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    Hi I've been lurking for a bit. I've gone to the same club twice now and to see only one girl. The first time was my first time ever at a SC. I could go into all sorts of details about the things we talked about , most of them seemed like really personal stuff a dancer shouldn't be sharing with potential regular customers.

    I went in the first time with coworkers to see what an SC was all about. I hadn't planned on meeting such a nice girl. I told her it was my first time and she told me her stage name and her "real name". Basically, I've been a very good customer according to what everyone has been saying here. I've bought some private dances from her and one VIP just to see what that was all about and because I believe she was worth it. In the VIP we mostly talked, I genuinely am interested in her. I did the VIP on my 2nd visit. I've always kept my hands to myself and she was the one to take my hands to where she wanted them. In a moment of passion I asked her a favor and she said she'd do it for me (not sex). Basically I really really loved her nipples...

    I'm not used to the sort of attention I get from her, and I know that on some level it started out as part of her job to "hustle" me. She gave me a story initially that later changed into what I believe is a truer story about her. She'd come sit with me when she had free time. She's said many times how cute and nice I was, and I over heard her talking to fellow dancer about how I was "cute too"....I don't know what else was discussed of course.

    I know I'm being a bit ambiguous because I am aware she might actually frequent this forum.

    Obviously I am physically attracted to her, but I really like the way she is so candid with me about alot of things, such as the workings of the club and her job and tells me about some of her customers and coworkers and some of her private life. I'm coming off a bad relationship where my SO hurt me beyond mentioning. I told her about it. An honest attractive person is a breath of fresh air.

    She tells me that my SO is probably gonna screw up again and that I should give other people a chance.

    She's given me kisses on the cheek. Hugs. I've respected her time when she goes around to mingle with the customers or dance on stage or do private dances.

    The problem is... I am about to do the worst thing (according to many here) a customer could do. I want to get to know her beyond the club, I personally am not much of a SC 'er, I went back to see her.


    She gave me her number after our VIP even though I didn't ask for it. I 've yet to call her number since I know plenty of people are probably bugging her on the phone. It's more than likely it's her extra phone for customers only. I've texted twice with no reply I'm not sure if she can text back.


    There is a high possibility, much of what she was doing is was just another version of a hustle. In part of our conversation she's mentioned that she was willing to teach me about an aspect of gambling at the casinos. of which I have no experience and I would assume we'd both have to be there to learn hands on. I was thinking about asking her to follow thru with that with me sometime. I don't expect sex , just her company and to get to know her beyond her club persona.

    I've done one possible faux pas,... I asked her if it was alright to get a dance from another dancer, she basically said it would bad for her business wise, but she knew that the particular dancer was a "nice girl", and she seemed ok with it. I just wanted the experience and the other girl was very good at dancing on stage and seemed like they were friends. I mentioned to the other girl that I really liked my dancer and she had great things to say about her. She gave me a VERY clean dance in comparison, maybe because of that.

    I don't believe I'm a "White Knight", I don't have deep pockets and I don't want to "save" her from her profession. I am fine with what she does as long has she has a healthy set boundary. She's made it clear to me about her boundaries, well for the most part... at least with me. If anything I'm a Red Knight or a Black Knight?

    Basically if it turns out that she won't see me beyond the club, I don't want to be a "PL" or a "Regular". I will give up on SC's because I can't take this kind of hustle , if indeed this is what it turns out to be. I've had an acquaintance who starting stripping a while back which I found out way later. I liked them as a person and this has helped me understand that dancers can be ordinary people we know and has given me a balanced outlook. (IMO)

    I'd like to hear opinions from dancers or customer about whether or not any of this is ordinary behavior for a dancer and customer. If anyone ever dated a customer and vice versa, how did he/she ask you and why did you accept?
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    Unless the text messages where "Hi, when are you working again so I can come in and see you" don't expect to hear back from her.

    She is a dancer. It is her job to pay attention to you and make you want to spend time with her.
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    Truthfully your having your first crush all over again with this lady. I have heard that you can find deep relationships between dancer and customer but be vary careful and take it at face value and see were it leads, you never know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Unless the text messages where "Hi, when are you working again so I can come in and see you" don't expect to hear back from her.

    She is a dancer. It is her job to pay attention to you and make you want to spend time with her.
    Yes, my last text message was this. No reply thus far.

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    If she doesn't answer your texts...

    "she just not that into you."

    If any woman is interested for a man, she will respond to his communications. No one, especially not a stripper who has plenty of time sitting around when the club is dead...doesn't have time for a quick text message.

    Sorry, everything you've said 1,000,000 % tells me you are a customer.

    And you don't need to ask her permission to get a dance with another dancer, its your money. Grow a pair man.

    Also, nice way to already be judgemental. You're ok with her stripping as long as she has "boundaries." That stinks of judgement. Even if you were to date her, I guarantee that it would only take a few weeks for you to start taking issue with the entire thing.

    But, hey, she might become a good gambling buddy to you!

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    You said it at the end, you are a customer. For me, even if i really really liked a customer who had a dance of me, if im in the club, it's buisness, jus coz i chat and flirt and divulge ''secrets'' doesnt mean i want to date them.

    Most of what you said about the chat and the ''you're cute'' thing sounds like hustle, i tell customers the same thing, just coz its something i say! I am honest and quite candid about things too, maybe that's just her personality.

    The number she gave you is, chances are, a work number, just like i give out my work facebook with my ''real name'' on it, if the customer things he is is getting something a bit special they will come back and pay more. If you like her, keep spending on her, that will make her like you more, but you will probably never be more than a reg. If she hasnt txt bk then thats coz she cnt be bothered (no offence) but she working, she makes money, she can afford to top up credit and txt u back if she wanted too.

    Dont think im being mean, im just thinking about it from my POV, she probably thought u were a nice guy but most dancers i know (including me) wdnt consider meeting a customer outside the club even if they did really like them.

    It sounds like hustle to me, if its not and she does really like ya then Good luck to you, but dont be hurt or upset if she doesnt want to know you beyond the walls of the VIP!
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    Quote Originally Posted by KiwiStrawberry Splenda View Post
    If she doesn't answer your texts...

    "she just not that into you."

    If any woman is interested for a man, she will respond to his communications. No one, especially not a stripper who has plenty of time sitting around when the club is dead...doesn't have time for a quick text message.

    Sorry, everything you've said 1,000,000 % tells me you are a customer.

    And you don't need to ask her permission to get a dance with another dancer, its your money. Grow a pair man.

    Also, nice way to already be judgemental. You're ok with her stripping as long as she has "boundaries." That stinks of judgement. Even if you were to date her, I guarantee that it would only take a few weeks for you to start taking issue with the entire thing.

    But, hey, she might become a good gambling buddy to you!
    Wow. I'll stick to a simple response. Your response is so loaded.

    She herself mentioned to me how she doesn't go as far as other dancers. I ASSUME there is more going on than what we've done based on that and from what so many people here imply or state. I'm not really headed for a "date". We both are not free to date at this time.

    She mentioned something about her phone being at home. And if she hasn't texted back about a simple (customer) "when will you be dancing again" question then I assume at this time she can't text. I will ask her about it next time I talk to her directly.

    As for the indications that I am a customer. She's asked me only once for a dance and that was the first time I was there. Ever since then , I have been the one asking for a dance with her. She has a set schedule but according to her management she sometimes only shows up once a week, so she might not have as many "dead nights" as you'd call it.

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    Thanks for sharing. Its always interesting to see it from the other side.

    Here's mine Sounds like thousands of conversations going on in strip clubs every day. I can't speak for her but I can tell you from my experience there is a 99.99999% chance she only sees you as a customer. And she may want to meet you OTC at the casino but she also probably expects you to pay for everything. I don't mean to be harsh but you mentioned you were new to SC and knowing this could save you a heap of trouble.

    First of all, the SC is NOT a dating service. The scenario where the stripper falls in love with her customer and they ride off in to the sunset is a far fetched fantasy. Does it happen from time to time? Sure. Is it likely in your case? No. She would be making plans (and following through with) to see you. At the very least she would text you back. You are reading too much into things. It seems you've analyzed, over-analyzed and re-analyzed every move this girl has made. You said she made her boundaries clear, maybe we should look at those. More than likely she is trying to tell you she is not going to have a relationship beyond that with a customer.

    Now before you go swearing off the SC forever, consider this; You mentioned you were coming off a bad relationship that was devastating, right? Think about how her company makes you feel. You, yourself said "I'm not used to the sort of attention I get from her" and "an honest attractive person is a breath of fresh air". Obviously her time and attention mean something to you and you enjoy being able talk about things with her and get her perspective. There's nothing wrong with that. I get where you're coming from, but you gotta understand where we are coming from. The SC should serve as a pleasant escape and it sounds like it is without all the unrealistic expectations you are putting on it. Stay in the moment and enjoy.

    To be honest, it doesn't sound like she's done a whole lot to mislead you. Not to say she did everything by the book but it doesn't sound like she promised you anything that would suggest your acquaintance was headed in that direction.

    You can't date your therapist and you can't talk to 'em for free. We work the same way.

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    Thank you, this is one of the best responses yet! My only choice is to find out by asking her it seems. I would like to hear from those who HAVE dated a customer as well? I've seen quite a few talking about it but no details on how it played out.


    Quote Originally Posted by GlitterBexie View Post
    You said it at the end, you are a customer. For me, even if i really really liked a customer who had a dance of me, if im in the club, it's buisness, jus coz i chat and flirt and divulge ''secrets'' doesnt mean i want to date them.

    Most of what you said about the chat and the ''you're cute'' thing sounds like hustle, i tell customers the same thing, just coz its something i say! I am honest and quite candid about things too, maybe that's just her personality.

    The number she gave you is, chances are, a work number, just like i give out my work facebook with my ''real name'' on it, if the customer things he is is getting something a bit special they will come back and pay more. If you like her, keep spending on her, that will make her like you more, but you will probably never be more than a reg. If she hasnt txt bk then thats coz she cnt be bothered (no offence) but she working, she makes money, she can afford to top up credit and txt u back if she wanted too.

    Dont think im being mean, im just thinking about it from my POV, she probably thought u were a nice guy but most dancers i know (including me) wdnt consider meeting a customer outside the club even if they did really like them.

    It sounds like hustle to me, if its not and she does really like ya then Good luck to you, but dont be hurt or upset if she doesnt want to know you beyond the walls of the VIP!

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    Where to begin.....

    Quote Originally Posted by ROGERRABBIT View Post
    I could go into all sorts of details about the things we talked about , most of them seemed like really personal stuff a dancer shouldn't be sharing with potential regular customers.
    Which may or may not have been true depending on the dancer. Some dancers (in the right circumstances) can be very open. Others are adept at telling customers what they want to hear.

    Quote Originally Posted by ROGERRABBIT View Post
    I hadn't planned on meeting such a nice girl. I told her it was my first time and she told me her stage name and her "real name".
    I'm glad you put "real name" in quotes - because the odds are that wasn't it. Most dancers know customers want to get their real name as a precursor to getting their phone number, and will quote often have a "real name" ready for the occasion.

    Quote Originally Posted by ROGERRABBIT View Post
    Basically, I've been a very good customer according to what everyone has been saying here...In a moment of passion I asked her a favor and she said she'd do it for me (not sex). Basically I really really loved her nipples...
    Oops - munching on her nipples may not be the best way to her heart.....

    Quote Originally Posted by ROGERRABBIT View Post
    She'd come sit with me when she had free time. She's said many times how cute and nice I was, and I over heard her talking to fellow dancer about how I was "cute too"....
    You have to differentiate between 'customer' and 'OTC SO'. The two are very different. I know dancers who genuinely like the hell out of some of their customers at the club, but have no intention of seeing them outside.

    Dancers tend to want a degree of mental separation between their work and their private life, so they tend to mentally pigeonhole people as 'friends' or 'customers' and generally the two don't overlap.

    Quote Originally Posted by ROGERRABBIT View Post
    The problem is... I am about to do the worst thing (according to many here) a customer could do. I want to get to know her beyond the club, I personally am not much of a SC 'er, I went back to see her.
    If she genuinely wants to see you OTC, trust me, she'll let you know.

    Quote Originally Posted by ROGERRABBIT View Post
    I don't expect sex , just her company and to get to know her beyond her club persona.
    Unfortunately, the girl you like OTC may be very different from the one you meet at work. For sure, she'll dress more conservatively, have different make up and probably have a rather different personality.

    Quote Originally Posted by ROGERRABBIT View Post
    Basically if it turns out that she won't see me beyond the club, I don't want to be a "PL" or a "Regular". I will give up on SC's because I can't take this kind of hustle...
    If she doesn't want to see you OTC, you don't have to be a PL or regular - just realistic. Go in from time to time, get dances and enjoy yourself. It doesn't have to be any more complicated than that.

    Quote Originally Posted by ROGERRABBIT View Post
    I've had an acquaintance who starting stripping a while back which I found out way later. I liked them as a person and this has helped me understand that dancers can be ordinary people we know and has given me a balanced outlook. (IMO)
    Or to be more precise, generally are ordinary people outside of work.

    Quote Originally Posted by ROGERRABBIT View Post
    If anyone ever dated a customer and vice versa, how did he/she ask you and why did you accept?
    I regard several dancers as OTC friends. They asked me to meet them outside of work, and not vice versa.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TeaganDarling View Post
    Thanks for sharing. Its always interesting to see it from the other side.

    Here's mine Sounds like thousands of conversations going on in strip clubs every day. I can't speak for her but I can tell you from my experience there is a 99.99999% chance she only sees you as a customer. And she may want to meet you OTC at the casino but she also probably expects you to pay for everything. I don't mean to be harsh but you mentioned you were new to SC and knowing this could save you a heap of trouble.

    First of all, the SC is NOT a dating service. The scenario where the stripper falls in love with her customer and they ride off in to the sunset is a far fetched fantasy. Does it happen from time to time? Sure. Is it likely in your case? No. She would be making plans (and following through with) to see you. At the very least she would text you back. You are reading too much into things. It seems you've analyzed, over-analyzed and re-analyzed every move this girl has made. You said she made her boundaries clear, maybe we should look at those. More than likely she is trying to tell you she is not going to have a relationship beyond that with a customer.

    Now before you go swearing off the SC forever, consider this; You mentioned you were coming off a bad relationship that was devastating, right? Think about how her company makes you feel. You, yourself said "I'm not used to the sort of attention I get from her" and "an honest attractive person is a breath of fresh air". Obviously her time and attention mean something to you and you enjoy being able talk about things with her and get her perspective. There's nothing wrong with that. I get where you're coming from, but you gotta understand where we are coming from. The SC should serve as a pleasant escape and it sounds like it is without all the unrealistic expectations you are putting on it. Stay in the moment and enjoy.

    To be honest, it doesn't sound like she's done a whole lot to mislead you. Not to say she did everything by the book but it doesn't sound like she promised you anything that would suggest your acquaintance was headed in that direction.

    You can't date your therapist and you can't talk to 'em for free. We work the same way.

    Thank you Teagan. That is quite honest and you are right about many things. You make a good point against totally swearing off SC's.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ROGERRABBIT View Post
    Thank you Teagan. That is quite honest and you are right about many things. You make a good point against totally swearing off SC's.
    Yeah, SC's just aren't for everyone. If you are looking for some no strings attached sexy fun, then the strip club will satisfy. If you fall in love too easily, the strip club can be sheer torture.


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    Quote Originally Posted by ROGERRABBIT View Post
    Thank you Teagan. That is quite honest and you are right about many things. You make a good point against totally swearing off SC's.
    You know what they say about throwing the baby out with the bath water.

    SCs were made for fun, so have a little.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phil-W View Post
    Oops - munching on her nipples may not be the best way to her heart.....

    Phil.
    Ya... I know. I apologized to her about even asking for that on my 2nd visit. It was in the heat of the moment.


    Thank you for the nice breakdown I think you are right possibly on the "they will ask you" part. Has anyone gone out with a customer who asked them out?


    Next time I go in I'm not getting anymore dances..(most likely) I will pay for her time to talk though since that is really what I want to do next visit.

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    You're welcome, was just being honest. A lot of dancers i know tell men theyre single when they have a bf sat at home, the idea of availability seems more appealing to some customers i suppose. I am single, so i tell the truth, which often leads to a ''no you're not'' so i tell them ''believe what ya want to believe haha'',

    As a P.S, you probably wdnt recognise her out of the club, i kno for a fact i look nothing like i do at work in real life! There is also a tendecy for a ''work persona'' at work as ''Nikki'' (real name ''Nicole, no really, i cdnt remember two whole names'') I act a lot dizzier and cuter than would ever become me in real life, despite her giving you her ''life story'' she is probably a completely different person outside.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GlitterBexie View Post
    You're welcome, was just being honest. A lot of dancers i know tell men theyre single when they have a bf sat at home, the idea of availability seems more appealing to some customers i suppose. I am single, so i tell the truth, which often leads to a ''no you're not'' so i tell them ''believe what ya want to believe haha'',

    As a P.S, you probably wdnt recognise her out of the club, i kno for a fact i look nothing like i do at work in real life! There is also a tendecy for a ''work persona'' at work as ''Nikki'' (real name ''Nicole, no really, i cdnt remember two whole names'') I act a lot dizzier and cuter than would ever become me in real life, despite her giving you her ''life story'' she is probably a completely different person outside.

    Go in, have dances, have fun, see boobs, but don't expect more than that
    She did not say she was single....the opposite. Weird enough? I would love to see her in her everyday clothes , I'm not phased by what she is wearing at work, I know its her work clothes. At first she tried to be ditzy, I didn't respond too well to that , she changed her persona after that, I like smart women and she is definately smart/sharp from my observations. I know she is extra nice, but I really want to see some bad side in her, to see the real her thats why I say I'd like to see her outside of the club beyond her persona.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ROGERRABBIT View Post
    I know she is extra nice, but I really want to see some bad side in her, to see the real her thats why I say I'd like to see her outside of the club beyond her persona.
    One dancer whom I see OTC's idea of a good time is to curl up on her sofa wearing a ratty dressing gown, no make up and a manky pair of slippers, while helping me see off a bottle of wine over several hours.

    It got really exciting last time - I got to help her assemble some flat pack furniture she'd brought a day or two back.

    Ah, the glamor of it all........

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    No, i know, i meant to also write ...some girls will tell you about their terrible current bf who treats them badly/messes up etc as a tactic...but the dog started barking downstairs and i pressed post b4 id edited.

    If she changes her persona to suit you, then its definetly all part of a hustle. I can do both. If she knows you as a custy then you will (chances are) never see the ''real her'' she wants you to come back and spend money. If i saw a custy outside the club (which i have done on a night out) I slip into club persona, Its just easier.

    Im sure she's lovely and you probably are too, but (as i see it) its far to dangerous to consort with customers on a personal OTC basis, i know everyone can be mad/bad/scary, but I (personally) could never go out with someone id met completely in the club, I would never want a customer knowing my phone number, my address, etc, too much at stake/too much to lose.

    Go spend on her and have funnnn, but don't take it seriously, if she wants to see you, she'll tell you, but if you badger her to meet you, it'll just get on her nerves (i know it does mine! hehe)
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    Quote Originally Posted by GlitterBexie View Post
    No, i know, i meant to also write ...some girls will tell you about their terrible current bf who treats them badly/messes up etc as a tactic...but the dog started barking downstairs and i pressed post b4 id edited.

    If she changes her persona to suit you, then its definetly all part of a hustle. I can do both. If she knows you as a custy then you will (chances are) never see the ''real her'' she wants you to come back and spend money. If i saw a custy outside the club (which i have done on a night out) I slip into club persona, Its just easier.

    Im sure she's lovely and you probably are too, but (as i see it) its far to dangerous to consort with customers on a personal OTC basis, i know everyone can be mad/bad/scary, but I (personally) could never go out with someone id met completely in the club, I would never want a customer knowing my phone number, my address, etc, too much at stake/too much to lose.

    Go spend on her and have funnnn, but don't take it seriously, if she wants to see you, she'll tell you, but if you badger her to meet you, it'll just get on her nerves (i know it does mine! hehe)
    To be more specific... she mentioned the M word and then the D word. I guess it kinda rests within the "bad bf" hustle. She didn't go into details about why, or any negativity though. And yet.... she could have just said he was a bf. I totally understand about the privacy part, I also gave her my 2nd phone number hah. She still doesn't know my full real name and yea I don't know if her true personality is psychotic either.

    The general concensus so far seems to be , don't ask her to meet.... she'll ask you if she wants to.

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    You know all the SC lingo from this site and have read enough to know how SCs work, yet after your 2nd visit to a SC you're acting this way. I'm a little skeptical of this whole story.

    How old are you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SteveSmith View Post
    You know all the SC lingo from this site and have read enough to know how SCs work, yet after your 2nd visit to a SC you're acting this way. I'm a little skeptical of this whole story.

    How old are you?
    Well I didn't start reading until my 2nd visit. I'm not sure what my age has to do with it? I'm not a teenager if that is what you are asking. What is there to be skeptical about? Was something out of the ordinary mentioned?

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    Thank you, this is one of the best responses yet! My only choice is to find out by asking her it seems. I would like to hear from those who HAVE dated a customer as well? I've seen quite a few talking about it but no details on how it played out.
    I've dated a customer. He spent money on me, and I made it VERY VERY VERY crystal fucking clear that I wanted to see him outside of work. When he called (or maybe I called, not sure), I immediately answered and made plans to see him outside the club.

    Its really that simple. If she was into you in any way, she would let you know.

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    Definetly, if she asks you, then woop woop, but don't pester! hehe! You gotta see it from our (my?) POV, we get men asking us out/wanting to take us out/marriage proposals etc every night we work, the glamour and excitment of lost on me personally, we see what i spose could be termed maybe as the bad side of men, coz the SC is naughty/sexy/fun all in one go.

    When someone pays to see me naked chances are Im not going to let him take me out, I don't play mind games and Im an upfront kinda gal, but for me, the thrill of the chase would be lost if he'd paid a tenner to see my cootchie! Haha! Who knows, maybe I will meet someone in the club and my mind will be changed, currently Im cynical!

    At the end of it, we're selling a fantasy, Im a stripper, but right now, Im sat in my PJs and dressing gown thinking about plucking my eyebrows with no make up on and a pile of vitamins Im about to take, I doubt ud want a dance off me at the minute haha.

    The not texting you back is keeping ya keen, so its working, you'll go back and spend money to chat, maybe she's worked u out better than u kno hehe
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    You're being played. If you're ok with that than there's no problem, if you're not, I suggest you start going in for other dancers or stop going all together.
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    Yes, my last text message was this. No reply thus far.
    Hmmm...sounds like you are mixed-up with a really dumb stripper....either that or she really likes you.
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