Hi I've been lurking for a bit. I've gone to the same club twice now and to see only one girl. The first time was my first time ever at a SC. I could go into all sorts of details about the things we talked about , most of them seemed like really personal stuff a dancer shouldn't be sharing with potential regular customers.
I went in the first time with coworkers to see what an SC was all about. I hadn't planned on meeting such a nice girl. I told her it was my first time and she told me her stage name and her "real name". Basically, I've been a very good customer according to what everyone has been saying here. I've bought some private dances from her and one VIP just to see what that was all about and because I believe she was worth it. In the VIP we mostly talked, I genuinely am interested in her. I did the VIP on my 2nd visit. I've always kept my hands to myself and she was the one to take my hands to where she wanted them. In a moment of passion I asked her a favor and she said she'd do it for me (not sex). Basically I really really loved her nipples...![]()
I'm not used to the sort of attention I get from her, and I know that on some level it started out as part of her job to "hustle" me. She gave me a story initially that later changed into what I believe is a truer story about her. She'd come sit with me when she had free time. She's said many times how cute and nice I was, and I over heard her talking to fellow dancer about how I was "cute too"....I don't know what else was discussed of course.
I know I'm being a bit ambiguous because I am aware she might actually frequent this forum.
Obviously I am physically attracted to her, but I really like the way she is so candid with me about alot of things, such as the workings of the club and her job and tells me about some of her customers and coworkers and some of her private life. I'm coming off a bad relationship where my SO hurt me beyond mentioning. I told her about it. An honest attractive person is a breath of fresh air.
She tells me that my SO is probably gonna screw up again and that I should give other people a chance.
She's given me kisses on the cheek. Hugs. I've respected her time when she goes around to mingle with the customers or dance on stage or do private dances.
The problem is... I am about to do the worst thing (according to many here) a customer could do. I want to get to know her beyond the club, I personally am not much of a SC 'er, I went back to see her.
She gave me her number after our VIP even though I didn't ask for it. I 've yet to call her number since I know plenty of people are probably bugging her on the phone. It's more than likely it's her extra phone for customers only. I've texted twice with no reply I'm not sure if she can text back.
There is a high possibility, much of what she was doing is was just another version of a hustle. In part of our conversation she's mentioned that she was willing to teach me about an aspect of gambling at the casinos. of which I have no experience and I would assume we'd both have to be there to learn hands on. I was thinking about asking her to follow thru with that with me sometime. I don't expect sex , just her company and to get to know her beyond her club persona.
I've done one possible faux pas,... I asked her if it was alright to get a dance from another dancer, she basically said it would bad for her business wise, but she knew that the particular dancer was a "nice girl", and she seemed ok with it. I just wanted the experience and the other girl was very good at dancing on stage and seemed like they were friends. I mentioned to the other girl that I really liked my dancer and she had great things to say about her. She gave me a VERY clean dance in comparison, maybe because of that.
I don't believe I'm a "White Knight", I don't have deep pockets and I don't want to "save" her from her profession. I am fine with what she does as long has she has a healthy set boundary. She's made it clear to me about her boundaries, well for the most part... at least with me. If anything I'm a Red Knight or a Black Knight?
Basically if it turns out that she won't see me beyond the club, I don't want to be a "PL" or a "Regular". I will give up on SC's because I can't take this kind of hustle , if indeed this is what it turns out to be. I've had an acquaintance who starting stripping a while back which I found out way later. I liked them as a person and this has helped me understand that dancers can be ordinary people we know and has given me a balanced outlook. (IMO)
I'd like to hear opinions from dancers or customer about whether or not any of this is ordinary behavior for a dancer and customer. If anyone ever dated a customer and vice versa, how did he/she ask you and why did you accept?



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Truthfully your having your first crush all over again with this lady. I have heard that you can find deep relationships between dancer and customer but be vary careful and take it at face value and see were it leads, you never know.
, she changed her persona after that, I like smart women and she is definately smart/sharp from my observations. I know she is extra nice, but I really want to see some bad side in her, to see the real her thats why I say I'd like to see her outside of the club beyond her persona.



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