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    Well next week my family is flying into town for Thanksgiving which is great I love to cook. The problem is and partly my fault is my sister wants to stay through the weekend and celebrate her 18th birthday on the 28th with me in the city. I had brought this up months ago before I started dancing so I could not say no. On the 28th there is going to be this big event night at my club. They are bringing in some feature dancer and I am one of the clubs featured dancers. Suppose to be a really big money night and I have been working on a new routine have a new outfit and everything. I just don't see how I can dance that night with my sister in town especially the night of her birthday. It will be to late to make something up with my day job to get out of her staying longer and if I back out of dancing at this point it would be bad. I could take her there but really I don't know how I would feel letting her know that I dance not to mention being there. I really don't know what to do here.

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    erm put your sister first!

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    You made plans with your sis first - you should keep them. I know how hard it is to miss out on possible big-money nights, but we all have to for the sake of our families sometimes.

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    Never choose money over friends or family. If you do it is a really good way to end up with lots of money and alone. Seen it many a time. In my experience "events" don't always mean more money anyways because they bring in all the jerks who are there for a free show.

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    ALWAYS choose family.
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    Ya, I should back out of dancing that night. I thought about it all today and talked with my roommate about it. She brought a good point that it would make for one hell of a 18th birthday for her though. My sister is a lot like me if not more out going and are mom got us both into dancing schools when we were younger. It might be worth it to surprise her when I go on stage. The club was planning to have an amatuer contest later in the evening to since there should be a bunch of people there. I don't know if she would even be interested in doing it, but looking back if I had the option I think I would have done it. I know I would have danced in college, of course I can say that now though. Still, she will only turn 18 once and I want to do something that we would remember.

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    If she wants to be a stripper, she'll become a stripper on her own time. Let her birthday be about you and your sister having fun--not about you working and trying to recruit her!

    I second everyone who says to choose your sister over work. And add that you should do what SHE wants to do--it's HER birthday!

    p.s. on a slightly unrelated note, I might also be biased because, as someone who started doing sex work at 19, I think 18 is too young to be stripping. Just FYI.

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    Put your sister first. She is only 18. I wouldn't even come out as a dancer to her, but that's always my usual answer, so do what works for YOU!

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    I suppose the best thing would be to back out of dancing that night then. Should I even try to bring it up with her though to see if she would at all be interested. Just a random question of things she can do now that she 18, like buy cigarettes, go to an Indian casino . . . go to a strip club. Something like that or tell her that my roommate is a stripper and see how she reacts. Its not that I wont to recruit her or anything like that. Just want her to have a fun night that she can look back on and say she did something wild. Given the events that night at my club thought it might be a fun idea.

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    Again stealing sister's birthday thunder= not cool. Any other night, fine. But she is going to remember her 18th forever. Don't risk this please. It is very selfish to do so, no matter how open minded or cool your sis may be.

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    If it's something she would be into it could be a fun time for her, especially if you get her to go up as amateur(if she can). I had the time of my life when I did that.

    And then, whatever money you earn, buy her something awesome of her choosing. It ain't stealin her thunder if you make it about her. And give her a big ol' wad of moneys so she can goof around with the dancers

    At least pitch it to her; give her the option to say if she wants to or not. If she says no, don't say anything more, but for all you know you'll mention it afterwords and she'll be like "aw man how come you never said anything, that would have been the coolest birthday ever!" who knows? At least put the option on the table. Go your route tho, and start with "someone I know..." and ease your way into "actually that person I know is me!"

    Again, only if you really think she'd be into it. Don't take the risk if you think she'll freak out and be awkward the rest of the night.

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    Wow. Just... wow.

    It was one thing when you started the post asking for advice. But after everyone here said to focus on your sister, you changed this to bringing her to work with you, surprising her with your new secret career, and getting her to do amatuer night? All for her, of course. That's gotta be the most selfish story I have heard in a long time.

    As a fellow big sis, I am totally appalled.

    Though I don't know why I am so surprised. You entitled the thread "Damn sis" because she was so self centered as to want to celebrate her 18th birthday with you on a night that you *later* found out was inconvenient.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BriaStar View Post
    I suppose the best thing would be to back out of dancing that night then. Should I even try to bring it up with her though to see if she would at all be interested. Just a random question of things she can do now that she 18, like buy cigarettes, go to an Indian casino . . . go to a strip club. Something like that or tell her that my roommate is a stripper and see how she reacts. Its not that I wont to recruit her or anything like that. Just want her to have a fun night that she can look back on and say she did something wild. Given the events that night at my club thought it might be a fun idea.
    Just don't. Your idea of a fun night may not be hers. Call off work and help your sis enjoy her birthday. There are many other things that are wild and memorable that you can do - and they don't involve getting your little sis to shake her ass up on stage.

    To me it just sounds like you only want a reason to go into work in the hopes of having a good night money-wise. Not judging because...hell, it's YOUR sister. But to me it sounds a bit self absorbed.

    Money isn't everything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Caprica6 View Post
    If it's something she would be into it could be a fun time for her, especially if you get her to go up as amateur(if she can). I had the time of my life when I did that.

    And then, whatever money you earn, buy her something awesome of her choosing. It ain't stealin her thunder if you make it about her. And give her a big ol' wad of moneys so she can goof around with the dancers

    At least pitch it to her; give her the option to say if she wants to or not. If she says no, don't say anything more, but for all you know you'll mention it afterwords and she'll be like "aw man how come you never said anything, that would have been the coolest birthday ever!"
    That's partly what I was thinking and I really don't care about the money. Sarcastically my 'damn sister' is a lot like myself I just had a thought that this might be fun for her to do and ran with the idea. I don't want to sound self absorbed just had an idea and went with it.

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