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    Question How do you remain gracious during a VERY unproductive night?

    I know that these nights happen.
    But sometimes, on some nights- I have a very hard time coming to terms with the amount of energy expended without the having the $$$ to show for it.
    Last night was one of these nights.
    Ususally I am a very positive person, but when I only have $200 in my purse, I have to go into this crampy-face-fake-smile-mode and at that point, I know that I am more or less sealing the fate of a bad night.
    The irony.
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    Default Re: How do you remain gracious during a VERY unproductive night?

    When I have a shitty night, I calculate the amount of money I made per hour (in basic terms...so yours would be $200/8 hours or whatever). I ALWAYS make more than what I would anywhere else right now (at a 'normal' job). Even if I've made a paltry amount compared to what I usually make, it's still good money!

    Also, I'd recommend putting it into perspective. Lots of women would be happy to make $200 a night right now. Cultivate humility!

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    Default Re: How do you remain gracious during a VERY unproductive night?

    That's so funny that you say that. I have been dancing on and off for years.
    And when I first got into it again this time around, my mantra in the bathroom mirror was something to the tune of:
    "Smile, it's not personal, be humble"
    I kind of hate that I lost sight of that.
    Thanks for your advice, I needed that.

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    Default Re: How do you remain gracious during a VERY unproductive night?

    Consider your nights at work a scavenger hunt. Concentrate on moving around to as many 'money-pots' (custys) as possible. Don't think of the dollar amount, think of it like: you have x amount of hours to ask as many people as you can for as much of their money as you can cull. Then, don't stop and keep track of exactly how much you are tallying but, rather, who else is there in the room to hustle or re-hustle until the lights come on and the club is closing.

    Other than making sure you're getting the correct amount with each guy, keeping too on top of your total will impede you from aiming higher, whether you are consciously aware of it or not.

    A forced smile is worse than a pleasant but neutral expression. Once you're in direct conversation with each guy, smile when they are saying things which are leading in the direction of a sale. Your smile then becomes a 'reward' for their good behavior! Then it'll instinctively get bigger and bigger the higher the $ amount and the more frequently you are closing each sale. ;P

    Good luck!

    p.s.: If the night is just really dragging in general, try watching silly movies or looking at pictures of animals, etc before work that make you smile. Then when work begins to test your patience, you can bring those images into your mind and push the negative energy away from you.
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    Default Re: How do you remain gracious during a VERY unproductive night?

    I think back to the time I had to work as a waitress at a horrible restaurant where people were mean to me (customers) and I would go home with $23 in tips on top of minimum wage. Ended up being like $60 for the whole shift.

    That thought was enough to shake me out of any funk I had as a stripper. It also helped to go work at a new club for a while. Out of town trips were great for getting my hustle back in shape.


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    Default Re: How do you remain gracious during a VERY unproductive night?

    Yep, I do the per-hour thing too... it helps me to remember that I'm still doing much better than most of my friends etc, especially while I'm still in school. And also, if I have a crappy amount, it helps for me to think positive in terms of how valuable sticking it out for just a few more custies could be. For example, if I've been there for 6 hours and only have $150, thats $25/hour. If I could go out to the floor and get just one guy to buy a couple of dances, that goes up to $230, which is $38/hour. Keeping up your mood for just a few more guys could bump up your hourly rate really well.

    Also, I find that sometimes the humbleness factor can be appealing to custies. I've had quite a few times when custies have bought me a drink and asked how the nights going etc, and I've been all smiles and said something like 'ahh, not so good tonight, but can't complain. Gotta take the good with the bad! ' and its turned into them telling me I have a great attitude, and maybe they should help me out with a dance/tip.

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    Default Re: How do you remain gracious during a VERY unproductive night?

    You just have to fake it. Often times, if you fake a smile, just putting it on puts you in a better mood and eventually you will forget why you were faking it in the first place.

    But if that doesn't work, it always helps to have money in the bank or at home that you can think in your head "well, even though I didn't do as well as I'd like tonight, at least I still have money at home." If you don't have this, you tend to get desparate and get into "omg I need money mode" and as soon as you slip into that, you can kiss your moneymaking ability goodbye cuz men can smell your desparation from miles and miles away.

    The key to staying gracious is to remind yourself that you ARENT desparate and even if you only make $200, that's $200 more than you had at the beginning of your shift and it's definately more than you expended coming to the club, so it's all good. Just don't stress, and look at dancing as a long term money maker, not JUST night to night earnings.

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    Default Re: How do you remain gracious during a VERY unproductive night?

    I just tell myself don't stress because it's the biggest money killer. I tell myself tonight is f*cked so no point fussing. Do a shot at the bar. Talk to a girl or regular who always makes me laugh, then pretend I'm in party mode... Once I'm relaxed again I'm ready to give it another go.

    I also think of it as numbers rather than $$$. Like I can't take a break until I've talked to at least 8 guys. It is very rare to get 8 "nos" in a row. Actually, I don't think it's ever happened.

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    Default Re: How do you remain gracious during a VERY unproductive night?

    Quote Originally Posted by black_widow View Post
    even if you only make $200, that's $200 more than you had at the beginning of your shift and it's definately more than you expended coming to the club
    Very true too!! The amount of money you make from a night at the club, will always be higher than the money you make vegging out watching tv!


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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    When I have a shitty night, I calculate the amount of money I made per hour (in basic terms...so yours would be $200/8 hours or whatever). I ALWAYS make more than what I would anywhere else right now (at a 'normal' job). Even if I've made a paltry amount compared to what I usually make, it's still good money!

    Also, I'd recommend putting it into perspective. Lots of women would be happy to make $200 a night right now. Cultivate humility!
    This, and just consider it paying your dues. You have to work some crappy nights to make sure you don't miss out on the big nights. If you don't play you're never going to hit the jackpot but you gotta take the wins with the losses.

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    Default Re: How do you remain gracious during a VERY unproductive night?

    Lagging nights i judge my success by the random shit i collect.
    One night i made $80 but on top of that i scored a purple ribbon, a bra a friend of mine gave to me, and an extra $10 in random gold coinage.

    plus a few shots to take the edge off....
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    Quote Originally Posted by LuckyOne View Post
    This, and just consider it paying your dues. You have to work some crappy nights to make sure you don't miss out on the big nights. If you don't play you're never going to hit the jackpot but you gotta take the wins with the losses.
    this is 100% how i feel! i always talk about playing and winning the lottery. esp at my club with the extremely high tip outs. we tip out so much and have such varied nights its sadly common for girls to occasionally walk out with $0 or even slightly negative. which is embarrassing. but then i also made 3k net one night last week. and over $500 the other two nights i worked. not that that's amazing, but to me it makes the shitty night worth it. i feel like paying my house fee is like buying my lottery ticket.

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    Default Re: How do you remain gracious during a VERY unproductive night?

    I have a lot of problems with this... if my night starts off good, it tends to continue that way, but if it starts of bad it often seems to continue that way as well.

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    You just have to look at it as a loss, the same things that happen in the stock market. Hit or miss! It's a business and you just need to be ready for anything and also have a back up plan in case the first one fails. When you do make money you need to be grateful to the man upstairs and when you don't make money you still need to be grateful to the man up stairs. Be grateful for what you do and don't have. THat's how I've always looked at it because it could always get a little worse.
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    Default Re: How do you remain gracious during a VERY unproductive night?

    Quote Originally Posted by audrey_k View Post
    I have a lot of problems with this... if my night starts off good, it tends to continue that way, but if it starts of bad it often seems to continue that way as well.
    this is EXACTLY why I teach strategies how to Maintain the SuperStripper Zone! If you can't control your emotions, you can't control your MONEY!
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    Quote Originally Posted by LuckyOne View Post
    This, and just consider it paying your dues. You have to work some crappy nights to make sure you don't miss out on the big nights. If you don't play you're never going to hit the jackpot but you gotta take the wins with the losses.
    If you aren't there, you might not run into that customer that says I want you and whisks you away to do a jillion dances. Take everything in stride. It really does even out.

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    Since I started using the DancerWealth program, I've been a diehard fan of one of the techniques: whenever a guy asks, "So how are you?" I say, "I'm fantastic!" Even on the dead nights when there's nobody there. Because I guarantee all the other girls have been bitching to him about how slow the night is, and how they're not making any money. Even when I'm having the worst night of my life, I still say, "I'm fantastic!" Not, "I'm good," or, "I'm okay," or, "Eh, it's really dead." And saying this seems to make the most difference on the nights where it's really not true at all. The guys seem pleasantly surprised at my positive attitude, and they're much more likely to buy.

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    Default Re: How do you remain gracious during a VERY unproductive night?

    Also keep in mind no1 likes a boring/broke/irritated chick. when things jack up your night take a min take a deep breath and think positive one way to do it is carry yourself around like you would anyother night where u have made 1000 or 500, or got that hour. once you think positive positive things happen. once you accept failure there is no way out of it and you might as well give up.

    Its been plenty of times the whole night for whatever reason i have no money, keep running into those i want to spend on u outside the club and other bs'ers but i take a moment and think positive and as soon as that happens in comes in that 1 person or persons that make my night

    *its always that one person that can make your night
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    Quote Originally Posted by london View Post
    Consider your nights at work a scavenger hunt. Concentrate on moving around to as many 'money-pots' (custys) as possible. Don't think of the dollar amount, think of it like: you have x amount of hours to ask as many people as you can for as much of their money as you can cull. Then, don't stop and keep track of exactly how much you are tallying but, rather, who else is there in the room to hustle or re-hustle until the lights come on and the club is closing.
    hahahaha, while reading this, i kept imagining this video game scenario, where the stripper is a little 8-bit pixel figure, and the "money pots" are little unhappy faces with dollar signs over their heads...LAP DANCE ATTACK!! hahahahahaha.

    okay sorry it's just really early in the morning for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by firemaiden04 View Post
    Since I started using the DancerWealth program, I've been a diehard fan of one of the techniques: whenever a guy asks, "So how are you?" I say, "I'm fantastic!" Even on the dead nights when there's nobody there. Because I guarantee all the other girls have been bitching to him about how slow the night is, and how they're not making any money. Even when I'm having the worst night of my life, I still say, "I'm fantastic!" Not, "I'm good," or, "I'm okay," or, "Eh, it's really dead." And saying this seems to make the most difference on the nights where it's really not true at all. The guys seem pleasantly surprised at my positive attitude, and they're much more likely to buy.
    I do this too, I haven't taken DancerWealth but I picked up the habit on the job because I noticed that it has a much better outcome.

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    Default Re: How do you remain gracious during a VERY unproductive night?

    i get this way when i'm getting "burnt out"...otherwise, after a break away from dancing for a few days i can tolerate a crappy day better...

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    LOL, Surprise...! I re-read my post and now I can't get the image of Pac man eating all the bots....So funny.....hee hee... ;P

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