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    the other day i just burst into tears after leaving my club and cried the whole way home, (thank god my bf was there)

    i'm new at a gown club in the city, and it seemed like a really clean club. i sold a vip room on my first night to a fucking pervert who literally would NOT stop touching me. i'd hold his hands away and he'd keep trying to stick his fingers down my thong, until he succeeded and i told him, youre getting an airdance now okay? he pretended he was sorry and leaned way back on the couch. as i start to sit next to him, he slid down and tried to LIFT my hips to his FACE. i told him i do not do that and he bitched for the remaining 15 minutes, i dont think ive been this upset since i was abused in high school. the champaigne girl intensely dislikes me, i have no idea why, so i knew she wouldnt have helped. i sobbed the whole way home...i felt so trapped, if id called for help, they wouldve apologized to him AND i wouldve lost the money, plus risk getting fired for making the club lose money.

    next night of work, another champaigne room. i enforced the no touching early on and let him talk dirty, but towards the end he bit my nipple. i refused to dance for him and he gave me... a $40 apology tip. my last dance of the night another man grabbed my boobs/buttcheeks during a dance then said, i come to this club because they allow touching. 3rd night, too scared to sell champaigne rooms, i sat next to a girl who told me that most girls do kissing back there. to top it all off, champaigne girl comes and tells me to get off the couch because girls shouldnt sit next to each other, it makes the managers mad. well, where the fuck do i sit? there were like 6 drunkish guys in the club and no girls are allowed in the dressing room.

    i went to 1 of the drunkish men who said, youre too pretty to work here. before i even offer him a dance he tries to grab my boob and asks how much i'll let him touch.i told him if he did that again the bouncer would hit him, and even if he didnt id smack him for it. he left the room.

    it went on. there were some guys who were sweet, like tipping me for just talking, but mostly it was a hard hustle and i barely made tip out yesterday.

    i feel so disgusting and angry, im thinking about transferring to another club but i dont think theyre hiring, plus a girl i work with thinks this club is too strict.

    this is a long rant, and im sorry, i just need any kind of advice or something.

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    Default Re: im about to hit someone really hard..

    Sometimes clubs that seem really clean aren't, it happens... But there are plenty of other clubs out there!

    If you're not comfortable stopping dances where customers can't follow the rules and are doing things beyond your comfort zone for fear of getting fired... it's time to get out! And go find a club that's a better match for you. There are plenty of clubs out there! You don't have to stay at this one! Especially if you're barely making tip out because you're scared to sell cr's.

    Sorry to hear about your bad experience.
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    i agree with the above. Any club that makes you completely miserable ain't worth it. I'd say it's time to start looking for a new one.

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    I feel your pain. I hate to feel trapped and abused. Yesterday I was reflecting on past experiences, and I could've had guys arrested for some of the shit they've done! I would take a few days off, go do something as non stripperish as possible to help balance you out, that's what works for me when I start to feel really upset like this. I just go to church, sometimes twice a day, I know that's not for everybody, but it works for me, and makes me feel better about myself. Do you have dogs? Maybe you could try going on a hike, or just doing something serene like that. I feel like solitude in nature is very therapeutic.

    In the long run though, it's always great to have back up clubs to work at. In case one club is really pissing you off, you can go somewhere else for a while. I hope you feel better! Don't let these assholes at work get to you sweetie!
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    thank you j.d. your advice helps a lot, and its funny because i was considering both adopting my friend's puppy and going to church this week. im trying to keep my head up high.

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    jeez. im sorry ur first week was like that.. whew, u got thru it tho!

    lord i pray my week isnt going to be lke that. id punch a fool in the balls if he tries to touch my punan.

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    Oh honey, I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.
    I definitely agree that you should find a different club. No amount of money is worth you feeling so angry and used and dirty. And there are plenty of clubs out there. You encounter douchebags every now and again, but it's certainly not the norm.

    I'd take a few days to unwind. Take a bubble bath and listen to one of those stupid Environmental New Age CD's, like "Serene Rainstorm" or "Tranquil Brook" or something. Have some hot chocolate or hot apple cider. Curl up and read a fluffy romance novel or a book you used to read when you were younger. Then when you feel whole again, look for another club to work at.

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    I started at a new club about two months ago. I think the first week was the hardest because all of the crappiest customers try their worst on the new girls becase they hope that they can get away stuff. These are the ones the regalar girls won't even bother with on a slow night. My favorite was the guy that told me he only buys dances if he can lick some pussy.

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    That really sucks honey. If you continue to work there try being firmer with the customers. I find that lying helps when dealing with clubs that don't enforce rules. I'll tell customers that cameras are EVERYWHERE especially in the champagne room and that a bouncer will come running in if his hand so much as grazes a boob. I make it seem like he is practically breaking the law by touching a knee. I've also told men the clubs get raided frequently and girls have been fired for letting guys grab them. It is easier to lie when you're in a tourist area (I'm in one) because so many people don't know the rules or if clubs are targeted by police.
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    Welcome to stripping.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarletRose View Post
    My favorite was the guy that told me he only buys dances if he can lick some pussy.
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    i cant stand the extras bs and its getting worse lately because of the economy, girls are doing whatever they can to get a "dance" and its miserable for the girls who actually are straight and clean. i am having the same problem right now, all the clubs in this town are filled with girls doing extras and girls that are so fucked up its embarassing to even work with them. i know extras are everywhere but it feels like its gotten worse in the past couple months and i am thiking about doing some traveling so i can get a taste of some clubs outside of the city i live in. i feel your pain, the only thing i try to do when that happens is tell them that they cant touch, i often tell guys that there are cameras in some of the dance rooms too if they start the touching shit and wont cooperate and respect my standards. if they are being filthy and raunchy you can get a bouncer and/or stop the dance on your own. i have never had a guy push me to the ppoint that i have had to stop a dance. knock on wood, however i have gotten very angry with them to the point that i will be giving an air dance. or i will just sit on their lap and start talking.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KiwiStrawberry Splenda View Post
    Welcome to stripping.
    Aw. It doesn't necessarily have to be that way.

    And to the OP: Hold their hands. Firmly. That's what I do if they start getting grabby. And they get one warning. DO NOT BE AFRAID OF THEM. You're wearing two awesome weapons, and also they can sense if they are intimidating you.

    Sounds like your management sucks. Now that I'm at a place where the management is good, and involved, I feel tons better. Last week I asked my manager about a gross customer and was like "L, would you fire me if I beat the shit out of him." He smiled at me and goes "Yes. Because that's my job."

    There are good places out there. I don't know where you're located but have you consider travelling or relocating?

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    traveling isnt an option right now for a lot of reasons. i really do like this job, but the management at my place sucks. ive been told by a few guys that management tells them touching is allowed (after im like, omg, youre going to get in trouble, theres cameras) and i didnt believe them until i was giving a dance. the champaigne hostess came over and told the guy he should go to vip with me because "a lot more touching is allowed back there". um, no, not from me.

    there are nice custies here, i had 1 guy just talk for an hour in the room about random things. right now i just turn down the grabby guys for rooms until i can start looking for another place this week.

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