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    Question Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    Ladies- it has bitten me in the face.

    The goddamn DJ crush.

    As a few of you know, I was recently left- and subsequently fucking crushed- over a waitress at working feeding lies to my now ex boyfriend. Now I have to resist the urge to smash her face in with my shoe every day. It was a lot of hurt, a lot of drama ( thanks so much to J.D. by the way, for being there for me.) and now I am on the motherfucking rebound and not dating til I am retired. And you know, I've never been slutty- I've always had long term relationships til this year and frankly, I really don't give a damn if I am acting like a slut; I'm a safe slut. But I am dying without the sex on the regular.

    I digress. I've always thought he was cool and attractive - not my type really as he is pretty goth- and now he has cranked the flirting up.

    I don't want to date him. I just want to make his eyes roll back in his head a few times. And knowing how forward I am, if I get a few whiskeys in me, I'll probably tell him that.

    I know, I know, I have always been firmly in the camp of don't shit where you eat. But I don't want a relationship with the dude.

    Would it really be so bad if I banged the everloving shit out of him? Reeeeally?

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    Default Re: Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    I think it all depends on what you mean by "bad". How bad do you think it could get?

    It's a quick jump of the heart to go from fucking the guys brains out to developing serious romantic feelings towards him (or from him towards you).

    That said - my impulsive, slightly naive and young wisdom is telling me I would go for it, so you should to. Might not be the best advise though....

    Good luck XOXO!

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    Default Re: Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    Just don't fall in love.

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    Default Re: Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    Oh man. I hear ya babe! I've got the same crush on one of the DJs I work with too. Fuck he is so hot. I know one day I will not be able to resist. Go for it I say, but just beware of the after effects. My DJ is the eternal bachelor so I know we'd just be using each other.

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    Default Re: Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    ^^ Ohhh trust me. After this past BS with kids, ex wife, and psychotic phone calls....

    I don't want a goddamned boyfriend thats for sure. A nice FB would be fantastic.

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    Default Re: Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    ^ hehehe Im not worried about you getting attached. More worried about him getting attached

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    Default Re: Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    I'll admit that I've maybe lead on a few DJs... but never actually dated or messed around with one - so I'm probably not too much help. Although if you just want them to be like putty in your hands... it's not too hard to do.
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    Eh, I married one, so I'm no help.
    Just don't expect much, and make sure UP FRONT that he knows you are not going to put up with psycho jealous behavior from him..and you will also not do so.
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    Ahhhh, the flirtatious unspoken electricity. I've experienced it, although it is very rare for me. I would totally draw it out as long as I could and flirt with him, drive him crazy until you both can't take it anymore, then get him nice and tipsy and ravage him. It is very satisfying. Sound familiar? LOL. Live for the moment, without thinking about long term or anything more with the guy, just have fun and let go. So what if you work together, remember what you told me? It's just sex between two adults, it doesn't have to be complicated if you don't make it that way.

    I got a guy drunk and raped him not too long ago. I feel like a sexual predator, but damn it was fun!
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    Default Re: Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    I can never do stuff like this without getting emotionally attached, but if you CAN , it doesn't seem like too bad of an idea.

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    Default Re: Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    I've only been dancing about a month, but from what I gather from my club, it's an ordinary practice for management, DJs, floaters to be banging the girls (and vice versa).


    I have a big fat crush on one of the floaters but I'd never go there.

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    Default Re: Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    Quote Originally Posted by J.D. View Post
    Ahhhh, the flirtatious unspoken electricity. I've experienced it, although it is very rare for me. I would totally draw it out as long as I could and flirt with him, drive him crazy until you both can't take it anymore, then get him nice and tipsy and ravage him. It is very satisfying. Sound familiar? LOL. Live for the moment, without thinking about long term or anything more with the guy, just have fun and let go. So what if you work together, remember what you told me? It's just sex between two adults, it doesn't have to be complicated if you don't make it that way.

    I got a guy drunk and raped him not too long ago. I feel like a sexual predator, but damn it was fun!
    Yeah, you're right. I just don't want to be the chick that everyone whispers DID YOU HEAR?

    Hahaha Thursday he is all "I'm working at [sister club] tomorrow- come work with me?"

    Did I go? NOPE! He is going to be wrapped around my finger, not vice versa. He works Sunday at my club. And I intend to torture him.

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    Default Re: Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    Just don't get attached. I did and now my Friday nights are miserable.

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    Default Re: Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    If you aren't planning on any bf's for a while then you definitely need to find yourself a good fuck buddy. These are some of the best sex I've ever had and how I managed to get through college unscathed. FB's FTW!

    There's just something intrinsically hot about non-committal sex.


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    Default Re: Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    Gawd, most of the bars where I work, (if there IS a DJ) the DJ is some fat guy. Either that, or it's a guy who is a total Star Trek nerd. LoL.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    Yeah, you're right. I just don't want to be the chick that everyone whispers DID YOU HEAR?

    Hahaha Thursday he is all "I'm working at [sister club] tomorrow- come work with me?"

    Did I go? NOPE! He is going to be wrapped around my finger, not vice versa. He works Sunday at my club. And I intend to torture him.

    I have to say this

    " It is pretty damned bad when we, who work in the Adult Entertainment Industry, and by doing said job, throw our middle fingers in the air at society by doing the very job we do, are worried about ignorant people; whos lives are so dull and boring whispering about what we chose to do on our own time because their time is a wasteland of flaming broken dreams. Why worry about those people and why should any of us care what they think!"

    Enjoy blowing the guys mind, have your way with him, its empowering especially after the end of a relationship, it also gets the rebound thing over too.

    What is the point of regret, life is too short to dwell and I want to have a little fun. I know that is not asking too much.

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    Default Re: Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    heres the double standard again. After my breakup I went through the time where I was horny ALL the time. Sometimes it was actually quite painfull and annoying. I was used to getting some every day. I say go for it, use a condom, and make sure you both understand that it should be on the down low since you both work together. Dont fall in love, dont cuddle too much after, and dont let him spend the night. If you do feelings will develop and it will be hard to work together professionally. I want to stress this "dont let the sexual relationship show at work". Protect your reputation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DancingDaisy View Post
    heres the double standard again. After my breakup I went through the time where I was horny ALL the time. Sometimes it was actually quite painfull and annoying. I was used to getting some every day. I say go for it, use a condom, and make sure you both understand that it should be on the down low since you both work together. Dont fall in love, dont cuddle too much after, and dont let him spend the night. If you do feelings will develop and it will be hard to work together professionally. I want to stress this "dont let the sexual relationship show at work". Protect your reputation.
    Oh abso-fucking-lutely. That's what I was stressing about. I'm not being a braggart but I have a very good reputation at work. No one talks shit on me or hates me, I am regarded as being very professional (my lady bartender even told me so last night- I was all aww, thanks dude.). So I don't want and chit chat.

    Good thing is he only works with us one day a week.

    And girl above who said the DJ is usually a fat guy or a nerd- I completely agree! Our other two DJs are a fat guy and an old bitchy dude. I live for the one day a week I get to work with the hot goth guy.

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    Default Re: Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    Hahaha.

    DJ Crush Face plays me a song I like.

    Me: This song is the hottest song ever.
    DJ-CF: I know, right?
    Me: I'd love to have sex to this song.
    DJ-CF: [shoots me an offering look]
    Me: [laughs and walks away]

    DJ-CF: [calls me to the booth]
    Me: You know about your offer? I bet you're married anyway.
    DJ-CF: [shows me empty ring finger]
    Me: [walks away smiling]

    Crushes are funnnnnn.

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    ^^^^ That sounds fun. Wish I could get me one of those.
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    Sometimes fantasies are better than reality! It makes me wonder if the idea is more entertaining than the actual act

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    I love building up unspoken sexual tension, then pouncing on him at the perfect moment.
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    Quote Originally Posted by J.D. View Post
    I love building up unspoken sexual tension, then pouncing on him at the perfect moment.
    I always chicken out at that moment... I should try it out someday.

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    ^ jagerbombs help overcoming that moment. LOL

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    Default Re: Never thought it would happen to me but it did!

    oh boy never a crush on a dj but it happened a couple of times with clients me and my hubby talked about this when I started about the possiblity of getting a crush ,with all the guys and the pretence of being of liking them its was bound to happen some time I said no way but it did.we agreed that as long as I was honest with him he would let me play and true to his word when it happened I was nervous and kept it from him, kissing and snuggling in his new yorker, big car lots of room till I was so hot and horney I took him home to meet hubby telling the guy it was a friend.I got a little drunk and took the guy to shower up, always shower before going into the hot tub.we showered in one of those shower enclosers small and impossible not to shower with out toucing in there.we did it twice before coming out.before hand I asked my husband to if I could, he could see how hot and horney I was and said go for itWhen I came out a half hour later I whispered in a drunken whisper.I did him in the shower he said I know!then I did im again in the hot tub so much for showering first then I had a threesome with my husband and the guy oh man the hotest nigh of se ever.I kept him as a boy toy for a year before I got tired of him.My husband said he knew I would.but it was great not having to hid it or worry about messing up my marriage.it did happen again one other time.the second guy turned out to be a jerk but man he had the equipment and go like a son of a gunIn the end his jerkness over rode the that. my husband must be pretty secure to let me do this.I always come back because he has spoiled me and in comparison all guys seem like jerks in the end.its likely because of the type of guys in the bar.I met my husband in a dating agency before I was a canadian. thats about it crush wise but have had sex with a few managers/owners because I liked the club and wanted a easy time there.never any other bar emploies.
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