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    How do you guys deal with insecurities that develop at work when comparing yourself to the other dancers?

    I've had my fair share of body image issues in the past, but for the past 9 months or so they've been COMPLETELY vacant. I'd even go so far to say that I've been totally in love with myself. It definitely helped that I thought I was one of the best lookers in my club (and a zbone review said that I had the most beautiful face in my club woooo) BUT

    Last night I went to amateur night at 4Play in Los Angeles and now I'm totally thrown off. Every girl that walked into the dressing room was a 8/9. I read that I should expect some gorgeous girls but I was not prepared for that at all. So now I'm left feeling like shit, and not wanting to even go back to my club.

    How would you guys deal?
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    Default Re: Insecurities

    I've worked places where every girl is fucking HOT! I mean like drop dead gorgeous. I felt like poop and ya I am also often told I have a beautiful face...(not just in the club). But what I started to realize is a) the best looking girls are not necessarily the best hustlers b) guys are sometimes intimidated by the super hot girls or assume they are bitches c) a lot of the time the hottest girls are the stupid ones or full of themselves

    The best thing to do is to not try to take on a similar look. You know you are hot and beautiful so work your personal style and personality. Stand out from the crowd by being YOU! Sexy bitch!

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    Default Re: Insecurities

    Quote Originally Posted by Jessie_tinydancer View Post
    I've worked places where every girl is fucking HOT! I mean like drop dead gorgeous. I felt like poop and ya I am also often told I have a beautiful face...(not just in the club). But what I started to realize is a) the best looking girls are not necessarily the best hustlers b) guys are sometimes intimidated by the super hot girls or assume they are bitches c) a lot of the time the hottest girls are the stupid ones or full of themselves

    The best thing to do is to not try to take on a similar look. You know you are hot and beautiful so work your personal style and personality. Stand out from the crowd by being YOU! Sexy bitch!
    Right on... Totally agree. I've always had issues with my body, from everything to my small A cup boobs to the scars on my body. But I look at myself as beautiful, as do alot of the guys and even some of the girls. When I first started dancing in New Jersey, I was the new girl surrounded by a bunch of girls who I thought were super pretty. Of course it intimidated me. I was the shy girl who just sat at bar and did my set when I had to. But soon after, I started getting customers who totally admired my beauty, and it made me realize that I'm not perfect, yet there is something about me that is beautiful, and that's all that matters.

    Trust me, don't let the other girls intimidate you. By showing that you admire yourself and that you are top notch, other girls can't even touch you!

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    I've mostly worked at upscale clubs and felt like a fat troll compared to most girls. I just tried to remind myself that I was always a top earner, which must mean I was pretty too! You are making money from men who think you are HOT or they would be spending on another girl, and you wouldn't get hired at a club full of beautiful Glamazon's if you weren't very pretty yourself! Just keep reminding yourself of that!
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    It's all about confidence and personality. And beauty IS in the eyes of the beholder. Each guy is different and there is something for everyone. Definitely looks are not number one make or break, personality and confidence is. Some of the most beautiful girls do not do well b/c they just dont have a personality.

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    Default Re: Insecurities

    I only felt insecure in the club bc I had no confidence. Of course a lot of the girls looked better than me, had nice bodies ( I have a boyish/kid figure) but I still thought I was pretty. I just always felt so unsure of myself and acting confident sometimes made me feel like a stuck up bitch.

    Just know that in the end, as long as your not unattractive and have a decent body, the guys will love you only if you have confidence. They can tell when you feel like shit/have low confidence or self esteem and it makes you look bad. Also, women compare other women differently. There's this girl at my job who i think looks like a fucking clown and is a little overweight. All the guys love her, but us females are always saying how stupid she looks and how overrated we think she is.

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