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    Question ...frustrated...

    This is kind of going to be a vent, but I'd really appreciate some advice on dealing with this. And this will be kind of long, but I'll do my best to make it to-the-point.

    The club I work at is the only club I've ever worked at, and it's most definitely the best one in the area, and I live so close to it. It's a topless club, but not topless within a 6-foot radius of a "customer area," which means we can only be topless on the back part of the stage. We don't take our tops off for any dances. Private dances are 1 for $25, 3 for $60, plus tip. We are not allowed to request any specific amount for tip, though the average is $20-$30 per song (basically, however much they pay for the dance is how much they should tip us, cause we don't really get that money). "Table" dances are just for tips, and the average is $5-10 per dance. This is very low contact. They're not really allowed to touch, though they can touch arms or legs or back, etc. No ass grabbing, no tit grabbing, and certainly no crotch grabbing. We're allowed to grind in the private dances, but not during the table dances. There is no champagne room--just "VIP" which a group will buy by-the-hour, though no dances or female companionship is included in that. We just wander in to give them dances.

    It used to be that this club had phenomenal earning potential. Then the economy went bad, but we could still make decent money, though certainly not the incredible amount we used to. Now the club seems to be going to shit. The bouncers aren't really doing their job anymore; if we go tell them that a guy grabbed us, or that he stole money out of our garter/g-string, they won't really do anything. They'll just be like, "just stay away from him," or, "if he does it again, come get me." They used to be on top of this shit. Now it's like they're just lazy. And these are mainly the same bouncers that have been here since I started two years ago. We only have one decent bouncer anymore. And I can't understand what changed, because the policies haven't. It's like they all lost their balls.

    We have more and more and more girls scheduled every night, as I'm sure every club is doing, because they get more house fees. The quality of girls has severely deteriorated. Most of the girls are unattractive or unkempt or incredibly annoying or very standoffish with the customers, or any combination of the above. They have a schedule, but say there's 7 girls scheduled, and then at 9:00 we have 11 girls on. And they say it's not allowed, but the DJ claims he's not allowed to send girls home. And the manager isn't there all the time. And when he is, the girls can walk all over him. So it's like everyone (including management) is saying, "she's not allowed to be here," but then no one will tell her, "you weren't scheduled, go home."

    There's drama, too, but that's to be expected and I can deal with it.

    It's just that the rules haven't changed, but everyone's willingness to enforce the rules has. Everyone says it's the responsibility of someone else; no one is willing to step up to the plate. The clientele has severely deteriorated. We get more and more young guys who are assholes and won't tip. This weekend was awful. I ended up making okay money, but certainly nothing impressive, and I felt like shit after each shift. I feel so stressed.

    I love this job, I love doing this, and I'm fond of my club. I just feel like it's taking more and more out of me. This is really only this week, too. I made shit money on Wednesday. Friday I did decent, but I hustled the shit out of every last dollar, and I actually told a guy off, which I've never done. Last night I did okay, but once again, it was a terrible, sparse, cheap crowd that was disrespectful and offensive. Last week I did much better. It's just that I can no longer expect to bank. It's so hit or miss. There are nights when I make $70 and KNOW that there was no way I could have made any more money. Because I try. I hustle now, and I never used to. It's just that this huge combination of things--the bouncers and management wussing out, the customers being degrading, and the money drying up--is really getting me down. If it was just one or even two of these things, I wouldn't be stressed, cause shit happens, and this too shall pass, and all that. But all of this is just getting me down. I'm not going to go to another club cause I know for a fact it's worse everywhere else.

    I guess I just need a pep talk on how to deal with this and wait it out. Cause I know it will get better soon. I just want to be able to keep my sanity until then.

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    Default Re: ...frustrated...

    First off you sound a little burnt out. I am too, so I know the feeling. I've been coming home exhausted and achey and completely miserable. I'm taking the week off and possibly the week after this too. It's halloween and not likely to get any better atm. I suggest some time off, and some pampering. Go to the spa. Go out with friends. Do stuff that keeps you out of work mode and in your "happy place". You need to rejuvenate yourself. It's important, especially in this job.

    Also, is it possible to switch clubs? Even for only a month or 2? I just did that and while I loved my last club more than where Im currently at, it's still a huge relief to just have a change of scenery.
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