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    I've been on SW for a while, and I definitely have done my homework so far, but there is one big thing that is scaring me senseless; giving my first lap dance.

    It's not like doing your first set on stage. You can come in before the club opens and watch other girls up on stage to get an idea of what is expected, and you can even watch other girls once the club has opened and starts rotating dancers on and off the stage. Lap dances, though, are not done in the middle of the floor (not at any club around here, anyway) so I will have absolutely no idea what I am doing, and no one to watch so that I can learn! I don't want to be the creepy dancer standing outside the private room where some guy is getting a full contact lap dance.

    I am very curious what a good lap dance looks like, and how you switch it up if you get a guy who wants 2 or 3 dances back-to-back. Are there any good YouTube videos out there?
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    Default Re: Actually giving your first lap dance

    Other questions:

    1. If you sell a lap dance and the club's rate for all LDs is $20, do you keep any of that $20? Or do you inform someone you are giving them a dance and have the custie pay them the $20? (i.e. house mom or bouncer).

    2. If you don't keep any of the $20, then you just keep the tips during the dance. So how much is the 'norm' for tips during a one song lap dance?

    3. When a song is playing for the girl on stage and a custie agrees to a LD, do you bring him into the private room and then wait for the next song to start dancing?

    4. I've heard of custies being able to "buy you out of" the rotation if your name gets called on stage if you are dancing for them. What does this mean?

    5. In regard to CRs, if it's $150 for a half an hour, how much of that $150 do you keep?

    6. What makes a CR so much different than a LD?
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    Default Re: Actually giving your first lap dance

    You can easily find someone to give you a dance, just let girls know that you haven't given a lap dance before and are really nervous and I'm sure one of the nicer girls will offer to give you one (I had a few girls offer me my first night). If no one offers, find a girl and offer to pay her for one.

    I was SO scared the first time, I didn't want to touch the customer at all but I wasn't shown an air dance, so I remember by muscles got super sore from keeping myself raised over him in these weird postitions... and I couldn't stop shaking. Luckily he had never had one before but really it's just something that you will pick up on the job, as you start to see what positions work for you and what customers seem to like.

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    Default Re: Actually giving your first lap dance

    I didn't know you were allowed to ask other dancers for LDs while you were at work, but that sounds like a great idea. I suppose another method could be getting a dance from a girl as a customer, since I was planning on checking the clubs out as a custie beforehand anyway.

    Are people under 21 allowed into clubs that serve alcohol?
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    Default Re: Actually giving your first lap dance

    I was in your position, I worked at stage only clubs and never gave a lap dance when I went to work in Anchorage. I decided to just be honest with the customers and say that I've never given a lap dance before. My first LD was in VIP! The customer was intrigued with the fact I'd never given a lap dance before, so he took me back to VIP so I could get lots of practice.

    He actually really helped me out in a couple of ways: a.) He told me what worked and what didn't for him b.) I learned my own comfort levels in re; touching and contact levels so I knew what my boundaries should be in the future.

    You may want to play up the lap dance virgin thing when you go to work, and land yourself an older gentleman for some VIP lessons. I think guys really like playing the teacher as a fantasy in the strip club, and you can make some really good money in the processes (on the job training!).


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    I like that idea! Sometimes your weaknesses can be your biggest strength.
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    Default Re: Actually giving your first lap dance

    what constitutes a "good" lap dance is PURELY an opinion.

    What is "good" to one customer sucks to another one. I had one guy on the brink of ejaculation in an air dance club because I focused on eye contact, soft ear nuzzling, and breathy whispering....and another one say "so when are you going to start actually DANCING" when I did exactly the same thing.

    Use targeted statements and direct commands to get him to tell you exactly what he wants in a dance.
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    Default Re: Actually giving your first lap dance

    Quote Originally Posted by britneyireland View Post
    Use targeted statements and direct commands to get him to tell you exactly what he wants in a dance.
    I like that advice. Men at a strip club are generally the same as men outside of strip clubs, after all they're in the same pool you deal with daily as it is. So why not treat them as such? If you want an answer with a man you can't just ask an open question leading to a lap dance, you need to ask specific questions to get the right answers so you can give them the right dance for them!
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    Default Re: Actually giving your first lap dance

    1. It depends on the club... most places keep a portion of the LD fee. Some clubs have a bouncer
    "check you in" at the door to the LD room and they keep track of how many songs, then the customer pays the tally at the end. The place I work has the customer pay up front and then gives the dancer a receipt to be cashed in at the end of the night. The bouncer will let you know, so don't worry! Say it's your first.

    2. You will always keep at least some of the $20, but always keep tips! They're yours... you earned them... let the customer know they're appreciated . Some people will tip a few bucks... some might tip an extra $20 or more!

    3. You can ask if they want to wait for the next song, or some dances are timed, like at my club.

    4. This means you won't be responsible for going on stage if you are busy doing a few dances. It's worth it to the club and you.

    5. Again, this depends on the club. My place is $125 for 15 minutes and the dancer keeps $65 RIP OFF haha but just ask...

    After a couple dances you be like pshht no big deal.

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    Default Re: Actually giving your first lap dance

    its easier than you think right now..once your nerves lessen you'll be able to focus on different kinds of dances. do what youre most comfortable with, never let a customers wishes interfere with your own.

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    I was worrying about the same kind of thing an found all this really helpful! Thank youuu x
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    Default Re: Actually giving your first lap dance

    I would let the customer lead the dance! Of course, you remain in control, but pay attention to what the customer is paying attention to on your body.

    Start by just dancing, being sexy, making eye contact. Touch different parts of your body (just like you would on stage--not like an anatomy demonstration). Most guys will guide your body with their eyes. It's usually pretty obvious if they like your bum, breasts, or naughty bits...so pay attention to this and use his interest to direct your dance! You'll seem like a mind-reader.

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    Default Re: Actually giving your first lap dance

    Seriously, take advantage of being a lapdance virgin! Play it up. Act innocent and cute, but playful at the same time and eager to learn. Tell guys you need help learning how to give lap dances and you'd love to practice on them.

    #1: they won't expect you to be a pro
    #2: i think most guys will be excited by the idea of it so you'll sell lots of dances
    #3: practice AND $$$!


    A good lapdance is all about confidence, and that's it! You don't even have to dance! Just keep eye contact, move slowly, and believe in yourself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by glitzy View Post
    Seriously, take advantage of being a lapdance virgin! Play it up. Act innocent and cute, but playful at the same time and eager to learn. Tell guys you need help learning how to give lap dances and you'd love to practice on them.

    #1: they won't expect you to be a pro
    #2: i think most guys will be excited by the idea of it so you'll sell lots of dances
    #3: practice AND $$$!


    A good lapdance is all about confidence, and that's it! You don't even have to dance! Just keep eye contact, move slowly, and believe in yourself.

    that was part of my plan, ''ooh r u gonna pop my LD cherry'' kinda thing, but play up on it for at least the first two nights. At the same time i dont want to come over as nieve and get abused, i kno exactly what they are NOT going to be allowed to do to me and i plan on being quite air dancey. So im going to play up sweet and cute, but im not drinking (maybe a glass of wine or two before i go out and a couple of alcopops to sip thru the night) but one of the things the girls told me was not to drink because of nerves, loosen up a bit sure, but dnt get so paraletic that u cnt cope...nobody wants a dance of a slurring, slobbery, snotty dancer, well, some do but they will take advantage and its not worth it...was the advice i was given!

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    do you have an ex-bf you could practice on? i used to refine my technique with my ex and a mirror. also prob search youtube. or record yourself dancing for a camera like its the guy. when i'm dancing for a guy, i think back on how hot i looked dancing for myself and know that its totally worth $20 and he must be loving it.

    when i gave my first lap dance i was like audrey k. i didn't think you could/didn't want to touch the guy so i like hovered over his lap. it was basically a wall sit for 3 minutes. surprisingly he asked for another one, but it was so painful i said no. then i gave up doing lapdances for a few years. just wasn't for me with the clientele i was getting at the time. jersey = home of earl

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    Quote Originally Posted by laurcon View Post
    do you have an ex-bf you could practice on? i used to refine my technique with my ex and a mirror. also prob search youtube. or record yourself dancing for a camera like its the guy. when i'm dancing for a guy, i think back on how hot i looked dancing for myself and know that its totally worth $20 and he must be loving it.

    when i gave my first lap dance i was like audrey k. i didn't think you could/didn't want to touch the guy so i like hovered over his lap. it was basically a wall sit for 3 minutes. surprisingly he asked for another one, but it was so painful i said no. then i gave up doing lapdances for a few years. just wasn't for me with the clientele i was getting at the time. jersey = home of earl
    I do have plenty of ex's I could practice on, but I also have a boyfriend that wouldn't like that too much. Couldn't I just practice on him?
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    Im still new at this but I'll try to describe the lap dance I do. I work at a medium-high contact club. If the guy is too grabby like he wants to have his hands on my tits the entire time or if he squeezes/licks them I will do an air dance about 3 feet away.
    For a respectfull customer this is what I do:
    -Put both knees on his legs, put hand on his shoulders pull up and slide down between his legs, then look up at him and wink or smile.
    -Stradle between his legs, facing him. Lean to the side with one hand on the side of the couch and one hand on his shoulder, then belly roll upwards
    -Sit on his lap facing away from him, lean back with your head on his shoulder. Grind or belly roll
    -Step about 2-3 feet away facing away from him, bend over, look back at him and smile
    -Sit back down on his lap facing away from him, then vibrate
    -Repeat
    Thats about what all I do. I guess the best bet would be to have a girl from your club show you a lap dance.

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    its so much easier than you think its gonna be! And once the first is out of the way its even better! Wiggle and swerve ever so slowly all ova the shop and youve more or less cracked it! Few swoops in front of their face with the boobs, leaning back on them and doing a body roll! Bit of floor work bt have ur knickers on for this bit! You'll develop ur own style! xx
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    I remember giving my first LD and I think I recounted the event here on SW as it did more for me than for the guy I danced for. It was a crazy hot turn on for me. I didn't wanna hold myself back from devouring the guy... anyways, later that night my bf and I had a good sex session and I think I rubbed one out a few times that night also... after he fell asleep.
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    Quote Originally Posted by XxAmber89xX View Post
    I remember giving my first LD and I think I recounted the event here on SW as it did more for me than for the guy I danced for. It was a crazy hot turn on for me. I didn't wanna hold myself back from devouring the guy... anyways, later that night my bf and I had a good sex session and I think I rubbed one out a few times that night also... after he fell asleep.
    woa! where's the thread on this one??

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