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    Default When friends ask me, "So how much do you make on a good day?"

    I hate answering about how much money I make!

    A) I don't want to tell the truth because it's usually way more than how much the asker-person makes, and then things feel kind of awkward
    B) I don't want to lie because they are friends
    C) I don't want to say "None of your business" or "I'd rather not say" because it feels kind of rude or dodgy, or attracts just as much interest and attention anyway.

    What do you guys say when people you know ask you that question?

    I try to say, "it really depends, there's no set amount, sometimes it can be really bad, too,"
    but if they keep asking, "But what's a GOOD night like, like, whats the MOST you've ever made in one shift," I'll answer honestly, "About 600 or 700"
    and then it's that AWKWARDNESS! where they go, "Oh... Wow. Hmm." And then I try to explain it's really not like that all the time, and it's really not like a regular job, etc.

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    Default Re: When friends ask me, "So how much do you make on a good day?"

    I think you've already found your best answer... maybe track your earnings and follow it up with your average or low nights.
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    Default Re: When friends ask me, "So how much do you make on a good day?"

    I always just say "Honestly, it completely depends."...and they almost always leave the question alone at that point. I say this with a very modest, business-like tone, however, which might help. I say this while nodding, and making direct eye contact.

    I would follow up this statement with another statment of yours, to close off the line of questioning. Say something like "but what I really focus on is having a good time while doing it" You can divert his question to focus on the fun things you and he can do in the club together (i.e. dances!). But most importantly, follow up whatever you say with more conversation--99% of people will drop it if you do so (in my experience).

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    Default Re: When friends ask me, "So how much do you make on a good day?"

    "The best nights make up for the bad nights, overall, it's just average"
    And that's the truth.

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    Default Re: When friends ask me, "So how much do you make on a good day?"

    find some friends who aren't shocked that people can make that level of profit for a single day.

    my friends were people with consulting backgrounds completely used to charging 300-500 an hour themselves, so they were being competitive if they asked me that sort of question. it took a while for me to understand that and stop replying defensively with 4 figure numbers.

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    Default Re: When friends ask me, "So how much do you make on a good day?"

    I say "it really depends. Anything from 0 dollars to a grand, the latter of which is incredibly rare".

    Or I say "I make about the same as I did teaching, but I work 1/2 the hours.. which allows me the time to go to school"

    That way there's no dollar amount applied and it's still honest. So, basically, find a way to give them an "idea" without really saying a number.

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    Default Re: When friends ask me, "So how much do you make on a good day?"

    I say "it's none of your business" but this question seriously irks me. I mean if I had a reg job would they be asking? No. Of course not. So why do they feel they're entitled to the info bc Im a stripper? Completely rude. And I tell them so.
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    Default Re: When friends ask me, "So how much do you make on a good day?"

    cool, thanks guys

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    Default Re: When friends ask me, "So how much do you make on a good day?"

    i hate this question, and i find it completly rude, ppl hav no right to ask jus becoz ur a dancer, they wouldnt ask a girl outside the club how much she earns, and they always seem to want a deffinate figure, i ussually just reply with "whatever i make is never enough" smile and change the subject.

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    Default Re: When friends ask me, "So how much do you make on a good day?"

    I always tell people it depends and change the subject.

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    Default Re: When friends ask me, "So how much do you make on a good day?"

    I say the most I've ever made is three grand and the least is zero and change the subject.

    This has been the popular question among dancers at my club lately. I would
    never ask another dancer what she made-- I think that is so incredibly rude and intrusive. If it was someone I know I might ask them how many dances they had if I was having a bad night and wanted to see if it was me or the club, but most of the time I would just ask how their night was going. I had one girl hounding me every day last weekend about how many dances I'd done and then demanding to know how much I had... And I had never seen her work before that weekend!

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    Default Re: When friends ask me, "So how much do you make on a good day?"

    Oops...I misunderstood the OP. Thought this was about customers asking for income.

    I try to be understanding when my friends ask me. I think stripping is one of those professions that is 'out there', and people of course are fascinated by it (whether in a negative or positive way). I mean, it isn't exactly a normal job. Most people who are salaried/paid hourly are fascinated at the prospect of (theoretically) being able to make massive amounts of money in such a short period of time.

    So I'd go with the "it completely depends" answer. If they try to pin you down, just emphasize that there really is no 'typical' amount.

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    Default Re: When friends ask me, "So how much do you make on a good day?"

    "Why do you ask?" is usually enough to make them feel stupid about asking in the first place.

    I would usually say something along the lines of "Nothing personal, but I'm really not comfortable discussing my personal finances."

    It was the truth. I didn't want to talk about my financial situation and was uncomfortable talking about it. I'd use a conversation deflection technique immediately after and say something like, "Are you going to go see that new movie?" (or whatever would be innocent enough to deftly change the topic with out your friend even noticing you just shot her down).


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    WWW Re: When friends ask me, "So how much do you make on a good day?"

    I tell the truth. I've had a night where I made $12 once. That was when 9/11 was going on, and I was dancing in Aberdeen, SD. We had hardly ANY customers that night. I've also had nights where I've made $500 or more (I do say that to be modest). I tell people it depends, and that every night isn't always a good night. I also travel, so there's a slight variance in how much I make in one location versus another, and travel expenses. But, I mention that $12 night as well so they know that my income can change drastically from night to night, depending on what's happening in the world, and that nothing is set in stone in this line of work.

    I really don't know why people are so obsessed with knowing how much money we're making as entertainers, but I don't see any reason to dodge the question. I think the question is rude and inappropriate, at best, but I think it's just as rude to be honest about it, but that what works best with MY personality. Apparently I've got a way of making people feel like jerks for asking me anything in person.
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