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    Default My uncle killed himself 4 months ago....

    My mum's younger brother. Mum is one of 9 children. Very close family. Her brother had a history of drug abuse (including heroin use many years ago) and has battled depression for many years.

    The family tried to get him help. He was actually seeing a therapist and on anti-depressants. He tried to get himself admitted to hospital but was told he was not psychotic so he didn't need to be.

    So he hung himself. It was obviously a massive shock to the family. My mum was so distraught. My mum's younger sister is now very, very depressed after his death.

    I have never known a person who killed themselves before. You go through a range of emotions - sadness, anger, guilt. It's nothing like a death from an accident or illness.

    Sometimes I picture him hanging. I didn't see it but I imagine what it would have looked like. My mum has also suffered nightmares since it happened - situations where he is dying in different scenarios and she tries to save him. I guess it's her subconscious wishing she could have saved him in real life.

    I'm sure other people on here have had experience with the suicide of a loved one. If you feel comfortable sharing it would be helpful.
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    Default Re: My uncle killed himself 4 months ago....

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I haven't known a family member but I have known a neighbor who commited suicide by jumping from our building and it was very depressing. For weeks I wished I had reached out and talked to her more but she really didn't look depressed. Only one neighbor knew she felt down. I hope his sisters can accept that sometimes there really isn't anything you can do. It's just out of your hands.
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    I just want to thank you for posting this. I think a lot of people think about committing suicide at one point or another but don't think of the consequences for others. Your family's experience makes it a lot more personal- not just like you feel sad. The nightmares and the guilt are very real.

    I'm sorry for your loss.

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    Thanks sw friends!! xoxo

    It does get better with time but the Christmas period was sad for the family. My aunt cries everyday. I feel really bad for her.
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    Default Re: My uncle killed himself 4 months ago....

    I haven't suffered a loss like that, but I'm very sorry to hear about yours.

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    Default Re: My uncle killed himself 4 months ago....

    I lost my stepmom to suicide four and a half years ago and can say sincerely that grieving for a suicide is like nothing else and I am so, so sorry that you and your family are going through this. I was fortunate enough to have a decent support network at work and with my friends and I was also fortunate to already be under the care of a mental health team (therapist and psychiatrist) due to my bipolar disorder but even now, several years later, it's still difficult. It does get easier but it always hurts.

    Many cities have suicide survivor support groups, some geared specifically to those going through a recent loss. I highly recommend going to one. It really helped me to be around people who were also going through what I was because grieving for a suicide is very different from grieving for someone who had died in any other way.

    I also recommend a book called Night Falls Fast: Understand Suicide by Kay Redfield Jamison. It made me cry like a baby but it also helped me find a little more understanding and with that some healing.

    Big hug to you and yours.

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