So I've been told pretty often that I put out a certain vibe about being unapproachable. Not just in SCs, but in life, in general. But it's obviously the SC environment I'm trying to figure out.
I'm a middle-aged, big guy (think football middle-linebacker) with a ponytail and beard. I always dress nicely, no jeans or shorts with a clean button down shirt. I'm educated (yes, formally with a PhD) and can carry on a meaningful conversation. I'm very well-traveled, both in the US and internationally. I drink only in moderation. And I'm not a slob.
Most of my current and long-lost ATFs have told me that they had to muster up the courage to approach me the very first time we met because of "the vibe" I apparently give off. But after that ice is broken, they usually understand the kind of person I think I really am (kind, compassionate, warm, generous, sincere, non-judgmental, non-delusional, teddy bear). If we, the customers, are supposed to keep an open mind about differences we perceive or assume to see in dancers, why can't we expect the same consideration from the dancers? Apparently I look like a drug-addicted, Harley-riding, bad-ass, all of which couldn't be further from the truth.
I am admittedly a little shy (not in a PL kind of way). But I'm honestly trying to figure out how to shake this unapproachability issue. Any advice?![]()



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