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    so i've been dancing for about 4 years now and recently at my new club i was offered the house mom position. I've been trying the house mom thing for a few months now and i love all the girls and get along with them all. But i still of coarse have some trouble with a few and was wondering if anybody had any advice at all about being a house mom and how to relate to the girls better. Coming from dancing for a while i know where the girls are coming from and thats has helped. I've never worked at a club before with a house mom before so i don't know everything that goes along with it and any advice at all about anything would be a great help! thanx!

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    A friend of mine described it like being a stepmom. They hate you for trying to keep the peace even if you know what they been thru, but love you when you protect them and help. Should always be strong and never take any crap.

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    how do you land a housemom position? I was always curious as to whether some sort of cosmetic background was required to be a housemom. I would actually love to be a housemom.

    As to what makes a good housemom in my experience: my favorite housemom was friendly and sympathetic to the complaints of the girls. If I dealt with a customer who upset me, i could go to the dressing room and vent about it and she would listen. She used to be a dancer which helped for sure. One thing i noticed about her dealing with conflicts between girls, is when girls would complain abouto ther girls she would almost always agree with them without trashing the other girl. Sometimes I would notice that girl A would come down and bitch about girl B and she would listen, show that she understood girl As side of the story, and girl A would return to the floor appeased. Then girl B would come down and bitch about hte same story but on the opposing side, and the housemom would do the same thing. And then usually girl A and B wouldnt fight. She also would rarely kick us out of the dressing room, which i liked. We are independent contractors and as far as i am concerned, our only obligations should be to get to work on time, get ready on time, and be on stage when we have to. She would however remind us to go upstairs if there were customers. She was also funny and entertaining and good at cheering girls up. She also would listen to other problems we had and offer advice... to be honest i kind of saw her as a second mom! The other girls did too i think... we all loved her. I never felt angry at tipping her 10$ min at the end of the night.

    There is a housemom at my job that i dont like at all now. I had a cough and it kicked in, so i ran out of the floor to the dressing room to avoid coughing in front of customers. When i came into the dressing room, coughing, she turned to me and said "i already told you that you arent allowed to hang out here," to which i replied "dude, im coughing up a lung and dont want to cough all over the customers" to which she replied (very bitchily) "dont call me dude." And when one midshift girl came in at the end of her shift venting about a customer trying to get sex in the CR, the house mom was like "yea we get it. he wanted to fuck you for 175$. Now get dressed and go home."

    I think since you have danced that will definitely help. Some housemoms seem to look down on the dancers and kind of roll their eyes and be like ugh these bitches are crazy sluts but this is my job-- that wont be a problem for you. just be a good ear, gently remind girls that they should be on the floor if htey are being super lazy, and use your stern voice if they start to argue (im sure you have this, from keeping custies in line) and then send them to the managers office to keep teh problems out of the dressing room. Also, having the basic products to get ready helps!
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Congrats! I work in very small clubs, so we don't have house moms but I think they are vital for most clubs. Girls need someone to vent to, have another female be there for support especially if the club is mostly ran and employed [dancers don't count as employees in this sentence] by males.

    I've been dancing for 4 years as well. I hope to be a house mom someday! Maybe when i am older, retired from dancing, have my career, etc.

    I have had friends that had worked at clubs with house moms. I wasn't told much, but my friend really liked it when the house mom would bring in treats for the girls. Sometimes the house mom would bring in a crock-pot of some sort of dish to eat sometimes too.
    Maybe if the club doesn't have this, but maybe having a general first aid kit would be good to have just in case if one of the girls gets hurt, has a head ace, etc. Maybe have extra little things on hand like safety pins, bobby pins, little things like that for the girls to use? Also a sewing kit, and something that can temporarily fix shoes if/when shoes break?

    For girls to get closer to you, I honesty think it will just take time. Just be there, cheerful, approachable, non-judgmental, a good mediator [if/when needed], motivate girls when they aren't motivated to work, and supportive. Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post

    As to what makes a good housemom in my experience: my favorite housemom was friendly and sympathetic to the complaints of the girls. If I dealt with a customer who upset me, i could go to the dressing room and vent about it and she would listen. She used to be a dancer which helped for sure. One thing i noticed about her dealing with conflicts between girls, is when girls would complain abouto ther girls she would almost always agree with them without trashing the other girl. Sometimes I would notice that girl A would come down and bitch about girl B and she would listen, show that she understood girl As side of the story, and girl A would return to the floor appeased. Then girl B would come down and bitch about hte same story but on the opposing side, and the housemom would do the same thing. And then usually girl A and B wouldnt fight. She also would rarely kick us out of the dressing room, which i liked. We are independent contractors and as far as i am concerned, our only obligations should be to get to work on time, get ready on time, and be on stage when we have to. She would however remind us to go upstairs if there were customers. She was also funny and entertaining and good at cheering girls up. She also would listen to other problems we had and offer advice... to be honest i kind of saw her as a second mom! The other girls did too i think... we all loved her. I never felt angry at tipping her 10$ min at the end of the night.
    yeah she's totally right. A good housemom always knows the right thing to say when I'm down and don't want to go back on the floor. I always go to her with problems and she always listens. I've noticed the best housemoms for me are the ones that used to be dancers or the older ladies. Also, I tip the housemom more if she has stuff I need to use or brings food and sells outfits.

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    The main housemom at our club makes a lot of money and the thing about her is she is just REAL, like if she's not making money she'll complain along with the rest of the girls and she's not all sugary sweet to you just because you tip her-Everyone likes her. The second housemom sorta kisses ass insincerely fishing for tips (I think) girls pick up on that and she's not everyone's favorite like the other housemom.

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    I was (very briefly) a house mom at a very short lived club. However, I was owner/manager of a small entertainment agency and tried to get another housemom job. One of the clubs I applied said they don't like to hire former strippers as house moms which I think is bs. Instead, they hired a woman with a MBA and no dancing experience.

    Having said that, I think housemoms should be a former dancer but I think it should be someone who has bias with the particular club (meaning no problem with any dancers off front). She should be sympathetic and "motherly". She should not judge the dancers, and shouldn't be nasty. Dancer deal enough with nasty managers, they don't need a nasty housemom. My favorite housemoms were those who were former dancers because they were much nicer and tended not totake sides. A few brought food, others didn't.

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    Thank you all so very much for your help! i've been talking to the girls more latley and all your advice has helped out so much!

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