There's a question on how much customers spend on a particular dancer or on a visit to a SC. Reverse question- How much have you as a dancer ever spent on a customer? (b-day, C-mas, whatever the reason)
0-$10
$11-$50
$51-$200
$201 +



There's a question on how much customers spend on a particular dancer or on a visit to a SC. Reverse question- How much have you as a dancer ever spent on a customer? (b-day, C-mas, whatever the reason)
I've only ever bought drinks for customers...![]()





I just bought my regular a $45 after shave for Christmas. Hope he likes it. It's one of the Beckham ones. I thought it smelt nice. He is so generous and lovely so I thought he deserved to feel specialI also made him a Christmas card with a picture of myself and my friend (who he also looks after).
There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.
Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.





If he was a super regular (someone who spent a lot of money through the years) I might consider buying him something for his birthday or Christmas (assuming he did the same to me). Otherwise, never. I did work at a club once that asked all dancers to donate money to buy a club regular a present. Since the guy had never given me money I didn't give a penny. I've seen dancers buy customers drinks which I've thought were stupid. The customers should be paying the dancers, not the other way around.





Every once in awhile, I'll get a wild hair and buy a customer a drink if he is being bad ass. Other than that, no.



Can a guy play? I had a great favorite a couple years ago that use to produce a good cigar for me pretty often. Either my favorite brand at the time (CAO's) or a new one for me to try. I think she was getting them from her SO though. I miss her.
I can do better than you in a two bit fancy house





I have received a lot of cologne over the years but the most common, and generous, gift that a fav can give is the gift of her time. When a gal stops counting after ten dances or hangs out all night when it's slow even though we have already done our dances that is the girt that I always remember. Of course, it is my initial generosity that begets these sort of gifts to begin with..



$0.
i have spent unpaid for time with custies in the club if that counts. Usually as an investment in the future, but im to the point where i wouldnt even do that now. I currently dont interact with any custies who are that pleasant.
Im not saying i would never buy a custie a gift, but in 11 years i have had no reason to. Even my highest spending regs. i wouldnt have bought a gift cuz gifts are from the heart. There are a few regs of the club who i may have gotten something for if i thought it would have tickled them, but they passed away.
I really can't imagine a situation where I'd be willing to spend a single cent on a customer.
I also don't really encourage regulars...there might be guys who say I'm their favorites, and will come in every few months and spend tons of $$$ on me, but they are few and far between. They don't ask for my number and I don't give it. I just tell them my schedule, and they will come in again eventually. Most of the girls at my job will throw out their real phone numbers like it's nothing, and give it to every dude who spends $50 or more on them, and it annoys the hell out of me. I don't want to be that girl.





I was given a dvd as a christmas present once... "Wedding Crashers"





I've given customers cards before and I've bought cigs or drinks for them... but that still stays under 10 bucks.





I've just bought a drink from time to time. I do have one generous customer that I wish I could buy something, but a) he's married and wouldn't want him to get in trouble with the wife b) he has everything he wants already so it would be really hard to figure out something creative.




I've had a few dancers that have bought me drinks, and one that would bring me an occasional music CD. One brought me cupcakes on my birthday. Those gifts were great because they stayed either in my car or the club - I would feel weird accepting a card or other gift, coz I could never bring it home![]()





Give him a gift card. Its impersonal, practical, and something he's unlikely to have to explain. Don't worry too much about the amount. The fact that you thought about it and took your own time to get it for him will make him feel good.
While a customer, aside from drinks (which don't count as gifts IMO), I've only gotten a few things from dancers. I think a sweater and gift cards is about it, but it was the thought that counted. FWIW, I never expected anything from a dancer but it did feel good when she gave me something that required a little planning on her part.
"never trust a big butt and a smile"-- Bell Biv DeVoe
If you're in your twenties and aren't a liberal, you have no heart. If you're in you're forties and aren't a conservative, you have no brain - Winston Churchill



...the reason I even had this question pop into my mind was based on my Mon night experience. It was prob two weeks since I had seen my atf. I get a text - stop in, I've got something for you.
-Now our last convo concluded with christmas sucks -spending too much money, people buy out of obligation, rather than want -just too commercial in general. -Cool, I end with... I'm not gonna get you anything - she says that's fine.
So, I figure we're on the same page. mmmph, apparently not, Mon night I get a bottle of Giorgio Aarmani acqua di gio- now I feel like shit. I really didn't expect anything, after all, it was just back in Nov she tells me- leave your birthday available- your mine. I'm like...mmmm....ok. Meet me here_____at 4pm. I hop in her car, she takes me into Manhattan, we walk around Time Square, we see Wicked, off-Broadway-orchestra seats, then a resturant just below central park, all on her. Had an absolutely great night.
Part way throught the evening she says- do you know how many guys would KILL to be in your shoes?
-I guess I got it good.
uhhh no way on the gift card. hellooo, this dude's prob a millionaire, wtf does he need with her $25 gift card to starbucks?? seriously, he would just be like "aw thanks but why'd you waste your money hunny?" and hand her back $50. most rich guys buy whatever they want when they want it, so they're incredibly hard to shop for, esp in the case of something they can't bring home. i usually buy guys i'm dating like a really good moisturizer, something they would probably not buy for themselves.
i'd say in jessie's case i'd text or email him a hot pic that says like "warmest wishes for the holidays". shows you're thinking of him, i'm sure he really doesn't want to see you spend any money, but does want to see your hot bod!![]()
oh NJ girls, always doing things for free.
you should feel bad you didn't get her something then. she seriously took you out for your birthday like that and you didn't get her shit?? like wtf are you thinking. go out now and get her something. stop being a cheap thoughtless asshole, or break things off with her. IMHO.
you're lucky i'm not friends with this girl because i would be telling her left and right to stop this whole thing. you do have it good, unless you don't really like her?





Try not to break your arm patting yourself on the back dude. It's pretty clear that she sees you as a bit more than a customer and she may well have very good reasons for that.
Starting a BS poll just so you can brag about what a woman spends on you is pretty lame however. Just enjoy the ride while it lasts.



Wow, a cheap thoughtless asshole?! not quite...I HAVE gotten her gifts, I just don't wait for a specific date to give them. I get and give them simply because I want to. It's been hand-made jewelry from a recent trip to Spain, and I don't mean trinkets from the airport. Or, sometimes as simple as cooking her favorite dessert or food.
I stil haven't figured out this multi-quote thing so In reference to:
Yoda57US
"Try not to break your arm patting yourself on the back dude. It's pretty clear that she sees you as a bit more than a customer and she may well have very good reasons for that. Starting a BS poll just so you can brag about what a woman spends on you is pretty lame however."
Not everybody is a SC veteran and has it as together as you.
My question also serves as a reference point for me. I'm in my mid 30's, been married, and my wife passed almost 2 yrs ago. I'm not ready to date or be in a relationship, and I'm not interested playing or paying a woman just to have sex with her, so i figure a SC is a good inbetween. I had never been to a club until about year ago. I meet this dancer- she seems to break all the stereotypes, is sweet, and cares. She says she's doing things she would have never considered doing in the past. (no, not sex)
So, i'm just trying to figure things out.
I don't have 15 yrs of strip clubbing to go on, I really only have my own experience to draw from -which is very limited, and, which is VASTLY different from the majority of posts here. Hence, the poll.
Last edited by Tdonuts; 12-24-2009 at 06:14 AM.





Its the thought that counts and the fact that she went out of her way to get it. and if he turned around and gave her back double in cash, that's bad because......?
Emailing or texting a hot pic is the worst idea. I know its not a perfect analogy, but look where it got Tiger Woods. You might say her customer's probably a millionaire but we know for a fact that he's married. What if the wife accesses his email or text messages?
Last edited by bem401; 12-24-2009 at 08:37 AM.
"never trust a big butt and a smile"-- Bell Biv DeVoe
If you're in your twenties and aren't a liberal, you have no heart. If you're in you're forties and aren't a conservative, you have no brain - Winston Churchill
well most powerful businessmen don't let their wife have access to their email or texts, and know how to delete something after viewing. you are right though in that if the relationship wasn't like that at all before i guess i wouldn't start with the christmas pic. but i've had plenty of married men ask for pics and try to talk dirty. regardless though, the problem isn't with what guys get sent, but with what they send out that the other woman can save.
i just don't think picking up a gift card from the rack while you're in line at the CVS shows any thoughtfulness whatsoever? you said before it was "impersonal" and "practical", but i don't think that's what one would be going for as a gift from a dancer to customer. more like a personal impractical gift, since he's rich and doesn't need something practical, just a nice feeling!
and getting double the money back wouldn't be bad, but she's not trying to make a short-term investment. but i was only saying that would also nullify your dumb gift of basically cash. cash you must spend at a particular place and make it a big hassle.





For a person in your real life, you're absolutely right, but the very fact that you even thought about a customer while in your everyday life and purchased him something "safe" will make an impression on him. Trust me on this. And you could do a lot better than a gift card from the rack. If he's a golfer, go to a golf store, if he drinks, a liquor store ( or buy a bottle of what he likes). You could even give a mall gift certificate. Worst case scenario is he can re-gift it. Again, I see it as being all about the thought. I'd just discourage anything that even hinted of a stripclub or left a trail.
Gift cards and cash are impersonal gifts but not dumb ones, IMO. I doubt many people would buy for me exactly what I would buy for me with the same amount of money
"never trust a big butt and a smile"-- Bell Biv DeVoe
If you're in your twenties and aren't a liberal, you have no heart. If you're in you're forties and aren't a conservative, you have no brain - Winston Churchill





^ ya no a gift card is wayyy too impersonal. Not only is he a great spender, I genuinely adore him as much as him me. His wife buys him expensive gifts. I do like the photo idea but off course would clear with him that it's alright before sending. I was also thinking of some sort of activity. There is a website here where u can buy cool activities like a day out sailing or helicopter ride etc. This thread made me realise I would like to get him something special. He is one of those people that is always spoiling everyone around him, instead of himself.
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