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    I just made one of those newbe mistakes and it had major repercussions. I ran into a hysterical girl in the dressing room Monday night more like Tuesday Morning. She claimed her boyfriend was stalking her. I felt bad and to my credit I have known girls and had it happen to me where unwanted individuals show up at the club. I stupidly took pity on her and offered her the extra room in my apt for the night so she could sober up. We got about halfway to my apartment when a guy pops up, “coincidently” she met him at the club. Apparently she didn’t want to sleep anything off she wanted to bring him over. Yeah getting robbed raped and chopped up into little stripper bits isn’t my idea of a good time. So I gave her the choice come home with me ALONE, call your boyfriend, or go with some random guy. She chose door number three.

    The next day I had her boyfriend calling me saying she had been raped and then disappeared. I had to talk to the police and explain what happened. I was actually worried that she might have been killed. No she is alive and well (not mentally) and at work tonight. I guess she was pissed off that I told her BF and the police what really happened instead of covering for her (I was supposed to pretend she was sleeping at my place). Sorry I figured it was a tad more important to tell the truth then lie if her safety was at stake. Well she told the manager that I was meeting men out of the club and caused her to get raped. I was suspended and told that they had to review the videotapes. I chose to quit. I’m a clean dancer and I don’t want to be branded as a prostitute. It is sad because I really liked my job and I liked the girls there. Maybe I should have let them review stuff but it just was such a blow- I make money for the club, I’m professional and clean and the other girl had only worked a few days.
    I guess this serves as a reminder that no matter how many cool strippers you meet there is always a bad seed. If you don’t know someone don’t let them borrow your cell, tell their BF they’re with you, or offer them shelter. I don’t know if I should try talking to the general manager tomorrow or just walk away from the club. Any thoughts?
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    Default Re: I'm stupid: No good deed goes unpunished

    its a shitty thing to appenm but dont burn your bridges go and talk to the general manager and take any eveidence to support your story, any thing from the police and your mobile phone records etc. otherwise that girl os going to get off scot free while your name gets dragged through the mud x

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    I like to fight for it but reading this.. I would just move to another club, while he reviews the tapes. This is going to create real stalkers, people that will push hard for extras, your stuff going missing or extra ending up in you bag or locker. I'm a nice, kind person but I will not help out a fellow worker unless I know more about her than her real name. I'm also an asshole at the same time.. Its why I bring a camera. I had someone one time try to use me as a way to fling another man, took one picture with them together when she wanted to leave with him and said have fun.
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    I do have a lot of texts from her and her boyfriend. I also got the guys number she left with. I actually made him call me so I would have his number and he would be discouraged to do anything to her. I also might go to the bar I left her at because I made a big deal about the bartender not giving her anymore liquor. I'm having more trouble figuring out which cop I spoke to as he called me on the girls BF's phone. It burns me that I went above and beyond to try and keep this chick safe and I might lose my reputation.
    The manager that suspended me seemed to already have an issue with me. She's weird if I have bad night she'll be sweet as pie yet if I sell expensive champagne rooms she'll claim I did something wrong selling it IDK?
    Before now I had a good reputation there and I'd hate to lose it over some vindictive dancer who has only worked a few times and is always sloppy drunk. I got along well with the staff and the other girls. My best friend and roommate also works there. Another issue is that the club is part of a chain and I'm pretty sure if I'm branded as a prostitute I won't be hirable at their other clubs.

    I can't believe I was so dumb. I thought I was helping a girl escape a psycho and here she just wanted to meet up with a customer. What was I thinking ugh!
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    Default Re: I'm stupid: No good deed goes unpunished

    In this business you can expect anything...and don't be surprised when it happens.

    You will know as time passes whether or not you can continue to work in this place.

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    Wow, its really sad that you are being punished for trying to do what most good people would do. Its good that you have a good rep there in the past. I don't want to see you blacklisted from this chain. I think you should call for a meeting with the management and really explain your side of the story. That girl is going to keep getting into problems and if they lose you they really lose a good entertainer with a heart of gold. That other girl will just get deeper in crap. Please don't go in the meeting with an "attitude" you for sure need to kiss some ass not because you should but just because. If things don't go the way you expect you should still be "nice" to the management because once they figure out whats really going on, I am sure they would love to have you back. Just remember that strip clubs don't like to have to deal with the police and that girl who is new and scandalous may be a really good actress covering her ass. I am sorry this happened to you.

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    I would just leave for a few months, then if you want to go back, do it. It's not worth the feeling uncomfortable at work.
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    Default Re: I'm stupid: No good deed goes unpunished

    while i wouldn't want to work there as long as that other girl was still there, i'd still gather the evidence (phone records, eye witness accounts) and present it to the manager. Prove your innocence, by just leaving alot of people will take it as a sign of guilt. I can't believe that girl did that to you!

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    I think I'm going to talk to the GM I heard he might be in today. Honestly I probably wouldn't even notice if I was working with that girl it is a big club and she looks exactly like this other dancer (who is awesome) lol. Plus I'm not into starting fights and I could careless if someone doesn't like me. I'm just going to keep a level head and explain what happened. I'm not going to blame the manager that suspended me or suggest she hates me. That sounds too petty and I'm sure he doesn't want to hear drama. I really just don't want my reputation ruined and it would be nice to have the option of still dancing there but I'm definitely looking into other clubs.
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    There was a girl who did this to a pair of girls at my old club...

    The three of them went on a trip to dance in Vegas... and she claimed that on the last night there... they drugged her, stole all the money she'd made, and then let a string of guys rape her for money.

    Everyone believed her and the other girls were fired and blacklisted...

    A month or so later... she was arrested for prostitution.
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    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DesuvsDeath View Post
    There was a girl who did this to a pair of girls at my old club...

    The three of them went on a trip to dance in Vegas... and she claimed that on the last night there... they drugged her, stole all the money she'd made, and then let a string of guys rape her for money.

    Everyone believed her and the other girls were fired and blacklisted...

    A month or so later... she was arrested for prostitution.
    Thats really scary. I talked to the day manager yesterday he was much more understanding but he doesn't have much power. I think she may have actually accused me from stealing from her in the dressing room. The day manager only said he heard something about a robbery. I at first thought she claimed maybe the guy at the bar robbed and raped her. But the dressing room thing makes more sense. I couldn't figure out why they needed to check the cameras (which we have in the dressing room).
    I also checked my call log on the internet she called the customer a half hour before she caller her BF. She planned to meet him and basically set me up hoping I'd cover for her. I'm hoping the cameras clear everything up.
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    Those situations really fucking suck.

    I agree that you should at least speak with the main manager and tell him what really happened, even if you have no intention of working there again. If the girl is this nuts, chances are they're at least somewhat aware of it, and an explanation from you will probably clear some things up.

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    Thanks guys for responding and giving me support. I just found out I'm not suspended and welcome to go back to work. Apparently the main manager and the general manager had a meeting about whatever I was accused of (which is still a mystery) and found me "not guilty". I'm so relieved!! I just wanted to share and thank everyone who posted. I love this site.
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    Excellent!!! I had once gotten into a rough situation where personal allegiances were put on the line because I chose to help someone who ultimately wasn't really looking for help so I know first had how difficult that can be to deal with. I'm glad your boss was able to see the truth.

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    I am glad that everything worked out for you in the end! I don't think you were stupid. You just made a mistake that you won't make again anytime soon. It happened to me at my first club. I didn't get suspended but the GM was pissy with me.

    I slipped up the other day by allowing a dancer to use my phone to call her phone ( I don't know she caught me off guard talking to someone and I thought she was looking for it.). A few minutes had passed and shes talking to her bf on my prepaid phone (with 30 mins left on it)!

    It was just a friendly reminder.

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    You are a really sweet girl for doing that, such a shame that there are sociopaths in this world out to destroy decent people. Thanks for sharing, and reminding us to always look out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by taylormadison View Post
    I am glad that everything worked out for you in the end! I don't think you were stupid. You just made a mistake that you won't make again anytime soon. It happened to me at my first club. I didn't get suspended but the GM was pissy with me.

    I slipped up the other day by allowing a dancer to use my phone to call her phone ( I don't know she caught me off guard talking to someone and I thought she was looking for it.). A few minutes had passed and shes talking to her bf on my prepaid phone (with 30 mins left on it)!

    It was just a friendly reminder.
    Seriously? She asked to use your phone to call her phone... so she could chat it up with her boyfriend?
    Wth? That's so misleading. Definately not cool.
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    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    Her story: bf had her phone at home with him b/c he was watching her kid.

    This thread is on the $! No good deed goes unpunished (especially in a SC)!

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