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    i am completely burnt out. i've been dancing for 6 years and i fucking hate it, but i'm in school and it gives me the freedom to only work 1 or 2 days a week. a couple years ago i started getting drunk to deal with it, but that's not even working any more. in fact, it has become a crutch and bad habit that has actually gotten me in trouble on more than a few occasions.
    i'm starting a new club tomorrow night that doesn't allow the girls to drink, which i think will be good for me. since i haven't done it sober in so long, its going to be like starting stripping all over again. i guess i just need some words of encouragement or any advice that you girls could give me. thanks.

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    Default Re: how do you start working sober after drinking every night for so long?

    I've gone through stages when I didn't drink. It is hard at first especially on Fri and Sat night (drunks just get on your nerves). But eventually say after 3-4 shifts, you get used to it. The best part is being able to sleep well and not being hung over the next day. Also you can really take advantage of drunk customers because you actually notice how drunk they are, you can steer them in the right direction a lot easier. Plus non of the other girls at this club are going to be drinking so that will probably help.

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    Default Re: how do you start working sober after drinking every night for so long?

    yeah, i think i made more money before i started drinking and know that my drinking has caused me to lose money, as well. i've worked at clubs where "girls aren't allowed to drink" before, which usually means every girl has a pharmacy or bar stashed in her locker.
    so you say give it 3-4 shifts? i think the hardest part of sobriety will be that bullshit small talk with the customers.
    oh yeah, and the not hungover part will be the best!

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    I can get through bullshit small talk whilst sober (I do usually have a few cocktails, which I am trying to work on myself) by smiling and giggling at pretty much everything the customers say. Like it's my own private inside joke about how retarded they are. They will probably love it, and assume you're absolutely enthralled!

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    I usually have 1-2 glasses of wine at first, but I'm going to cut that out since I'm trying to get pregnant. I've danced before when I didn't drink, and like ashley said the first 3=4 shifts are the hardest then you'll be ok. Good luck!

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    I drank a lot when I worked in San Fran from 2001-2002.

    When I moved to AZ, where entertainers aren't allowed to drink, it opened up a whole new world for me. I was able to apply my sales strategies with a clear mind, make and keep regulars (because I actually remembered them the next day) and approached the industry from a business perspective rather than a "why doesn't anyone like me" perspective.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ashley123 View Post
    i'm starting a new club tomorrow night that doesn't allow the girls to drink, which i think will be good for me.
    I hope the new club is working out for you! I'm glad that the last half of my dancing career has been in places that don't serve alcohol. I find it too hard to turn it down if it's available at work, even though I don't drink very much outside of work.

    At one place the managers turned a blind eye to us keeping something in our lockers, but in the place I'm at now, I'd get fired if I brought anything in. It really works to my advantage because for the most part I have tons of energy throughout the night. Sometimes girls show up drunk, and they always end up leaving early.

    I think getting drunk isn't too good for finding regulars either. If a guy is crazy about you, maybe it wouldn't matter, but a lot of times they want your full attention and and want to know you like them. How can they think that if you're drunk at your job? That kind of shows that you can barely make it through....you must dislike what you do.

    Anyway, not drinking means less calories consumed too, lol! I really hope you can make it without the alcohol because on average, I think dancing sober ends up being much more profitable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JRdancer View Post
    Anyway, not drinking means less calories consumed too, lol! I really hope you can make it without the alcohol because on average, I think dancing sober ends up being much more profitable.
    The first statement is why I quit drinking at work. The second part is what I learned. I had noticed I was putting on alcohol weight and I wanted to get rid of that. But being a bit slimmer only slightly contributed to better earning. Being sober made me WAY better at my job. 2-3X$ better. Hope that's good motivation to you!

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    ^ agreed. I stopped drinking 2 weeks ago and have been in the top 3 earners every shift since. No more alcohol for me! I also notice what tools the drunk girls look like.

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    ^^Im the opposite. I make way more money when im drunk. Well, tipsy i guess is a more accurate term. I can still make money when i am sober, but when i am tipsy i am a shameless flirt to an extent that i cant quite capture when im sober, so i make a lot more.

    Flat out drunk though: not so good for money making. Although most of my best nights resulted in me being hammered, but that this is because a customer buys a room with me, i get drunk with him in the room, renew time, drink more, and by the end i am a very drunk stripper with a fat ol wad of cash. I think i am better at entertaining drunk customers and keeping them in the CR when i am also drunk. Probably because my irritation with how stupidly drunk they are goes down when i match their level. but i guess at this point i wouldnt make as much money going up to new customers as i would when sober/tipsy because i get sloppy.
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    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    ^^Im the opposite. I make way more money when im drunk. Well, tipsy i guess is a more accurate term. I can still make money when i am sober, but when i am tipsy i am a shameless flirt to an extent that i cant quite capture when im sober, so i make a lot more.

    Flat out drunk though: not so good for money making. Although most of my best nights resulted in me being hammered, but that this is because a customer buys a room with me, i get drunk with him in the room, renew time, drink more, and by the end i am a very drunk stripper with a fat ol wad of cash. I think i am better at entertaining drunk customers and keeping them in the CR when i am also drunk. Probably because my irritation with how stupidly drunk they are goes down when i match their level. but i guess at this point i wouldnt make as much money going up to new customers as i would when sober/tipsy because i get sloppy.

    I am EXACTLY like that too!

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    ^ Me three!

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    ^^^Make it four!
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    Default Re: how do you start working sober after drinking every night for so long?

    I also became a super heavy drinker for several years. If being sober is really hard for you maybe you could try going to AA meetings. That is something I did for a while and it really helped me get my head straight again.
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    Default Re: how do you start working sober after drinking every night for so long?

    ^^^same here
    I haven't had a drink in over a year and at first it was HARD. Like REEEEALLY hard. But after some time it gets easier.
    Eventually it started to be more fun NOT to drink at work. I realized I actually enjoy work and make much more money now b/c I focus more on my money and am not "partying" and trying to have a good buzz.
    I also realized many girls at my club don't drink (I thought eeeeveryone was fucked up like me! lol) and I switched who I associated with and now only hang out with the business women. I have learned a lot from them and treat the job as a business.
    I am getting a lot more from this job now than I ever imagined. Personally and professionally.. It's really been a great change and I would never go back.
    Good luck to you!

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    Ugh... I'm having to quit with my drinking at work. I turned 21 five months ago and have been drinking at work every night since then. I went three years (yes, I've been dancing since I was eighteen) without a drink and was totally fine. Now, I find that at 5'1 105 lbs. I can out drink my 6'3 200 lb boyfriend. Not fun! I went from getting tipsy off of ONE glass of wine to FOUR shots before I even feel a buzz. Kinda pissed that I let myself be so dependent on liquor to even get on stage! I have the ability to make more money now that I can have a glass of champagne in VIP but the whole feeling like "I need to drink to be able to relate to the guys that come in to party" stuff blooowwwssss. I have always said, before I was 21, that if I ever HAD to drink to be at work, that I obviously needed to find a new job. Also have always been proud of myself for the fact that I've never considered myself "caught up" in dancing. Feeling rather caught up due to liquor. It's hard to find a happy medium!

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    I'm with Athena on this one. Me with a slight buzz and I make a lot more. I'm friendlier and flirtier. I can do the job sober, but I don't really like to. The mind-numbing chit chat and the endless supply of "I'm such a funny guy" customers can send me over the edge very quickly if I don't have something to help relax the nerves.

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    When i quit drinking at work (i used to do shots) i substituted it with redbull to get a sort of buzz. Then i gradually cut back on the redbulls cos they are actually bad for you too. This made the transistion easier and i ended up making more money cos i used my sales skills and could talk circles around them cos they were drunk. Good luck xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    ^^Im the opposite. I make way more money when im drunk. Well, tipsy i guess is a more accurate term. I can still make money when i am sober, but when i am tipsy i am a shameless flirt to an extent that i cant quite capture when im sober, so i make a lot more.
    Same.

    However I've decided I really just don't like being drunk anymore. I hate how it makes me feel the next day and I've decided Im just too old to be drunk every night. For me to come to this conclusion however and be alright with it took time. A whole month off really.
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    Breaking the drinking habit is alot easier when you work at one of those clubs. Drinking on shift is absolutely forbidden and bringing stuff in is a BAD idea....I have seen people get busted an fired for bringing in alcohol. It's not worth it.

    We are allowed 2 drinks before shift, so that's all I have been drinking at work. It's usually worn off after my frist stage anyway....the jitters pretty much sober me up.

    I am liking this, because those days of being completely trashed at work all the time were no good. I am glad to have it behind me. The conversation and trying to sell a dance part is a little daunting when trying to get used to doing it sober but it get easier the more you do it.

    Not having hangovers......Awesome!! Another way that getting wasted at work hurts income.....there were some days I'd be son hungover I couldn't do anything the next day except lay in bed when I originally had planned to work.....so missing out on an enture night of work because of a hangover? Fuck that shit, I am done with it.

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    I have been doing this almost 6 years as well and have never done it drunk always sober. I look at it this way it is really hard to psychological analyze a guy get into his head determine what he wants and stay on your money focus when you are smashed. Drunk strippers are not really attractive. I glass of wine a night is cool a whole bottle is not, not to mention it gives you a leg up on all the other girls.

    If it is becoming difficult to work without being sober it may be time for a little vacation. It doesn't need to be for a long time but you are human just like everyone else and you need a break and have limits like all of us. I save up so that I can take a week off every few months it realy does help and make you appreciate your job so much more when you come back.

    Is there a code name at work? Can you ask for the drinks "light" or "special" start by only having one or two a night and then wheen yourself off, before you know it you will do this job sober and have much better nights I usually do when I don't drink at all.

    Good luck hun you can do it!

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    I've said enough elsewhere about my drinking. Suffice to say I drank like a loon for 20-odd years....ruined a lot of my relationships with my family and work colleagues for a long time, nearly died in Intensive Care on my 40th Birthday....then went to AA.

    I was 8 years Clean and Sober on 10th April, and my life has never been better.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pussyinboots View Post
    I've said enough elsewhere about my drinking. Suffice to say I drank like a loon for 20-odd years....ruined a lot of my relationships with my family and work colleagues for a long time, nearly died in Intensive Care on my 40th Birthday....then went to AA.

    I was 8 years Clean and Sober on 10th April, and my life has never been better.
    That's amazing! I'm glad it's working for you.. I''m also trying to figure out how to not be drinking at work, but I gotta say it makes it a lot more fun and my money is better, too..

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    Quote Originally Posted by pussyinboots View Post
    I've said enough elsewhere about my drinking. Suffice to say I drank like a loon for 20-odd years....ruined a lot of my relationships with my family and work colleagues for a long time, nearly died in Intensive Care on my 40th Birthday....then went to AA.

    I was 8 years Clean and Sober on 10th April, and my life has never been better.
    CONGRATULATIONS!!!! That is amazing! Good for you!

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