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    Default How do you handle JEALOUS DANCERS???

    I just started dancing a few months ago and so far Ive danced a two diffrent clubs in the dc/md metro area. Im not the best dancer and i cant do any pole tricks yet but the customers really like me because they say I have a "exotic" look for a black girl(whatever that means)and I carry myself with class. 90% of the dancers are decent but no real beauties. I'm usually always pretty quiet and to myself but i try my best to be polite and respectfull to all the girls. But for some reason some of the girls have reasons to hate me. Ive had girls try and start arguments with me, literally pull there customers away from me when I get on stage and tell customers how they wanna fight me!

    How in the hell do I handle this without creating more drama?

    And Why do some girls try to pray on the "NICE GIRLS"?

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    Default Re: How do you handle JEALOUS DANCERS???

    Unless they make it impossible, such as physically touching you or destroying your belongings, just ignore them. It's the classy thing to do and it will irritate them even more.

    Sure, the customer may let her pull him away from the stage, but unless he is there for the drama - in which case you don't want any part of him - he'll see the difference between you and her.

    There is always going to be drama when you get a bunch of women together. It's your choice to be in it or above it. It sounds like you have taken the right approach so far, so just keep with it. The crazy chicks will see that it has no effect on you and move onto someone else from whom they can get a more fulfilling reaction.

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    ^ what she said!

    They're probably just jealous that they don't know how to be classy. There's no use in adding fuel to the fire, so be the better person and ignore their immature antics. They're the ones who will look bad to the customers.

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    haters! well at least you know you must be doing something right because if you weren't they wouldn't be thinking about you so much. just ignore them and keep making your money.

    have you heard that song with Jay Z and Kanye? i think it's called hater or something & i always play it on my ipod when i'm upset

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    Make them more jealous. Ignore them. Walk around like you're the fucking queen and make your $$. Lots of it. But that's just me. LoL.
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    Everyone gave good advice, but JayATee's method is the one I would go with.

    Don't engage the customers who may play you off of them. They are looking for drama. The better guys will recognize the game and dismiss them for you.

    In addition to the confidence you give off, also cultivate a 'don't fuck with me' air to help keep them at bay. If they sense you are weak or a pushover they will jump on that.
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    you might be an asshole. i'm just saying, i doubt everyone in your club is jealous of you because you are prettier and classier than they are.

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    Default Re: How do you handle JEALOUS DANCERS???

    ^ Blunt, but yes, it is possible that you're giving off a bad vibe (whether unintentionally or just because you get into a queeny mood when hustling).

    That possibility aside, I actually have a problem where I don't get much respect from the other girls in the club because I'm so drama free. Women love to bond over drama.

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    ^ that is very true, women do tend to bond over drama.

    However, don't be surprised to find that some (not all, but some) customers eat that shit up. In my experience, the worst and weirdest drama at my club has been caused by men--both customers and employees. I had a regular trying to play me and another dancer against each other for months, till we finally caught him at it. Haven't seen him since last spring.

    Just do your own thing. Either they'll get tired of their own game and leave you alone, or they'll keep at it until they've driven all their money towards you. Infamy can be a very good thing.

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    At my last two clubs I ignored the girls and I think that made it worse. When you ignore someone it may come off like you're being conceited. At this club, I try to make sure that I continue to be nice and act humble. I also try not to say anything that could be taken as bragging when I'm with the other dancers.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    Make them more jealous. Ignore them. Walk around like you're the fucking queen and make your $$. Lots of it. But that's just me. LoL.
    Been there, done, that, and yes. Smile and make your money. It irritates the fuck out of them and eventually they'll stop.
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    Default Re: How do you handle JEALOUS DANCERS???

    [quote=firemaiden04;1872210]^ that is very true, women do tend to bond over drama.

    However, don't be surprised to find that some (not all, but some) customers eat that shit up. In my experience, the worst and weirdest drama at my club has been caused by men--both customers and employees. I had a regular trying to play me and another dancer against each other for months, till we finally caught him at it. Haven't seen him since last spring.

    So very true!^ I once had a custy ask me about someone, & he completely twisted what I said. Unreal.


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    Quote Originally Posted by blacbarbie86 View Post
    I just started dancing a few months ago and so far Ive danced a two diffrent clubs in the dc/md metro area. Im not the best dancer and i cant do any pole tricks yet but the customers really like me because they say I have a "exotic" look for a black girl(whatever that means)and I carry myself with class. 90% of the dancers are decent but no real beauties. I'm usually always pretty quiet and to myself but i try my best to be polite and respectfull to all the girls. But for some reason some of the girls have reasons to hate me. Ive had girls try and start arguments with me, literally pull there customers away from me when I get on stage and tell customers how they wanna fight me!

    How in the hell do I handle this without creating more drama?

    And Why do some girls try to pray on the "NICE GIRLS"?

    I had the same exact problem when I worked in DC/VA/MD, and heard the same thing to me "you look exotic for a black girl" but i'm a mutt, ANYHOW like the other girls said just ignore them, because I really doubt that custies will go for the yank away and "I want to beat that girls ass!" crap. Totally unclassy... Keep doing your thing

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    You will encounter individuals like them in just about every place you work. You should consider having a different frame of mind every time you get to work. You're too worried about what other people are doing to nice people and not doing enough math for your pockets. If what they're doing not paying your bills, let it go and let it fall where it may.

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    I would try to spend little to no time in the DR. When you have to be in the DR have your ipod to distract you from the tension. On the floor try to focus on making $ and try to block the other dancers out. In the future, if they do try being nice to you give them a hi and bye while your feet are moving.

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    Best policy whenever possible is to ignore them, I think.

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    I haven't read all the responses yet but I understand what you're going through. The jealous bitches prey on nice girls because they mistake the fact that keeping to yourself is a sign of being easy to bully. Hopefully you're in a club where race isn't an issue with management. I've heard of cases where white girls deliberately pick arguments with black girls because they know that the manager will quickly fire the black girl. You can ignore them but some bitches just won't leave well enough alone until you stand up to them so they'll see that you're not afraid of them. As for their rude behavior towards you on stage, some customers really don't like it when girls are jealous enough to be so tacky. Your classy attitude will win those guys over. There are other ways you can deal with those kind. Give them the same treatment they gave you. They can often dish it out but can't handle a dose of their own medicine. You don't even have to say a word to them while you're at it. For me, the girls who tried that never did it again once I gave them a dose of their own medicine.

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