what are your thoughts on plentyoffish.com? what is or was ur expierence on that site?



what are your thoughts on plentyoffish.com? what is or was ur expierence on that site?




my only thought is that my best friends husband is on that sit eand has been for months and she just found out. lol. nothing against the site of course but it just reminds me of that automatically.





I recently signed up. I've had bad luck getting responses in the past with online dating, so I haven't mustered up the willpower to make an effort on plentyoffish just yet. All I've done so far is to post my profile. The only difference I've noticed so far is that the website interface is much less slick as the pay sites.





Bleh.
MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP
-Eartha Kitt





One reply. A very nice charming introduction to a pay porn site.
I have seen some interesting profiles but, have not written as yet. I may take a new job and start over somewhere else. So bad time for me to start a new relationship.
Shame since I have dropped 25 lbs so far and looking to lose more.





One good experience, then took down my profile. Decent luck on OKCupid too. Of course, I'm mostly looking for friends and just to meet people, not dte or hook up, so can't speak to the benefits as far as finding a partner.




I joined a few months ago and met a few nice ladies but you defiantly get some weirdo's. I also have match.com but haven't really focused on it
"The point is, ladies and gentlemen, that greed, for lack of a better word, is good. Greed is right. Greed works" -GORDON GECCO





One of the most wretched collection of bad looking dudes I have ever encountered. Met one guy off of there and he didn't look anything like his picture. He looked like a total hottie, but when he got to my house, he had a bdy type that reminded me of Grimace.
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^^^^ I don't get how someone will expend so much effort into creating their profile, hiring someone to write it out, etc., but not on their looks. They complain how "nobody likes me whaaa" but then go and say that they are overweight and unattractive. No amount of clever writing will overshadow your looks buddy.
I say take all that effort and apply it to your appearance. Hit the treadmill, cut the carbs, dress like the guys in GQ, etc. As long as you wallow in self pity you will never meet an awesome woman. Sorry to sound like such a bitch, but I am one.





^^ Agreed. Very, very few women are only into personality. And the ones who are tend to be really outgoing.
I put a lot of effort into my appearance when I'm hunting someone. Given my current circumstance it has boosted my income as well ( dude who I have it hard for works with me, but I don't give a fuck, I'm retiring soon. ). But I, like most other girls, want a guy who is equally or MORE attractive than I am.
So if you want to meet someone, be up to your own standards of what you'd want in a partner.





mediocrity, that is the COOLEST pic ever!
Sargy, c'mon out by Chicago way, if you can stand the cold!
oop, *end thread jack*
MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP
-Eartha Kitt





One of the profile questions is "Do you do drugs?"
Are they talking about aspirin? heroin? pot? peyote?




I was on it for about 2wks. Thought it sucked. Not a bad set up, just no body on there.





Oh I agree and no offense taken. I welcome constructive criticism. I keep my weight down; most people would call me skinny but being critical of myself I'd say I could lose 15 lbs (I'm 6'2" and ~209lbs). I've tried working out but I just don't have the genes for muscles (no one in my family does). So instead I compensate by dressing well, smelling nice (yes I use Lush products), and *gasp* I put product in my hair. Some would even say I'm a little "metro" wth my appearance. I think I'm kind of dorky looking still, but a female friend of mine thinks I look fine. She even fixed me up with a friend who I thought was way out of my league (gorgeous). She turned out to prefer women but that's another story.
Ultimately, I think my main problem is a lack of confidence. I'm not so hiedous as to repel women, but I'm not so handsome that women are going to trip over themselves to get to me. It's up to me to do the approaching, and that's where I fail. Except online; I've certainly contacted my share of women there without luck. That gets depressing, but all I can do is keep trying to better myself and keep trying. I definitely don't have the answer though; it shouldn't be this hard, and most people don't find the difficulty that I do with dating. So there is *something* I haven't figured out yet or something I'm doing wrong. I just don't know what it is yet (and this is why I so welcome constructive criticism).










Seriously. And not just appearance either, it plays into the attitude as well - and based on your response, lestat1, you *may* fit in this category as well (I dunno, a rel maybe).Originally Posted by JD
I know so many guys that get on this kick of being down on themselves and it's like a self-fulfilling prophecy. They ask me how I get the girls I do - I'm not Casanova but I get more than my fair share - AND I TELL THEM - and they tend to be "well that's just not me" or "I just don't see myself doing that". THEN WHY THE FUCK DID YOU ASK?! And then it's another 5 years of listening to them whine about being single.
Guys - seriously - it's not that hard. Tip of the hat to Med, but she's not completely right. I know many very not-so-hot - no, fuck that, downright unattractive, lol - guys who have no trouble getting girls,, even attractive cool ones. But if you're going to stay on this "if it's the real thing she'll love me how I am" trip, expect to get the same results you've been getting. News flash - you can change how you present yourself and how you act/look without changing "who you are"!
Oh - and lose the "nice guy" thing, even if it IS who you are. I don't mean be an asshole, lol. I mean there;s a difference between being a nice guy and being a doormat, or worse, a passive-aggressive "nice guy" - worst type ever, and ALWAYS with a victim complex when it comes to women.
Wow - didn't realize I had so much to rant off on on the subject, lol. I'll stop now...





^THAT. Exactly.Originally Posted by J.D.
I know a guy, we'll call him Chris. Because that's his real name, LMAO. Chris is a REALLY cool, REALLY good guy. Chris is smart, can be funny, works hard, and isn't ugly.
Chris also THINKS he's ugly, won't go to any real effort to change his appearance, and is a TOTAL DOORMAT for girls he likes - and has spent the 20 years I've known him single and crying about it. He never shuts up about how every girl that gets to know him puts him the "friend zone" INSTANTLY. I have tried to tell him 3,000,000 times that THEY don't put him there, HE does.
I hope some ladies back me up on this...
Guys: The white knight thing (not in stripper parlance, I mean the storybook kind) is only attractive to most girls IN THE ABSTRACT. More specifically, if a woman IS thinking about that dashing knight sweeping her off her feet - you have to remember that there's an element of being "taken" mixed in with all the chivalry and romantic gestures. Thaaaaat's where "nice guys" fuck it up EVERY TIME.
Fawning over her and being sickeningly sweet all the time gets OLD. And it comes off as creepy, lol. It also gives her very little to go on when determining who YOU are. The nice guy we're talking about here is a sweet and overbearing guy who does anything for her, all the time, every time - and never asks for anything or talks about himself except in this weirdly passive, slightly demeaning way.
You know the guy that nice guys hate? The overly extroverted, hits on anything that breathes, everything's a sexual innuendo guy? Quagmire comes to mind, lol - exactly, in fact. Know what? HE GET'S GIRLS AND YOU DON'T. The nice guy act is worse! Women know what they're going to get from Quagmire. Laid. And that's about it. And ladies aren't that different from guys, guys - THEY LIKE TO GET LAID. (Side note - why is that such a mystery to so many men?) So when you're this respectful guy who will do anything for them and would NEVER disrespect them by making ANYTHING about sex (except for the aforementioned "not really a comment becuase I said it jokingly but only because I don't have the balls to REALLY say it but I actually meant it but it case it offends you it can be dismissed as a joke" PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE CRAP) you've just let them know that by being with you, they basically will never feel wanted in that way, that they'll forever be making the first move, and while you will stand up for their honor to the death, you probably won't ever stand up FOR YOURSELF.
gasp, gasp, gasp...
I should write a book. It wouldn't be a good one because I'm not all that - but really, I have way too much to say on the subject. I just know too many of those guys, and I'm tired of them. I'm tires of listening to the girls they like ask me about them and complain about them (always with "bu he's SO nice" as a cushion, LMAO).
Somebody posted a link to a website about the "nice guy is an asshole" thing a while back. Where is that? It was AWESOME.



I'm not the biggest fan of this website, but here is the article that AJ is talking about:
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/ran...eguys/ng.shtml
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"The mood is important. You can't get a lady with force.
...sweet things alone are not enough. Seduce me with more fire."





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