^ What was the motivation behind it?
^ What was the motivation behind it?





Increasingly I can't fight the urge to punch the shit out of guys who do this. This kind of thing has made me a LOT more violent than I ever was at work but I feel if someone wants to violently attack, I'm right to get up by smashing my hand onto his face, shoving him by his nostrils, and slamming my knee into his groin--by accident!Funny thing is I aven't lost a guy this way. I think they like that whacked out weirdness.
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^ I suspect that if you are breaking noses and crushing gonads you are losing customers. I understand your motivation but just fess up that you are taking one for the team.
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Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.
I didn't mean to offend you fine young ladies. Allow me to expand and rephrase on my previous post. I bring up subjects I read on SW with my ATF. I just didn't get around to this one yesterday.
That being said, I still can't imagine or visualize trying to leg clamp a dancer during a PD.
If y'all are looking for honest answers from the blue side, then I'd quit with the immediate bashing. Just sayin'.



I don't get the leg clamping thing and definitely don't do it.
One thought, does this seem to take place more in clubs with limited contact or one way only contact?
It does seem like a controlling type behavior.





I saw the honest answer and raised an honest response. I really don't see the "bashing" here. Multiple dancers said (paraphrasing):
We don't like this, it's annoying/harmful/etc
and he said in response to that:
I tried to do exactly that thing the other day, please explain to me how to do it correctly.
.............. so I feel that what I said was called for. Now, obviously, he has clarified his intent and I am fine with that. But, I consider "bashing" to be attacking someone outside of what they said directly about the topic. I said (basically) that the way he phrased things made him sound like an asshole. I don't think there's anything wrong with calling that out in the right context.
I always assumed that dudes who did this were just nervous or excited and tensing up. Usually I put my hands on their knees and tell them to relax as I push them apart. I can't remember a time when the guy continued to do it after that. It never really bothered me all that much, as I never thought it was intentional.
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That's what I've experienced for the most part, the guy is just a bit silly. However, on a few notable occasions, they have continued to do so. Then, I rank them in the category of custies who try to pull my clothes off for me, or try to push me down in their laps so I grind harder than I am comfortable with. They get airdance!





This problem is global!!! It's as weird as the phenomenon of blowing air from one's mouth aimed at a dancer's pussy.
There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.
Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.
I get this at least once a month; usually a regular floor dance where they are not allowed to touch so they clamp both my legs (in between theirs) in an effort to covertly touch me. Sometimes this happens at the end of the dance and then it's a sorta 'don't leave thing'




My explanation for this is that they do it for the same reason as 'blowing air on privates',like mentioned earlier.They touch you without touching you,or,in this case,they grab you,without direclty using their hands.If they grab you using their legs,they don't feel like their doing anything wrong and won't get yelled at or thrown out,and can easily get away with it.If they grab you using their hands,most of them already know it's wrong,because grabbing is usually associated with doing it using hands.Grabbing by using their legs is also less visible,because it's using lower body parts,chair level.Same as when they blow air,it's invisible,hidden.
Just another way they come up with to sneak a feel and get away with it.There are plenty of ways to touch someone or invade their personal space,or even insult them,without obvious physical actions,think,spitting in face,same thing.




...this is what its all about but they are going about it the wrong way.
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As a customer I never do this sort of thing. I always want to respect a woman what is comfortable for them. Plus with " RULES " in a club well suppose to be RULES...LOL you don't want to offend anyone even if your inside a gentleman's club.
Can't say I never been grinded @ the same time really i don't want you to hump my knee either... LOL



Oh I hate that. Or when they won't open their legs so you can dance inbetween them, I always say "spread em"
LOL that happened to me for the first time last night. Repeatedly. The spread em line worked... briefly lol. I really dont get the clamping thing either. It was a table dance. me and another girl were doing for him. Yet I'm the only one he kept trying to clamp between his legs... Damn it...



Gah, that is annoying! I get it alot when I'm doing that from the lap body slide, and they try and "catch" me halfway down. It's like, really? What you want closest to your nether regions is my shoulder blades? Since it happens so often, I have to assume there is a deep and extensive underground of shoulder blade fetishists who are too ashamed to fly their freak flag high, instead preferring to be freaking idiots about it.
That, or it's some sort of stupid control thing. "Look, I can hold you in place with my legs!" to which I wish to respond, "Look, I can punch you in the face with my bouncers!"![]()
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yeah, I get this a lot as well. Don't understand it as it means I'm just standing in front of them not sitting on their lap or leaning or bending over... can't be enjoyable for them.
I used to always force their legs open straight away, now I just stand there for a bit, if they really want a shit dance they can have one![]()
^ I do this too. When they clamp my legs, I stop dancing. They learn very quickly.
def hate it, men should just sit there and not move their body in any way during a dance. we know what the hell we are doing so just let us do what we are there to do! to guys how the hell would u like it say ur a waiter and the customers kept grabbing your arms tight for no reason u would not like it so lay off. when we say no it means fuck no!
^^^let me add that one to the list
"NO" means NO.
"Not Now" means NO.
"Maybe Later" means NO.
"I Have A Boy/Girlfriend" means NO.
"No Thanks" means NO.
"You're Not My Type" means NO.
"*#^+ Off!" means NO.
"I'd Rather Be Alone Right Now" means NO.
"Don't Touch Me" means NO.
"I Really Like You But ..." means NO.
"Let's Just Go To Sleep" means NO.
"I'm Not Sure" means NO.
"You've/I've Been Drinking" means NO.
SILENCE means NO.
"__________ " means NO.
Date Rape = Not Understanding "NO."
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