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    Default I can't dance on stage anymore?

    I started dancing about 5 months ago. When I first started I LOVED going on stage and was super comfortable dancing and interacting with customers at the tip rail.

    In the past month I have become REALLY uncomfortable on stage, to the point I dread it and become anxcious about it throughout the night. When Im on stage I am really scared to make eye contact with customers and basically hide from them the whole time. Not only is it majorly hurting my stage money, if not depleting it entirely, it hurts my sale with custmers at the tip rail afterwards and is definitely pissing off all the DJs at my club because I'm constantly begging not to go up.

    Did anybody else start out comfortable on stage and then turn totally stage shy?

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    Default Re: I can't dance on stage anymore?

    My only question is: have you had a recent change in your life?

    Body, significant other, have a birthday? Any of these things could change your perspective on being naked in front of a crowd.

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    Default Re: I can't dance on stage anymore?

    wow, i always thought it went in the opposite direction, you start off super uncomfortable and eventually it becomes no big deal. Was someone nasty to you up there? It doesn't seem like you could feel that way unless something happened.

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    Default Re: I can't dance on stage anymore?

    I haven't had that happen, but it is certainly possible that the newness of dancing on stage has simply worn off and now you don't like it. Simple as that.

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    that happened to me last time i worked...i had customers coming up to tip and i just wasnt feelin it...i didnt feel sexy i was just going through the motions...i dont know...anxiety seems to come with stripping. for me atleast, it just intensifies my anxiety./

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    OMG, I would totally be the same way. However, I take an advian and I am fine I have huge anxiety around anyone, so my doctor prescribes me with advian and they work great! Advian may not work for you though, but I am sure something will.

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    Default Re: I can't dance on stage anymore?

    At the nude club I work in, I tip the dj $20 at the start of the shift to keep me off stage unless I request to go up because a customer specifically asks me to. If I have a great night, I will tip more at the end to the dj as well. Go in to your club and to the dj with money in hand (it may take 40 or 50 bucks if the club is super busy or on the weekend) and ask him to keep you off stage.
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    Oh, and except for the super awful nights where no one's getting dances, only stage money, sometimes it sucks if a huge group comes and spends only on stage. But I've had awesome nights from not having to interrupt conversations to get ready to go on stage, etc.
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    Quote Originally Posted by eclpschic21 View Post
    OMG, I would totally be the same way. However, I take an advian and I am fine I have huge anxiety around anyone, so my doctor prescribes me with advian and they work great! Advian may not work for you though, but I am sure something will.
    hey, do you take the advian daily or is it as needed? im having terrible anxiety...i've always had it, general and social, but after recently moving to a new place i have kinda isolated myself and its just gotten really bad and interfering with day to day things like even going to the grocery store is getting tough!

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    Default Re: I can't dance on stage anymore?

    Quote Originally Posted by eclpschic21 View Post
    OMG, I would totally be the same way. However, I take an advian and I am fine I have huge anxiety around anyone, so my doctor prescribes me with advian and they work great! Advian may not work for you though, but I am sure something will.
    you mean ativan? i used to take it for anxiety too, its like xanax or klonopin. they would help you not care about much, including being on stage, in the short term.
    do you have mirrors around your stage? i know guys complain about it, but i look in the mirror most of the time. i feel like its hard not to and it makes me feel good. my club now isn't a stage club so it doesn't matter, but even before when i did only stage i hardly looked in guys' eyes and looked in the mirrors.
    do you have any idea why you feel this way? i haven't really heard of any girls experiencing this before unless they got fat

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