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    Lightbulb You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    Last night a guy approached me for a lapdance and back we went to the dark circle of couches (we don't have an actual VIP room, just a curtained off section).

    Right away his hands started wandering to the no-no places, and as I started to think {must get away..}, before I started to react he said "wow your ass feels so great" and without hardly even thinking about it, I replied with "heyyyy you're not supposed to know what it feels like" with a sexy almost innocent "woopsies" sort of tone and a giggle, and slid his hands up to my hips. I ended up getting 5 more dances out of him, for $120 total. I somehow turned this potentially annoying and distressful situation into a wonderful memorable one

    I figured I'd post this since it may be helpful, as well as ask what YOU have done to thwart wandering hands and still get a few dances from the guy? This can be on stage, during PDs, or even just walking the floors.

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    Of course.. happens all the time. I always do the "don't be a naughty boy *giggle*" BS. Or just try to dodge the hands. I don't actually care about someone touching my ass. The only reason I stop them is out of respect for the rules and the other dancers. I think it should be fair for everyone. The only thing that stresses me is if they try to kiss me on my mouth or boobs or if they try to touch my poonani. If they do think I just jump up, get dressed and tell a bouncer. (not that it happens much, but once or twice).

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    I've tried actually telling men they can't touch me/do whatever dirty ass thing they're trying to do in several different ways... they never get a dance after...
    Then I tried just moving their hands or dodging them... and found that as long as I don't actually say "you can't do that"... they'll keep dancing for a while... even though I'm not letting them touch it.
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    I see it more like deflecting. You take what they're doing and turn it around on them. Comes in for a kiss? Give him a little nuzzly-nudge. It keeps the -tease- part there while at the same time you're telling him "tee hee you can't do that" without actually saying it. and it will drive him absolutely crazy

    I had a guy try and bite my neck on Tuesday, that was a bit odd/annoying. He only did it once tho, otherwise I probably would have gotten up. Once you start inflicting pain on me I'm not sticking around, I don't care how many bills you fan out.

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    I make it very difficult for them to touch me in no-no areas, and if they are figuring out a way to I switch to a different position. If all else fails, I just try to distract them by grinding harder or shoving my boobs in their face. This works most of the time.

    If it gets to the point I have to say something, I start nice with "oh I would love for you to do that but the bouncers check and I could fired... we'll both have to restrain ourselves"

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    It's always wise to not get too close to a guy. Keep them wanting by not giving them what they want. Tease them and keep it coming, is what I always did and it paid off. But if you're close to a guy and he grabs your ass, just play it off and grab his hands and act like you're going to do something with them but you're holding them to keep them away from you! Trust me he'll never know the difference. As long as you make it look sexy. But if he's consistently grabbing your ass, either tell him something in a nice way so he doesn't run off or take a break from dancing and sit and talk for a while, but of course continue charging him for every song you sit there, if it turns into an hour you want to definitely let him know how much it costs each hour. I hope that works.
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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    I smack their hands and teasingly say, "Bad boy!" Then I tell them that if they keep acting up that I'll make them sit on their hands.

    Sometimes I'll say, "You can't do that out here.... Let's go to the champagne room." When we get in the room I'll tell them that they can't touch/bite/lick in there either! LOL
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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    ^^ Haha I like that. Too bad we don't have a CR in my club... I may use the sit on hands line the next time it comes up tho

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    Eh, for me it depends. A slide up and he isn't grabbing HARD or slapping- kind but firm warning. Blatant grab or slap- smack in the face.

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    I agree with blaze-n-hot ; I just go for the champagne room idea, and then if they try stuff on me in there, I simply tell them that those kinds of things aren't allowed, and they wouldn't want me to lose my JOB, now would they? LOL! It works every time!

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    It's so interesting to read this.
    I'm so new to dancing and all the lap dances are done in private rooms so I haven't had the chance to scope out what the other girls are doing with their customers.
    I thought ass grabbing was the norm...
    and boob touching?
    If someone tries to touch my puss that's a HUGE no no and subsequent freak out on the smoking deck but I never thought that guys over stepped their boundaries by grabbing my ass. Of course it makes me uncomfortable as hell but I'm so desperate to live up to the bar set by the other dancers I feel like I'm not allowing enough touching when I move a guys hands away from my cooch.

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    ^ depends on the laws in your state/club too. Some places customers are allowed to touch asses and boobs. Some places I don't think I'll ever work.

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    I dodge until it becomes such an issue I feel I have to say something about it. At that point, I usually say something to the effect that he'll get kicked out or I'll get in trouble if he doesn't stop. If THAT doesn't work, I hold him down or I just dance a foot away from him, effectively hoping to end the dance. If THAT doesn't work, I up and walk out, refuse to dance anymore for him and collect my money. I had to do that today actually. Handsy ass man kept trying to touch my vajayjay and no matter WHAT I did or said to him, he wouldn't stop! It was completely pissing me off. I felt like buying him an anatomical replica of a vagina to play with since he was obsessing so hard over mine! I just quit dancing, sat down next to him, crossed my legs and demanded money. When he whined that the song wasn't over, I ignored him. Luckily, he knew he had done wrong and didn't argue and just paid up.

    Urgh I hate men like that!!!!

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    If I am in a good mood I will playfully slap his hand away and tell him,"Sorry honey. I am Pay Per Veiw, not Pay Per Touch" (Smile). If asshole does it again, I pretend to lose my balance and jam my heel into his foot. If I am in a bad mood I will just jam my heel into his foot. Whoops.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blaze_n_hot View Post
    I smack their hands and teasingly say, "Bad boy!" Then I tell them that if they keep acting up that I'll make them sit on their hands.

    Sometimes I'll say, "You can't do that out here.... Let's go to the champagne room." When we get in the room I'll tell them that they can't touch/bite/lick in there either! LOL
    If only my club had a CR! I would laugh till I cried if I saw you do this!

    Quote Originally Posted by HollyK View Post
    If I am in a good mood I will playfully slap his hand away and tell him,"Sorry honey. I am Pay Per Veiw, not Pay Per Touch" (Smile). If asshole does it again, I pretend to lose my balance and jam my heel into his foot. If I am in a bad mood I will just jam my heel into his foot. Whoops.
    I am going to try this! Fantastic idea!

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    I've had to be playful as well getting someone to stop grabbing my off limit regions. But there where times where I was rough with them because playful wasn't working and they loved it. Only a very small handful of times I was actually very rough and mean because nothing was working and they got mad about it or left a bit hurt.





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    I usually just deflect the grabs into a cute move. When he is being overly troublesome I have a few pinning moves that still seem like I'm just dancing on him. Most of time I ask guys to sit in the middle of the booth with their hands out to they side "so I don't accidentally put my knee down on their hand". When they are giving me that overly perverted smile and pulling their hands in to do that gross massage grope on my legs or other I just pretend not to notice and then switch positions, letting my knee come down HARD on their wrist, when they complain I do the cutesy, "oh no! I'm so sorry, I thought your hands were still where I put them! I'm sorry honey, it's for klutzy accidents like that that I move them there."

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    That was a clever answer so kudos.

    Usually I just move there hand to somewhere else. Like my waist, hips, thigh, shoulder - depending on how I'm positioned.

    I get the "Oh I can't do that huh?" I either ignore it, smile and say

    "Oh I'd love for you to touch but I could get in trouble by the manager."

    That is the oldest trick in the book: Uh-oh here comes the manager!

    That I've never used but hear lots of customers complain that girls say that a lot.




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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    I know I've kinda said this in previous threads but I work at a club where they arent supposed to touch at all but it still seems to happen. I don't know if it makes me prude (thats what all the customers say) but I DO NOT allow them to touch and deffinitly get creeped out and offended if they try. Our dance room is all in the open where you can see other dancers, so what do I say as other dancers are getting touched and I tell the guy no touching and he gives me the "ugh you suck as a stripper"????? I've tried talking to management and they seem to care and say they tell the bouncers to watch more but nothing seems to change. All clubs in my area seem to be like this too. One of the reasons I don't even want them to brush their hand on me is because I was once told by a DJ that 90% of the customers don't wash their hands after using the bathroom....EW lol other then that I just get creeped out by contact

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    I always pull the whole "You're going to get me fired. Do you want to pay all my bills?"- That's after warnings. After a while you learn to literally dodge hands and the NASTIEST IMO, mouths. I feel like Neo in the Matrix some nights. I bite sometimes... haha If they aren't getting the whole be careful the bouncers can see us! OR I've pretended that one of our sprinklers is a camera. Or "vice" is there. lol SOO much randomness. About two months ago I faked an asthma attack to get myself out of doing dances for the guy that I was off the list with... Pretty bad. But then again a drunk 85 year old trying to pinch my nipples was horrible.
    ORR (had to add this). Embarrass them! Like tell them no really loudly so people look over.

    My favorite thing to say is "Sweetheart... This is NOT a petting zoo!"

    THIRD EDIT: I keep thinking of things. I sometimes put their arms over their head and pin them against the wall. And when they start whining about how they'd rather touch me, I say "But Baby, I LOVE to be in control. You want it to be good for me too don't you?". The answer is always yes.
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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    There was a sign in a club I worked in that read, "No touching" or something to that effect. I'd always just start laughing and then sternly say, "don't make me tap the sign!" when pervos tried to get grabby at my stage.

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    There was a pair of guys at my club one day when I was working, and one kept trying to grab my ass, so what did I do? I took his hand and moved it toward his buddy's junk! That sure learned him quick!

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    i take their hands and hold them over their head.. they think im being kinky when really i dont want to be touched. ill switch and let go but if they get handsy i do it again. threaten them with a headlock that "they may or may not like.." lol

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    My club is also a no touching club, which means they can't touch us AT ALL, even our arms or back. If someone touches my butt or legs I just playfully hold their hands. If they try to pull away I'll hold their hands harder and grind harder.

    The funny thing about the "no touching" clubs is guys don't think it applies to their lips. There was a customer that was trying to lick my brain one day, getting my hair all wet, so I told him I was getting over a bad ear infection and how did the medicine taste? He stopped right away. I actually haven't seen him since, but no big loss.

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    Default Re: You're giving a PD. Man grabs your ass. What do you do?

    ^^^ ahahahh thats freggin awesome. I love the 'pin the hands on the wall' thing, I'm SO going to try that- guys get grabby at my club, it's the mouths I'm still trying to get better at dodging =/ the "you're going to get me fired sweetie" that tends to work though hehe..

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