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    Thumbs up Being a stripper taught me.....

    .. to stand up for myself when i would normally try and ignore a situation

    ...that i dont have to be nice to every guy at the bar to crack a chatup line at me durnig a night out

    ...who my real, open minded friends are not to judge me for my profession

    ...that it is possible to earn large amounts of cash and to educate myself so i can match my lifestyle when i quit

    ...to be a better conversationalist and not to be shy around strangers, they can actually be really cool or waiting for me to speak up

    ...not to be put down by guys being smart coz of my clothing style hair colour etc when hundreds of them are waiting to spend money on me the following night regardless of these imperfections


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    Great thread topic!

    - That I am totally and fully responsible for myself and where my life goes

    - That money doesn't grow on trees... but large amounts can easily be obtained

    - That I am not defined by what I do, but by how I do it

    - That who I was 10 years ago doesn't have to be who I am today

    - That taking care of my appearance (dressing up) makes me feel more confident and I do better in life

    - That life is like water... constantly moving and changing. Working or moving means meeting new people and having new experiences. If you don't change everything around you still will and you'll be left behind!

    - Don't ever put yourself down. Just because you don't think you are good enough doesn't mean you shouldn't try something... you may just be surprised by the outcome!

    - You're never too old.
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    Default Re: Being a stripper taught me.....

    ...humility.

    ...to laugh at myself.

    ...how to make work LESS of a chore.

    ...how to have intense conversations with people.

    ...how handle rude or obnoxious customers - for the most part.

    ...to be able to approach and talk to anyone.

    ...to smile even when I don't feel like smiling.

    ...to slow down, even when things around me seem fast-paced.

    ...to spend money more wisely.

    ...to establish boundaries.

    ...to be my own boss.

    ...to make the most of the time I have with someone.

    ...to persevere.

    ...that there's somebody for everybody - there IS enough money to go around.

    ...to believe in myself and others.

    ...how NOT treat others.

    ...to always trust my instincts.

    ...how to take a compliment.

    ...how to give a compliment.

    ...how to help someone else or BE helped.

    ...that sometimes it's fun to take a chance and go to new places or try new things.
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    Default Re: Being a stripper taught me.....

    - CEO's and high flying executives are just normal people
    - If you don't ask, you don't get
    - How to treat someone special and make them feel important
    - How to entertain
    - When to speak and when to just listen
    - Money that easily comes can easily go, so best to have a plan B
    - Too much alcohol or drugs is evil!
    - How to look damn hot!
    - I have a lot to be thankful for (when I hear stories of workmates or custies lives)
    - How/when to be passive and how/when to be aggressive
    - To use my body language (I used to be a very cold, shut person. Now if I like someone in the real world I send them stripper signals)

    There a billion things. Dancing is a huge learning experience. I need to put some of these skills to practice more often... thanks for the reminder.

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    Default Re: Being a stripper taught me.....

    to not really care bout what men think.

    to know how 98 percent of men are ...pigs and look at women only in sexual way at first.

    to know how to react to drunk losers who talk their own game.

    to make alot of money and respect myself because im not one of the whores at work!

    save money now since it is fun to blow alot in the beginning.

    to know what a good man is and ones in the strip club are not!

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    To always treat people with the same respect they give.

    that strippers aren't nearly as bitchy as people make out

    how to mix songs to make a killer stage show.

    how to turn my clumsiness into a positive thing.

    how to get drinks bought for me when i go out normally

    that the only reason i make money is because nudity is taboo.

    how to dance to *any song* how to tell my mother to "shove it" when she talks about any weight gain. (i'm still a size 10 damnit)
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    Default Re: Being a stripper taught me.....

    .....also to get to know many & different types of men without excessive dating so you know what traits youre looking for and avoiding when settling down

    ...how to handle absolutely any situation with grace

    ...not to be a compulsive overthinker- shit happens all the time, you cant waste time and dwell on it

    ...talk you way into getting anything you want


    thats true though ceo's and other big cheese are all human just like the fella at the corner store

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    Default Re: Being a stripper taught me.....

    Stripping has taught me:

    How "flaws" can be great assets.

    How to always strive for more yet never forget to be grateful for what I have.

    My own value, and how it has nothing to do with $$$

    To not internalize anger and pain, but let them pass through me.

    How to remember to laugh under any circumstances.

    The benefits of solitude.

    The difference between the truth and everything else...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jessie_tinydancer View Post
    - CEO's and high flying executives are just normal people
    I have to somewhat disagree with this considering I have had a CEO or two disclose some weird fetishes in the CR. And I had one spend his entire hour basically making out with my armpit because it was his "favorite spot."

    Then again, i guess normal people have weird sexual fetishes too. So yea, i guess they are on the same level as the rest of the population! Normal-ish, but weird as hell in bed!

    I will have to post my own list soon, there has been so much! But right now i am supposed to be studying for finals... which is why ive been on here so much the past few days distracting myself lol.

    Re kylea: +1 on the being responsible for where our own lives go. I think that is actually the top of my list! Dancing was probably the biggest thing in my life that kicked me into taking responsibility for my stuff and moving past the being babysat at college phase. I mean ive been out of my parents house since 17, but i was in that wierd limbo that most college students are in where i had no sense of self or where i was going or sense of ability to make my situation more than a crazy drunk party fest!
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: Being a stripper taught me.....

    That sometimes it only takes one guy or one hour (the magic hour: 1am-2am) to change your night!

    That a dancer can appeal to many different guys for several different reasons, just by being her best self.

    That worth and wealth are truly unquantifiable.

    That you can make a large amount of money or next to nothing looking your personal best OR worst.

    That women rule the world! Or, at least men's wallets!
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    that i am worth faaar more than i was giving myself credit for (pre-dancing)

    that it took me approximately ten minutes to get used to being in a g-string and bra, in a club, with 20 other girls, and for it not to seem wierd!

    that im a lot more determined than i thought!
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    -That i can earn money to take care of myself when a 'normal' job is nowhere to be found

    -That many men put up with women they don't find attractive anymore

    -That many women will put up with behaviour they don't like, or indulge in things they don't like, to keep their man

    -To know my worth as a professional sex object

    -That people who jump to stereotyped conclusions and can't accept the truth about my being a stripper aren't worth my time

    -That people who jump to stereotyped conclusions and can't accept the truth about my being a stripper often behave, or know people who behave, in morally reprehensible ways but rtansfer all of their negative feelings about it onto you because your 'a stripper' = easy target

    -That many - most! strip club owners have bad business models

    -That people don't tip in England!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    I have to somewhat disagree with this considering I have had a CEO or two disclose some weird fetishes in the CR. And I had one spend his entire hour basically making out with my armpit because it was his "favorite spot."
    We seriously need to talk! Did I tell you about the guy from Alabama... same thing! Blew tons of money on me in VIP and begged me to go to Europe with him... probably so my "pits" would always be around. Some people are just different. LOL
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    Quote Originally Posted by spartaca View Post
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    -That people who jump to stereotyped conclusions and can't accept the truth about my being a stripper often behave, or know people who behave, in morally reprehensible ways but rtansfer all of their negative feelings about it onto you because your 'a stripper' = easy target
    i know!! ive been called a lazy immature floozy heading for prostitution and drug addiction, who changed sooo much, who is throwing away her life and jeportising her future... BY.. by.... an ex who turned homosexual, works 5 night jobs while studying, who done all available drugs when he went to thailand and sleeps with a different guy every weekend.

    yeah.

    please tell me this happened so someone else too just so i dont feel so fucked

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    Default Re: Being a stripper taught me.....

    The above posts are fantastic and true true true!
    I will add a few

    ....streotypes are dumb and judging others harshly only reflects badly on yourself.

    ....I am beautiful, intelligent, powerful, extremely strong and WORTHY. (the most important thing dancing has taught me.)

    ...Sex is NOT love, not even close. (strange I know.. But it took me being in this sex industry to learn this...)

    ...people will always try to take advantage, the key is to be strong, stand your ground, and not let people walk all over you.

    ....you are in charge of your own life

    ...determination and hard work pays off, life is yours for the taking, you just have to want it and go after it.

    ...women have MUCH more power than we are taught, and I believe we are smarter too

    ...to treat everyone i come across with respect and as kindly as possible.. and to take each person for who they are.

    ...people's opinions don't really matter, what matters is how you feel about yourself, your life, and the person you are.

    ....Money doesn't buy happiness!! Yes, it makes life easier, but self love, good relationships, and family make happiness..


    GREAT thread. Thank you, sincerly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anouk.oui View Post
    i know!! ive been called a lazy immature floozy heading for prostitution and drug addiction, who changed sooo much, who is throwing away her life and jeportising her future... BY.. by.... an ex who turned homosexual, works 5 night jobs while studying, who done all available drugs when he went to thailand and sleeps with a different guy every weekend.

    yeah.

    please tell me this happened so someone else too just so i dont feel so fucked
    Yes, I was regularly called a whore and a slut by an ex who went out and screwed some girl hejust met in a car park cuz we argued over his disrespectful attitude to me.

    He also had a mother and stepfather who regularly cheated on each other and had threesomes with the neighbours. Whereas I am the most loyal faithful one guy girl you will ever meet and he had no reason to doubt me.
    So don't worry hon, those people aren't worth a second more of our thought or energy.

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    -how to stand up for myself and not shit from anyone, ever

    -that money is nice but not the most important thing in the world

    -how to be comfortable with my sexuality

    -to be comfortable with myself and not give a fuck what people think

    -how to read men very quickly and spot ones that lie and don't treat women with respect-- but also know that not all men are bad

    -that having a great personality will always beat being beautiful

    -that I am more than capable of taking care and being responsible for myself

    -how to get over my shyness and insecurities and be outgoing and confident

    -how to manage money, responsibly

    -that I am a beautiful, intelligent, interesting and sexy woman and any man would be lucky to have me

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    how to stick butt out and wiggle it when i walk

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    -education or lack of it doesn't make you a lessor person (same goes for money)
    - everyone's limits are different and just because yours are longer/shorter than others doesn't make you a slut/prude.
    -Once someone forms an opinion it's almost impossible to change it (so first impressions DO count)
    -the only person's opinion of me that matters is myself
    -How to randomly strike up a conversation
    -how to make people feel comfortable
    -Not to put up with crap
    -how to let nasty comments from losers go over my head (and turn it into a joke on them)

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    Default Re: Being a stripper taught me.....

    -how to fake it 'til i make it
    -how to walk, run, and dance in high platforms like they're flats
    -how to profile customers
    -that everybody wants to be a stripper but no one wants to be a stripper
    -to be slow to anger
    -that the job is way more mental than physical

    that's all i think of for now.

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    -Rich executives are meaner than blue collar guys AND they have an entitlement mentality.
    -Sex is COMPLETELY separate from affection for men, one has no effect on the other.
    -A good attitude goes a LOOONNG way.
    -Sometimes no matter how well you treat someone they are going to be nasty to you.
    -Don't believe anything men tell you.
    -To be comfortable in my own skin.
    -I love being naked.

    I have also developed a 6th sense that lets me know when someone is getting ready to grab my ass. I smack before they actually grab me usually. lol
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    Quote Originally Posted by princessjas View Post
    -Rich executives are meaner than blue collar guys AND they have an entitlement mentality.
    i always see girls go after the suit guys coz everyone assumes they have more cash but theyre really hanging onto it making you work really hard before they plan on giving you a single note
    . i think its kinda mean
    really, dw unless the club is empty and you have the patience.
    i could rant n rant but in a nutshell, most of my bad experiences were with drunk suits. or sleazy middle eastern men but eh, ill forgive the cultural difference

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    This psot is amazing! I'm still cosndiering becoming a stripper (I get put off for money, health and travel issues). I found the club I want but unfortunately my mum will wonder why I come home at 4am (I can;t say bar job cos she's questioned that before). Am hoping tog et a uni house near by in September though so I shall definately go for it!!

    This psot is exactly what I needed (currently on a breka with my partner and I was worried stirpping without having him to go hometo would make me msierable and un-sexy) but all that positiveness has made me realise it's exactly what I need to go an do by myself to get me out of the rut of being a kid.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    We seriously need to talk! Did I tell you about the guy from Alabama... same thing! Blew tons of money on me in VIP and begged me to go to Europe with him... probably so my "pits" would always be around. Some people are just different. LOL

    Lol i can just imagine what he is thinking. "I cannot properly enjoy the Eiffel tower or the canals of venice without my face buried in some hot blonde's armpit. Must beg stripper to come along!"
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    That it is soooo important to have other stuff going for you in life besides your looks! Because someday your looks will fade and all you will have to stand on is your personality/accomplishments.

    Ironic that I learned this lesson in an industry that revolves around beautiful women, eh?

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