This is like networking. Even though no money is made in the immediate interaction, you expect to cultivate a relationship that will yield business transactions in the future. [/quote]
Yes I considered that possibility and it may have been a tactic in those cases. But it doesn't seem like a good tactic - most dancers don't waste time on hustling one guy in a busy club when she has no idea of whether he even likes her or not. If the club is not busy it may be a good investment - at least better than sitting on her own or with other dancers or staff. Or if the customer looks like a bigger spender than the others there. The times it happened to me it really didn't seem like it would be a sensible hustle under the circumstances.
The club was fairly busy. She could have hustled twenty other guys in the time she sat with me, and this club is frequented by suits. She didn't know I would buy a LD or tip her (tipping isn't a custom where I am - dancers are genuinely surprised when I tip them).Anyway, you said you ended up tipping her and buying a lap dance. How do you know this wasn't a hustle?
In my case I was not guilted into either tipping her or buying a LD. I would never tip or buy an LD from a dancer I don't like just because she sat with me. If a dancer does that, I assume it's because she doesn't want to work - or else she would not waste all her time with me. I tipped her because I liked her, even though I knew I wasn't obliged to - although she was just using me as an excuse to "chill", I still got something out of it. She was the best looking girl in the club - she could have been in the LD room all night if she chose. In fact, that was her justification for "chilling" that night - she said she was tired and could easily make up for it the next night. I bought an LD from her after I had taken the time to check out all the other dancers and think about whether I liked her enough to spend the money, not because she chatted to me for a long time. She even went outside the club to eat and came back to sit with me. In her case it seemed so odd that she would choose to sit with me for so long that I have since wondered if she wanted me to ask her out, and I regret not finding out at the time. We did seem to click quite well - and like I said, the usual reasons for why I seem to click with dancers (money) didn't seem to apply at that time, because there was no apparent financial reason for her to even chat to me.I have had dancers do this hustle on me (twice, and then I learned better) - "I'm just going to sit here next to you to relax for a while." Then, they start talking to you and you end up chatting for a long time... After she has "rested", she asks you if you want a dance. If you wanted a dance from her all along, no harm is done. But, if you didn't, you're now guilted into buying a dance because she's your new best friend.




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