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    Default Friends "buying" you out

    How many have had friends (not customer "friends", but actual IRL friends) offer to buy you out for a night? As in:

    "Hey, let's got to xyz . . ."

    "I can't, I have to work."

    "How much to get you to go with me?"

    What was your reaction?
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    Default Re: Friends "buying" you out

    ^ if they have to pay, they are not friends. Only customers pay. The premise is stupid.

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    ^ That may be, but I have known it to happen.
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    ^ Yeah, I've never had a friend do that, and if a friend offered, it would be really fucking weird and I'd probably get wicked pissed. Your friends shouldn't have to pay you money for you to hang out with them. If they're doing that, then they're not friends, they're customers. Or they have like no respect for you. If one of my guy friends pulled that kind of stunt, I'd cut them off.

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    Default Re: Friends "buying" you out

    I've had people who think they're my "friends" offer...
    They were my customers.
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    ^ same... I can never figure out how they don't get that they are not actually your friends. Denial I guess.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shy_Guy View Post
    ^ That may be, but I have known it to happen.
    Well again, they are not friends.

    Where on earth do you come up with this stuff...
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    Hey ShyGuy, I know we're not friends, but I'm hoping you're right.

    Here's a 4 cents. Please go away.

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    I have a friend, who started out as a customer, but I became close with his family, and even the organization he is a big part of. He asked me if I could come with him to the annual ball that the organization was holding. It was on a night that I really needed to work, and it was in a different city, over an hour drive away. So he paid me to accompany him, since I make a fun date, speak their language, look nice, know the entire family, etc.

    I can't recall what he paid me, maybe $500? So I would consider that a friend buying me out, even though he is a custy-friend hybrid.

    And I've had a few guy friends offer to buy me out to hang out with them instead of going to work, but I declined.

    So......I know where you're going with this man..trying to make strippers and customers look like dickhead's because of that "buy out" dynamic. But if a cust is willing to do it, and is having fun, what's wrong with it? Who cares if they are friends or not? I always consider my regulars as my friends, I don't keep any other form.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Where on earth do you come up with this stuff...
    The hostility to this question is amusing. I "came up with this" because a friend of mine had her friend (who is a girl, never been an SC customer) do this exact thing. She really wanted to go to a club, but my friend really needed to work. I guess her friend really wanted to go, so she asked if she could buy her out. (I'm not sure how it was stated.)

    I suppose you could argue retroactively that they weren't really friends if you wanted. I was curious what other people's experiences are. It's interesting how many guys are chiming in on this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by firemaiden04 View Post
    ^ Yeah, I've never had a friend do that, and if a friend offered, it would be really fucking weird and I'd probably get wicked pissed. Your friends shouldn't have to pay you money for you to hang out with them. If they're doing that, then they're not friends, they're customers. Or they have like no respect for you. If one of my guy friends pulled that kind of stunt, I'd cut them off.
    Like I said, it was a girl, but this was the reaction I thought a dancer would have, but my friend didn't seem all that concerned about it.
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    Default Re: Friends "buying" you out

    If any new friends would like to buy me out for $500 and take me to dinner, I am up for it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KiwiStrawberry Splenda View Post
    And I've had a few guy friends offer to buy me out to hang out with them instead of going to work, but I declined.
    So it has happened to more than just my friend, yet all the people who insult me insist it just can't . . . Do you guys ever consider that you might not know everything?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Shy_Guy View Post
    The hostility to this question is amusing. I "came up with this" because a friend of mine had her friend (who is a girl, never been an SC customer) do this exact thing. She really wanted to go to a club, but my friend really needed to work. I guess her friend really wanted to go, so she asked if she could buy her out. (I'm not sure how it was stated.)

    I suppose you could argue retroactively that they weren't really friends if you wanted. I was curious what other people's experiences are. It's interesting how many guys are chiming in on this.
    Well, having no reason to doubt your story, I would say that your friend's friend needs to find more friends....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Shy_Guy View Post
    How many have had friends (not customer "friends", but actual IRL friends) offer to buy you out for a night? As in:

    "Hey, let's got to xyz . . ."

    "I can't, I have to work."

    "How much to get you to go with me?"

    What was your reaction?
    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    ^ if they have to pay, they are not friends. Only customers pay. The premise is stupid.
    I can't envisage paying a dancer I know OTC to take a night off. And (as FBR says) you'd only pay if you're a customer. I'd feel pretty wird and silly doing so - and I suspect the reaction wouldn't be too happy either.

    We wait for a night she's not scheduled for work - and then we split the bills....

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    If one of my friends asked a favor and wanted me to do something with them instead of going to work, I'd find a way to get out of work. Call in sick, get someone to cover the shift, something. I wouldn't make the friend pay me money to hang out. That's just not cool in my book. I just find that grossly insulting on every level. I would never let anyone I had respect for do that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shy_Guy View Post
    So it has happened to more than just my friend, yet all the people who insult me insist it just can't . . . Do you guys ever consider that you might not know everything?
    Sorry for jumping to conclusions man. But as you see, I wasn't the only person to have that reaction, given what we are used to here. Again, my apologies.

    Many times, I've had friends offer to buy my dinner and drinks if I were to come out with them somewhere, when I didn't feel like going out, or needed to work. Its no big deal, if the friend has no money problems, and is generous.

    However, if I don't want to go out, no amount of free drinks will get me out of the house. I have had some generous friends, non-custies, gift me money as well when times were tough. Its totally cool.

    If this girl has a big ole trust fund with lots of money and wanted to buy me out for more than the cost of drinks, I'd do it. I did have a girl friend offer that to me once, and I knew that money was tight for her. But she was in town for the night, and her sister, our mutual friend, wouldn't go out. So she offered to pay for my night (club covers, drinks, cabfare, food, etc). I declined her offer, because I know she really wanted to go out, and didn't have a lot of friends in town, but I couldn't take advantage of her desperation. If I wanted to go out that night, I would have paid my own way. She ended up going out alone and had a good time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shy_Guy View Post
    So it has happened to more than just my friend, yet all the people who insult me insist it just can't . . . Do you guys ever consider that you might not know everything?

    No, I never consider it for a moment. Everyone on the internet knows everything...

    Here's a thought however. Both you and Everyman like to play this little game where you only tell half of a story and ask for reaction. That's fine, you like to go for the shock value, but what usually ends up happening is the second part of the story/question is the perspective that makes the original question a lot less shocking and, usually, fairly mundane.

    Yes, we give you a ton of shit sometimes. But when you play head games with people that's generally what happens...I know you think it's clever and thought provoking but it's really just lame and annoying...
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Yes, we give you a ton of shit sometimes. But when you play head games with people that's generally what happens...I know you think it's clever and thought provoking but it's really just lame and annoying...
    Actually the relevant info is all in the first post. You like to play super sleuth so you invent stuff to react to.

    To splenda: actually your response is what you, as a dancer, would feel. That is what I was curious about. I do not assume all dancers react the same way, which is why I ask.

    My posts are pretty transparent. It's all the guessing about "what I'm really after" that makes things go stupid.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Shy_Guy View Post
    Actually the relevant info is all in the first post. You like to play super sleuth so you invent stuff to react to.
    Thanks for proving my point...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Shy_Guy View Post

    My posts are pretty transparent. It's all the guessing about "what I'm really after" that makes things go stupid.
    LMAO! If that were true your third post in this thread would have been your first...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Shy_Guy View Post
    The hostility to this question is amusing. .
    Hostility on SW? I haven't noticed any.

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    ^ I expected a little from the girls, but so much from the blues? Weird.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    ^ if they have to pay, they are not friends. Only customers pay. The premise is stupid.

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    Default Re: Friends "buying" you out

    Friend: I like/love them, we hang out for free, they know me for real, they can call me anytime.

    Customer: Would have to compensate me for my time, and I don't do OTC.

    Easy math: You pay, I don't consider you my friend. You're my friend, I love you for free and enjoy hanging out with you.

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