $$$ if you get out of there.

    ETA- on girls talking shit about you to customers, most of the time it just makes THEM look bad. guys hate to see girls being catty and complaining, they get enough of that at home! keep your head up.

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    Ignore it.

    I tell myself, the more everybody hates you the better you're doing your job. And it's true.

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    Switch clubs and tell no one about your personal life. Hell, the only person in my club who knows my real name or anything about me that isn't fabricated is the door girl and my one friend. A lot of the girls at clubs are fucking bonkers. Don't give them any power by giving them information.

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    i don't think i can add anything in terms of advice because everyone above responded beautifully, but i just wanted to wish you good luck and i'll pray that everything goes better for you.
    fuck le osap

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    yet another tread with a persecution complex . . . so ironic

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    Was wondering when this was going to get dug up.
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    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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