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    It's been years...four to be exact...since I held that pole in my hands. Got married, had a couple kids, and I'm June freaking Cleaver...and miserable. I managed the transition easy enough until this year. I don't know why...maybe the birth of the second baby? But this year has been the hardest since leaving the club life.

    Any other retired dancers out there have advice? I just can't embrace this vanilla life, much as I want to.

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    Default Re: Adjusting to life after dancing

    I quit dancing. I still lurk here because I kind of want to go back. I quit because I promised to retire at 25 and was engaged. We broke up... I miss it but then sometimes I don't

    I ran into a bouncer that I used to work with the other day and found out all my frineds are doing really bad, so I took it as a sign to stay away!!!
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    Default Re: Adjusting to life after dancing

    I got a job in sales.... it helps me, because I can still put certain hustling skills to use, and it keeps me interested. I always wear coordinated sexy underwear to big client appointments - even though the customers never see it, it boosts my confidence and makes me smirk on the inside. I think it works.

    Like a lot of other dancers & ex-dancers, I could never do a straight desk job.

    I won't lie though, there are days when I miss it. Good luck!

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    Default Re: Adjusting to life after dancing

    I've been retired for a long time now, and I still miss it. BF likes the clubs, and I like going with him. So, I'm a casual custy now. :-)

    Z

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    Default Re: Adjusting to life after dancing

    I was surprised how easy the transition was for me. I retired after 11 years, then my husband got in a motorcycle accident and I had to go back. I had landed a full time admin job and was back part time. When I retired earlier I had a big blow out at the club, I didn't plan on going back but with him out of work I had to. When he went back to work I quietly disapeared.

    I do still miss it, I miss the hours, having more free time, taking off whenever I want and the traveling. What I don't miss, the guys, the drama and the pain (bad knees). I've been back to the club to hang out and all the girls have told me how bad it is, that money is horrible.

    I still have moments when work is bad that I think,"why did I give it up?". But I am happier now, especially in this economy, that I know I have a pay check coming every week.

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    Default Re: Adjusting to life after dancing

    The first year was the hardest for me. I'd spend days in my pj's without the energy to shower or get dressed, simply because I figured "what's the point?"

    My stripper friends couldn't relate to my civilian lifestyle, and I couldn't relate to the soccer moms in my neighborhood. I was working, but only part time, and found myself going to work with my husband out of sheer boredom. I didn't want to dance anymore, and I didn't know what I wanted to do.

    I returned to school last year, and that helped me tons! I haven't made any friends at school, as I don't really want to anchor myself to this region, but just getting out of the house everyday and having a goal has helped me immensely.

    But, yeah, the depression I felt in that first year sucked.


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    Default Re: Adjusting to life after dancing

    Well, this seems like as good a place as any to announce that I've just recently hung up the heels as well. I got tired of being surrounded by drunks. Got tired of the party lifestyle and the drugs in the dressing room, the secrets, the double life, the drama, the freaks.

    Not sure what I'm going to do, but I'm lucky enough to be in a position where there's not a huge hurry to figure it out. After 3 years, I'm burned out. It feels great to make a change.
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    Default Re: Adjusting to life after dancing

    good luck on whatever path you decide to take next!

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    Default Re: Adjusting to life after dancing

    Are there any other ways you can transgress the vanilla lifestyle without going back to dancing? (assuming that isn't an option for you)

    Could you go to the club as a customer, like Zofia suggested?
    Could you perhaps dance once a month, just to get your wiggles out?
    Could you buy some racy lingerie and dance for your husband on occasion?
    Could you buy a pole and dance for yourself when you have the house free?

    Just a few ideas..

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    Default Re: Adjusting to life after dancing

    I quit YEARS ago and think about it daily. Of course, it doesn't help that I went back into the business not as a dancer, but as a regular employee. I now book parties for the club.

    I don't miss it, because I could never survive in a NYC club (even though I've worked in the office for one for almost 7 years)- and I do miss the club in D.C. I used to work for. But what I miss is the time I had THEN. I miss the girls I worked with 10 years ago. That all has changed.
    I went there last year to pay a visit and hang out, and I was discusted by how things had changed. It was SOOO different! So now I'm not thinking about it so much, now I just think about the memories I had so long ago.

    I would say a good transition would be to work FOR a gentlemen's club, on the inside. Especially if you can get in with a franchised group, like say- Rick's (just an example, there are a bunch of them). They have tons of marketing/event planning/office positions where your knowledge as an entertainer is more valuable for their company than any other past job experience.

    Just my two cents.

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    Default Re: Adjusting to life after dancing

    Are you kidding me? Im a trapped stay at home mommy too. Damn- I miss it, I miss the costumes, getting pretty in the dressing room, strutting my stuuf on and off of stage, all the money, the financial freedom, the sense of accomplishment and financial independence...sigh, I miss it, I miss it, I miss it. This is the only place I feel anyone can understand that. Im in a strange new town- nobody here knows I used to dance. These backwards hillbillies just don't get it or what dancing is about. So, Im very thankful for this site. I'm trying to get my shit together now so I can start dancing again. Im gonna need chilcare, new outfits (I gave ALL my shit away) and money to move back home with....I love my kids- but this powerless, stay at home mommy shit REALLY SUCKS!! I nee to dance- I just want to feel beautiful and in control again.
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