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    Ok, funny story.

    So I'm shopping and have to use the bathroom but the store is closing so I walk to the bar at the mall.

    Sitting on the toilet, listening to music and girls laughing, sad because I don't have a lot of friends out here and none I can go out with (they're older).

    When I'm brushing my hair, I see one of the waitresses is a girl who used to be manager at the restaurant I used to work at. She's the one who fired me after some high-maintenance bitch had some bogus complaint that I didn't take care of her four kids well enough?

    My file said, one more complaint and I was fired. Some context, people complained all the time at this place because they would get free meals - conditioned behavior IMO.

    Anyway, I was like "hey you, long tim no see" and we started talking. I wasn't exactly trying to be friendly, more like wanted to put her on the spot. But hey we were nice to each other and I figured let bygones be bygones.

    Everyone has problems and makes mistakes.

    At the end, she said she didn't know tha tmany people out here and she'd like to go for drinks sometime. She gave me her number and said text me.

    I can let the past go, but is that wrong? It's just a weird situation.

    But, i thought it was funny that I was sitting there feeling sorry for myself for not having a big social life, and we run into each other and she wants to go out. Weird.

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    Honestly, work is work and her firing you most likely wasn't anything personal. Unless she was nasty about it or there was something else going on in that situation that you didn't mention in your post. I'd maybe give it a try and feel it out. If you sense anything weird, just move on.

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    One thing I do remember is there was this weird tension between us at work. Once, she wanted me to sweep up the kitchen floor even though that was not a server's job and I had customers to deal with. The other servers knew something was up.

    Still, I think I'll feel it out. She was seriously stressed at that job and let it show. Maybe she was having problems.

    I've forgiven a lot of other people, so why lose a potential friend?

    I try to look on the bright side and think that maybe she wants to hang out as a way of making peace.

    I just don't want to be a pushover either.

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    ...it can be done. Just dont let her carry an attitude that she is somehow superior or has authority over you and dont rehash the past. Let her know quick enough, she can be a piece of shit boss and admit you can be a bitch employee and that arrangement wont happen again. Laugh it off together and see if it works out.
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    Life is too short to hold grudges. And friends are not really that easy to find.

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    I became really good friends with someone I knocked out in high school-----just bring it up, laugh it off, and see how much you have both changed in the meantime.

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    If it said in your file you were fired with one more complaint, she may have lost her job if she didn't fire you.

    Also, in one position I had, my boss made ME tell people they were fired, maybe she was in a similar situation?
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