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    i started stripping like 2 weeks after meeting him. He took me to a club we worked at for a while as a bartender and dj. I danced on and off almost a year. It ended when he took me to an old friend of his club in a different city. I relapsed on coke and cheated on him several times. He says he swears off all strippers, that "its hard for me to find strippers sexy anymore".
    but he is fixing up websites for me online to do sex shows, pics, vids, panties...you name it! while i am preggo might i add..but still not showing at all.
    i swear on everything i do not want to be a partier/bimbo as a dancer anymore...but i really do enjoy dancing. Ive never felt so good at doing something while boosting my confidence so high.
    im reading NA and work on ways to be sober.
    I have a son on the way, and for his sake would never return to the drugs again.
    I care about the bf more than ever, seeing him in the light as the father of my child.
    We are sooooooo BEYOND BROKE...I MEAN LIKE IN DEBT. So i find the easiest solution is to let me dance when it comes time. but he doesnt trust me. I still get called a whore and a slut for what i did..when we are fighting anyways.
    I really want to dance...i catch myself missing the clothes..the poles...the girls....the muuuuusssiiic....and ofcourse the stage.

    how do i get him to let me dance again?????? I am desperate here becuase he has no full time job..doesnt even get paychecks. cash for washing windows. and i cant get a job right now, been trying...but no luck at alllll...

    i feel like i am hiding a huge secret when i thnk about going back to it. but i want to so bad. He has even said he pulls away emotionally when he feels i want to go back to that lifestyle.

    am able to convince him what happened before wouldnt ever happen again? becuase its not stripping he has a problem with. he still wants to go to the clubs---but im not allowed to go.

    i just......am very lost

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    Sweetie, why is this person in your life? He tells you where you can/can't go, and you obey? He tells you that you can't do the job you want to do? He calls you names? This is not a person who is a positive in your life. You are making way too many excuses for him just in this one little post.

    You are never going to be able to convince him of anything. Read up on the warning signs of an abuser (). Stop excusing his controlling, mean-spirited, disrespectful ways.

    Lots of perfectly decent guys might have issues with being romantically involved with sex workers. That's one thing; to be with someone who calls you names and delivers ultimatums is something else. Everyone deserves a mate who builds them up. This guy is just tearing you down. Get out, go back to dancing if that's what you want (and if it's not going to lead you down a negative, destructive path), and build a life for yourself that doesn't include a man who tells you to your face he hates you for what you do for a living.

    P.S. If by NA you mean Narcotics Anonymous, go to meetings if you aren't already. Having that steady human check-in can be very important. Good for you for kicking your addiction and committing to staying sober.

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    Default Re: Desperate to convince the bf to let me strip again????

    Wait...he says you can't work at the club, but he wants to be able to continue going to the clubs?!

    This guy sounds likes a douchebag.
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    Default Re: Desperate to convince the bf to let me strip again????

    He also sounds like a douchebag because he has no job, and has no problem making websites for you. He is perfectly fine with selling your underwear and your likeness, but he doesn't want you to strip? Really? Sounds like to me he wants you to support him and his child, but he still wants to call the shots.

    As per what was said earlier, you need to ditch him.

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    Default Re: Desperate to convince the bf to let me strip again????

    Geez, their are flags! He calls you degrading names but wants you to do sex stuff online pregnant for $ while he has no full time job? Is that pimping or what? You will be supporting him and your child. It sounds like you care about him more than yourself. Ummm..allow you to dance? Is he your bf or dad? How does somebody with no paycheck coming in and a baby on the way afford to go to SCs? Of course he doesn't want you to dance because he wants to control you and keep your self-esteem below his shoe.

    Why do you feel like you deserve this treatment?
    We all make mistakes.

    I honestly don't think you'll be able to convince him to "let" you strip again. He is obviously manipulating you. It seems like you have bigger issues than him letting you dance.

    You have to do what's best for you and I wish you the best.

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    um, cash for washing windows? wtf. he's a squeegy dude? he like jumps out and washes people's window and then expects money? wow.

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    too bad the Op seems to have deleted her account.
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    Wow...

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    Default Re: Desperate to convince the bf to let me strip again????

    awwwwww. This makes me so sad. I wish she hadn't deleted her account.

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    He probably found it. IF YOU'RE READING THIS, DUMP THE DOUCHE.

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    Default Re: Desperate to convince the bf to let me strip again????

    you need to worry about yourself and live YOUR LIFE! for YOU! no one else. especially not some guy that clearly doesn't respect you. this whole thing sounds exactly like what I went through 2 years ago w/my ex. except I didn't have a baby. you will learn eventually, and i hope you don't make the same mistakes i did. I stopped dancing for him and lost everything, all to make him happy. He didn't want me to leave the house. He controlled everything. everything.

    Please live life for yourself. and do not let a man dictate your life. Do what makes you happy.

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    Default Re: Desperate to convince the bf to let me strip again????

    Quote Originally Posted by laurcon View Post
    um, cash for washing windows? wtf. he's a squeegy dude? he like jumps out and washes people's window and then expects money? wow.

    LMAO a squeegy dude

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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    He probably found it. IF YOU'RE READING THIS, DUMP THE DOUCHE.
    I 2nd that.

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    Never make decisions about YOUR future based on someone else's opinions.
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    Default Re: Desperate to convince the bf to let me strip again????

    Yes, sounds like he is using your past cheating and drug use as leverage, which is NOT ok.

    It would have been fine if he was upset with your cheating and partying and just plain refused to be with you anymore.

    But to stay with you, yet dictate what you can and cannot do and call you anything but a 'child of God' ( so to speak) is abusive, coercive, and manipulative.
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    Default Re: Desperate to convince the bf to let me strip again????

    This chick was on here before trying to get a ride from Ohio to someplace else and plane tickets for her and the douche.

    I feel bad but can't help them all. The situation is a total train wreck!
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    Default Re: Desperate to convince the bf to let me strip again????

    i left my ex because of this. no regrets.
    dump the loser, you're gonna make tons of moooolllaahhh >


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