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    My fav has been texting and calling me constantly this past couple of weeks wanting to get together either at the club or for an RR. I've had to blow her off because I don't have the $400-500 to satisfy her. I'm thinking instead that I may slip up to my previous club for a short visit for a couple of dances. Maybe meet someone new who doesn't know me and doesn't have the same monetary expectations. Could be a bust but might be worth the time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    My fav has been texting and calling me constantly this past couple of weeks wanting to get together either at the club or for an RR. I've had to blow her off because I don't have the $400-500 to satisfy her. I'm thinking instead that I may slip up to my previous club for a short visit for a couple of dances. Maybe meet someone new who doesn't know me and doesn't have the same monetary expectations. Could be a bust but might be worth the time.

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    My gosh, i hate it when the chicks get soooooo possessive and keep calling. I am no ones "customer" and neither are you. You are free to do as you please. You'll thank me in the morning.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    My fav has been texting and calling me constantly this past couple of weeks wanting to get together either at the club or for an RR. I've had to blow her off because I don't have the $400-500 to satisfy her. I'm thinking instead that I may slip up to my previous club for a short visit for a couple of dances. Maybe meet someone new who doesn't know me and doesn't have the same monetary expectations. Could be a bust but might be worth the time.

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    She wouldn't be satisfied with anything less (for less amount of work, obviously)? Wow, that's stupid. Guess she shot herself in the foot, there.
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    It should always be about you and your entertainment dollar. Don't you think her calling is all about her and the money she wants (and I'm not saying that critically) to make? You should spend exactly as much as you want to spend each and every time you want to spend it, but you shouldn't allow yourself to spend money you otherwise wouldn't spend just because you were summoned.
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    This is the absolute fucking funniest thing I have ever read in the entire history of SCJ. BEM advising FBR on how to behave around a stripper? LMAO What's next BEM, you got any golf tips for Tiger?
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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    I'm thinking instead that I may slip up to my previous club for a short visit for a couple of dances. Maybe meet someone new who doesn't know me and doesn't have the same monetary expectations. Could be a bust but might be worth the time.

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    I have done this on many occasions and it can work out well. It can, as you said, also be a bust but nothing ventured nothing gained!
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    Isn't variety one of the major perks of strip-clubbing anyway?
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    you got any golf tips for Tiger?
    Yes, duck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    This is the absolute fucking funniest thing I have ever read in the entire history of SCJ. BEM advising FBR on how to behave around a stripper? LMAO What's next BEM, you got any golf tips for Tiger?

    No its advice on how not to be a pathetic customer who snaps to attention just because a dancer needs money. Maybe you don't feel qualified to weigh in on the topic. At one time, I spent heavily, probably well above the average for this board. then I realized the foolishness of it. So its not like I haven't been there.

    As far as not knowing how to behave around a stripper, spare me, I'm not the one who has to pay them for attention. You once posted the nicest thing a stripper ever did for you was invite you in once with no financial incentive. That happens to me on a regular basis. If I read that post of your's correctly, that same person extended similar invites to me on a regular basis. The whole point is if I didn't know how to behave around them, none of me would give me the time of day, either ITC or IRL.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    My fav has been texting and calling me constantly this past couple of weeks wanting to get together either at the club or for an RR. I've had to blow her off because I don't have the $400-500 to satisfy her. I'm thinking instead that I may slip up to my previous club for a short visit for a couple of dances. Maybe meet someone new who doesn't know me and doesn't have the same monetary expectations. Could be a bust but might be worth the time.

    FBR
    I go thru this type of thing periodically too, although due to the crappy economy it's happening more & more lately.

    This is why I rotate my visits around 4 or 5 different clubs, mainly for the variety factor, but also to take a break from some of the more aggressive dancers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    No its advice on how not to be a pathetic customer who snaps to attention just because a dancer needs money. Maybe you don't feel qualified to weigh in on the topic. At one time, I spent heavily, probably well above the average for this board. then I realized the foolishness of it. So its not like I haven't been there.

    As far as not knowing how to behave around a stripper, spare me, I'm not the one who has to pay them for attention. You once posted the nicest thing a stripper ever did for you was invite you in once with no financial incentive. That happens to me on a regular basis. If I read that post of your's correctly, that same person extended similar invites to me on a regular basis. The whole point is if I didn't know how to behave around them, none of me would give me the time of day, either ITC or IRL.

    Bem. I'm well aware of your philosophy regarding sitting in strip clubs and not spending money. We all are. It's irrelevant here. FBR has a long history with the woman in question and that history involves spending generously on her. He is a customer. Strip clubs and strippers are about spending money, not taking up space. Many of us on this site, myself included, have long time regulars that we spend money on. It's not really all that unusual believe it or not.

    Obviously you know how to be polite around a dancer. If you didn't your lack of spending would not be tolerated. Again, that is irrelevant here. As are your continual "I don't have to pay for attention" comments. None of us has to pay for attention but most of us here on a board about strip clubs are actual customers of strippers...
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    Quote Originally Posted by princessjas View Post
    I shall be within a couple hours drive in days! How bads are you wantin the strange? (Remember you aren't gettin full service, even close, but I'm considered good and close. hehe *winksie*
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    I dunno FBR, this seems like an offer that would be difficult to refuse...
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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    My fav has been texting and calling me constantly this past couple of weeks wanting to get together either at the club or for an RR. I've had to blow her off because I don't have the $400-500 to satisfy her. I'm thinking instead that I may slip up to my previous club for a short visit for a couple of dances. Maybe meet someone new who doesn't know me and doesn't have the same monetary expectations. Could be a bust but might be worth the time.

    FBR
    I do the same thing on occasion FBR, sometimes it's nice to stop in someplace where nobody knows me and there are no spending expectations thrust upon me. The only down side is that you may end up meeting somebody else that you may want to see again and the cycle repeats itself (as has happened with me). Anyways, go for it, have a good time.

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    I would feel like such a shitbag if I sat around the clubs all the time not spending money, knowing how I felt about customers who did the same (Bem)

    FBR, if you still want to see her, explain to her that money is tight. Tell her she either needs to back off, because its making you uncomfortable. I wouldn't ask her for a deal or bargain. If she wants to offer that, let her do it on her own. I'd personally hate to feel backed into a corner about services.

    You've been really good to her over the years. And I have no doubt that she considers you a friend as well a customer. But like any good salesperson, she is just making her routine sales calls. You can always choose to "opt-out."

    Now, if its purely a fiscal issue of parting with the $400-500 as a bottom line, do you think you could get the same level of action from another girl at another club, without spending at least that much finding and choosing a good match? However, if you just want a little strange, then well, hell...go for it. I would if I were you, variety is fun!

    So, think about it, if you went to a new club, cost might look more like this:

    Cover and stage tips: $40
    Drinks + waitress tips for you and ladies you meet: $100
    Lapdances from ladiesto "test" the waters: $100

    You've already spent half your budget..unless you get lucky faster. Opportunity cost I guess. Wish I could come hunting with you!

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    ...i would think some ATF's and their best regulars who have known each other for a long time and been very good to each other would like a break from the "game" every now and then.

    FBR, are you trying to break your "connection" with her (because its not very satisfying lately) or is this temporary? Just curious.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    No its advice on how not to be a pathetic customer who snaps to attention just because a dancer needs money. Maybe you don't feel qualified to weigh in on the topic. At one time, I spent heavily, probably well above the average for this board. then I realized the foolishness of it. So its not like I haven't been there.
    Anyone that snaps to attention because of a stripper is an FPL. An FPL is defined as a male that has had his manhood removed and has had them wrapped around her little finger.

    Now, I'm not saying FBR is an FPL, far from it.

    Maybe a good way for FBR to handle the situation is to tell her that she is too expensive right now and that he has to move on. The ball is then in her court. She can shoose to come down on price if she wants or lose a customer. Its her choice. I love capitalism.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JoeUnCool View Post
    Maybe a good way for FBR to handle the situation is to tell her that she is too expensive right now and that he has to move on.
    You never do this. Even if you are done with a lady. First of all you are burning a bridge. She will badmouth you to other dancers and employees and if you try to go back to her you will never get the same treatment. Secondly, and this is rare but it does happen, if you take up with another dancer in the same club, or even of you don't, the chick you dumped could start trouble for you in the club. I know of guys who have been banned simply for refusing to spend money on a dancer who was expecting it. I'm not saying that FBR's Fav would ever do this but it's the reason you don't bitch about money to a dancer. You either pay up or shut up.

    It's fun to sit here on the internet and talk about PL's, not having to pay and standing up to dancers but the reality with ATF's is quite different. Some girls are cool and understand that they don't own a guy or his money. Some are not. Some fall somewhere in between. What is undeniable is that an ATF or fav sees you, at least partially, as a dollar sign when you walk into the club. All of her regs have names but when she surveys the club she sees "3 dances", "5 dances", "No Money Guy", "Champagne Room" etc, etc...
    If you like a girl and you want to stay in her good graces you don't complain about money. You just don't show up until you have the cash. In the meantime you go find some affordable fun somewhere else.

    FBR has the right idea. Us old farts know how to play the game...
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    I think BEM needs to post his secrets on getting stripper attention without paying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    You never do this. Even if you are done with a lady. First of all you are burning a bridge. She will badmouth you to other dancers and employees and if you try to go back to her you will never get the same treatment. Secondly, and this is rare but it does happen, if you take up with another dancer in the same club, or even of you don't, the chick you dumped could start trouble for you in the club. I know of guys who have been banned simply for refusing to spend money on a dancer who was expecting it. I'm not saying that FBR's Fav would ever do this but it's the reason you don't bitch about money to a dancer. You either pay up or shut up.

    It's fun to sit here on the internet and talk about PL's, not having to pay and standing up to dancers but the reality with ATF's is quite different. Some girls are cool and understand that they don't own a guy or his money. Some are not. Some fall somewhere in between. What is undeniable is that an ATF or fav sees you, at least partially, as a dollar sign when you walk into the club. All of her regs have names but when she surveys the club she sees "3 dances", "5 dances", "No Money Guy", "Champagne Room" etc, etc...
    If you like a girl and you want to stay in her good graces you don't complain about money. You just don't show up until you have the cash. In the meantime you go find some affordable fun somewhere else.

    FBR has the right idea. Us old farts know how to play the game...
    Yeah, I get what you are saying. There are many different ways to say it. There's more than 1 way to skin a cat. I prefer the direct approach.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JoeUnCool View Post
    Yeah, I get what you are saying. There are many different ways to say it. There's more than 1 way to skin a cat. I prefer the direct approach.
    In spite of what I just posted the direct approach can work as well. In fact it is sometimes the best approach! It really depends on the dancer involved and how much you care about what will happen when you cut the cord. I've had many short term favs who I ended up giving up on after a few weeks usually because there was too much drama involved or the dances just got lame after they figured they had me reeled in. In cases like that I always move on quickly.

    LOL, I still would never tell a dancer I can't afford her but you certainly can if it works for you...
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    I have no idea why girls do this. It just ruins the whole thing, just like with a dude in real life; you badger him, and he ditches out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    I dunno FBR, this seems like an offer that would be difficult to refuse...
    Being a dawg at heart, I checked. The post was in fun and not serious.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    I have no idea why girls do this. It just ruins the whole thing, just like with a dude in real life; you badger him, and he ditches out.
    Beats me too but some people just don't get it. What I do know is that it cuts both ways. For every dancer who gets jealous and possessive there is a PL reg customer who gets too needy and whiny when you won't sit with him all night for a hundred bucks. In both cases you are right, it ruins the whole vibe of why strip clubs are fun for customers and a good living for dancers.
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    Being a dawg at heart, I checked. The post was in fun and not serious.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Beats me too but some people just don't get it. What I do know is that it cuts both ways. For every dancer who gets jealous and possessive there is a PL reg customer who gets too needy and whiny when you won't sit with him all night for a hundred bucks. In both cases you are right, it ruins the whole vibe of why strip clubs are fun for customers and a good living for dancers.
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