Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 36

Thread: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

  1. #1
    Member
    Joined
    Sep 2008
    Posts
    42
    Thanks
    11
    Thanked 8 Times in 6 Posts

    Dizzy "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    Ok so I seem to be comming across the same problem no matter where I work in my area. I will go up to a guy weather on stage or just circulating around the room and after a little bit of chatting (or sometimes right away) I will get one of these lovely little comments that I have no idea how to respond to:

    "Wow your too pretty to be here what are you doing here"/ "you shouldn't be here you should be a model"
    -My usual answer "Um...working???" (duh) / "Thanks do you know any way to get into that?" "what do you want to see ugly strippers?" Sometimes I say that too but they usually say "well no but you belong in a magazine or something" UGH

    OR my FAVORITE:

    "Your really hot. You must KNOW your the hottest girl here. You know how hot you are I can tell you know it. You think your the hottest girl out there don't you"
    -My response:"Well I know Im not ugly but I'm really not concieted like that" ...this just gets them arguing with me...
    They love this one when I'm on stage because I really make an effort to make my stage set a "show".

    I really am not concieted at all and like I tell them I know Im not ugly, but they make me feel like I am stuck up or something and I'm not! I've honestly had self esteem issues and body issues my whole life from being in ballet and gymnastics. I also hear them talking behind my back saying I'm stuck up which kills my hustle, then I don't talk to anyone because I am intimidated that they have been just talking about me! HELP! I know this must happen to other girls, how do you respond to it! It doesn't happen every night but, quite often enough to where it bothers me!

  2. The Following User Says Thank You to Raquelle21 For This Useful Post:


  3. #2
    God/dess Kylea2's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Denver & San Fran
    Posts
    6,907
    Thanks
    181
    Thanked 2,002 Times in 1,285 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    It does happen to a lot of girls... and things like ballet & gymnastics can totally screw with you and create low self esteem.

    People will talk, there will always be jealous dancers. Talking to other dancers is a toss up. Sometimes it plays to your favor and sometimes it works against you. The same thing goes for being quiet. There's really no solution to it.

    What I do think is funny though is how often people don't realize that what is considered drop dead gorgeous in one club is considered not hire-able in other clubs.

    What it comes down to is that everyone is different. Just take everything said to you with a grain of salt.
    Last edited by Kylea2; 01-08-2010 at 06:47 PM.
    Don't you ever sleep?
    Not at night...that's when the stars have rather better things to do. They're coming out, shining, that sort of thing.
    - Blog -
    My PM box fills up quick. If you have a question please with your username.
    Congrats to Pryce on doing some much needed tending in his garden!
    - -


  4. #3
    Veteran Member Amareth's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2009
    Location
    Melbourne, Aus
    Posts
    640
    Thanks
    178
    Thanked 684 Times in 234 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    My responses are usually something like this:

    "Wow your too pretty to be here what are you doing here"
    "Making shitloads of money while having the time of my life"

    if they argue that you don't really enjoy your job I respond with "I get paid for getting naked and playing with myself all night, I love it!"

    "you shouldn't be here you should be a model"
    "aww, thanks! Aren't you sweet. I bet if I was modelling I wouldn't get to meet charming guys like you."

    "Your really hot. You must KNOW your the hottest girl here. You know how hot you are I can tell you know it. You think your the hottest girl out there don't you"
    "You think I'm hot now just wait till you get me naked/for a private dance "

    Wouldn't really know how to respond if they kept stressing that I was stuck-up, maybe just play along rather than try and change their mind (because that never works), perhaps something like:

    "yep, I know I'm the best, come with me and I'll show you why"

    If they're still arguing with you at this point they're just wasting your time.

    Also I notice the girls that get accused of being stuck up are often the ones who don't smile or don't look like they're having fun. Just try and keep acting happy and bubbley and hopefully you'll avoid this.

    Hope this helps!

  5. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Amareth For This Useful Post:


  6. #4
    Member
    Joined
    Sep 2008
    Posts
    42
    Thanks
    11
    Thanked 8 Times in 6 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Usually I just get offended and try to argue back with them lol. And I also totally agree that what's considered hot at one club is unhirable at annother, I work at a club in the middle of nowhere with mostly averave/ below average girls. I've never really worked outside new england (excepts 1 time in florida while on vacation) so if I went elsewhere I probably would be the unhirable I just meant for my area
    Again thanks for your help girls, I will be making notes in my stripper notebook and remember to smile more!
    })i({Raquelle Butterfly})i({

  7. #5
    Member
    Joined
    Sep 2008
    Posts
    42
    Thanks
    11
    Thanked 8 Times in 6 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Usually I just get offended and try to argue back with them lol. And I also totally agree that what's considered hot at one club is unhirable at annother, I work at a club in the middle of nowhere with mostly averave/ below average girls. I've never really worked outside new england (excepts 1 time in florida while on vacation) so if I went elsewhere I probably would be the unhirable I just meant for my area
    Again thanks for your help girls, I will be making notes in my stripper notebook and remember to smile more!
    })i({Raquelle Butterfly})i({

  8. #6
    Banned
    Joined
    Nov 2006
    Location
    in the middle of a cornfield
    Posts
    5,119
    Thanks
    2,693
    Thanked 2,988 Times in 1,098 Posts
    My Mood
    Fine

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    "You're too pretty to be here"


    Usually time wasters so do them a favor by finding them the ugliest chick and sending her over. Is it mean?? Maybe.. Will she get it? Probably not.

  9. #7
    Featured Member hot4ablackchick's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2006
    Location
    Ohio
    Posts
    1,346
    Thanks
    83
    Thanked 265 Times in 150 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    This happens to me too. I get "You should be a model," very often because I'm tall. I take it as a compliment. It does get annoying when guys keep going on and on about it. I've even had guys pretty much tell I'm stupid for not being a model, or never have attempted to be a model. Like why do you want to work here instead of making REAL money modeling kinda thing. Like I turned down my Victoria Secret gig to work at Deja Vu. I'm just tired of explaining that most modeling companies do not like 27 year old women with big fake implants, stretch marks, and I'm 5' 8 and a half (which is on the short side for modeling) and I weigh 140 lbs. I would need to lose 20 lbs just to even be considered. Not to mention it takes a lot of hard work, traveling and time to become a successful model. Its not as easy as most think! I just become instantly annoyed when I hear it now. I'll never understand "You're too hot to be here." I am always glad when there are attractive women in the SC. Thats why I'm there.
    CARMEN IS HOTT 4 A BLACK CHICK!!!!!!!!

    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    Why does he have a headset on his head, like Janet Jackson or some shit?
    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post
    why does Janet Jackson have a headset on her head?!

  10. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to hot4ablackchick For This Useful Post:


  11. #8
    God/dess Athenathefabulous's Avatar
    Joined
    Feb 2009
    Location
    Istanbul, Turkey
    Posts
    3,724
    Thanks
    1,381
    Thanked 2,975 Times in 1,158 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    I get this when i work at dive bars. Usually the places where i get this the most the customer is right, and i am the prettiest girl there. Maybe i do have a conceit problem .

    If i get this at a high end club then i comment that the other girls are hot too and then talk about how much i like girls yadda yadda get the lesbian fantasy going then make a sale.

    I like this one:

    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    "You're too pretty to be here"


    Usually time wasters so do them a favor by finding them the ugliest chick and sending her over. Is it mean?? Maybe.. Will she get it? Probably not.
    Im thinking in some of the dives i worked at i could have definitely sent over a pregnant chick. Or just a real lumpy looking chick. Ive worked with some creatures lol.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


  12. #9
    Member
    Joined
    Sep 2008
    Posts
    42
    Thanks
    11
    Thanked 8 Times in 6 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    Kaiarose that is freeking hillariously awesome! Ive found them to usually be time wasters too!
    Hot4ablackchick I'm tall too! 5'7 plus 6" heals! I've been turned down for being "too tall"! Or I get "wow your really tall". Wow way to state the obvious damn genious customers! I tell them to get a good paying modeling job you really have to be like Heidi Klum or Tyra neither of who I am lol they really don't "Hi I want to make lots of money modeling for you!" And a magic fairy grants our wish!
    })i({Raquelle Butterfly})i({

  13. #10
    Moderator Jessie_tinydancer's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2009
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    4,149
    Thanks
    1,307
    Thanked 2,530 Times in 1,295 Posts
    My Mood
    Sick

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    I get this a lot and also paired with my favourite.. "youre too smart to do this"... Blah. These guys rarely spend money anyways. I usually just say "I am a model. I have a photo shoot in the morning. I just love getting naked for men. It turns me on. Wanna come see how horny it makes me?". I'm so not a model, nor could I be one. I am attractive, but so are a lot of strippers. I think these guys are just idiots.

  14. #11
    God/dess Harleigh HellKat's Avatar
    Joined
    Dec 2009
    Location
    Winston-Salem NC
    Posts
    2,260
    Thanks
    449
    Thanked 476 Times in 286 Posts
    My Mood
    Tired

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    I had a friend tell me that guys would turn her down for the champagne room because she was too pretty.

    Bah! I thought. There's no way guys actually turn down pretty girls like that... isn't it supposed to be about having some gorgeous woman of your wildest fantasy hanging out and dancing for you...?

    Aaaaand then it happened to me. That's when I realised that I still have a lot to learn about this industry, and men in general. Sometimes they just identify with more average women... and sometimes below average. Everyone has their preference.

    By the way... the next time I get this, I'm so bringing over the first troll that walks by.

  15. #12
    Featured Member sxcbbw's Avatar
    Joined
    Oct 2009
    Location
    UK
    Posts
    1,264
    Thanks
    213
    Thanked 426 Times in 247 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    That one always confuses me, like would you like me to leave if you think I'm too pretty to be here?

    I tell them if they can get me a job modelling where I make this much money a night I'll walk out the door. Oddly enough, I'm still here. Oops! Looks like the "What's a pretty girl like you doing in a dive like this?" guys don't have any connections.

    More to the point, what's a guy like that doing in a total dive (their words) saving women? I think the priests are out to get us, ladies. That's gotta be it.

  16. #13
    Veteran Member Amareth's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2009
    Location
    Melbourne, Aus
    Posts
    640
    Thanks
    178
    Thanked 684 Times in 234 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    Quote Originally Posted by Harleigh HellKat
    I had a friend tell me that guys would turn her down for the champagne room because she was too pretty.

    Bah! I thought. There's no way guys actually turn down pretty girls like that... isn't it supposed to be about having some gorgeous woman of your wildest fantasy hanging out and dancing for you...?

    Aaaaand then it happened to me. That's when I realised that I still have a lot to learn about this industry, and men in general. Sometimes they just identify with more average women... and sometimes below average. Everyone has their preference.
    I've heard this a few times, the way I figure it is that yes, guys want a fantasy but they know that they'd never have a chance with someone THAT incredibly hot, they'd rather go for a girl they think they could pull on a night out. Adds a bit of realism to the fantasy (even though they'd probably never have a chance with any SC girl).

  17. #14
    Curious Guest
    Joined
    Aug 2008
    Posts
    3
    Thanks
    43
    Thanked 7 Times in 2 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    I usually respond with a raised eyebrow and "Oh, well, if you like ugly strippers, I guess I could try to find you one..."

  18. #15
    God/dess jaizaine's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2006
    Location
    melbourne australia
    Posts
    10,144
    Thanks
    328
    Thanked 219 Times in 133 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    "You're too pretty to be here"


    Usually time wasters so do them a favor by finding them the ugliest chick and sending her over. Is it mean?? Maybe.. Will she get it? Probably not.
    LOL i was gonna say a good response would be to say "oh u dont like attractive chicks, I'll send an ugly one over" but this is great haha.
    Quote Originally Posted by Corgan View Post
    when regulars turn cheap, it's time to kill em off.
    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    You're still a vagina.
    There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.

    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

  19. #16
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Jul 2005
    Location
    Your Fantasies
    Posts
    485
    Thanks
    1,051
    Thanked 445 Times in 131 Posts
    My Mood
    Flirty

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    Answer: Big fish in a small ocean is fun isn't it!

  20. #17
    God/dess anouk.oui's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2009
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    2,961
    Thanks
    3,002
    Thanked 1,485 Times in 738 Posts
    My Mood
    Blah

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    yay finally someone with a gymnast past! i think thats my self esteem problem too especially when it comes to approaching men due to being told 4 day per week for 8 years how fat/tall/useless i am.

    it does pay off though picking up pole tricks heaps easy just by watching and attempting.

    to answer your question i follow it up with a ''im glad you like me, lets go for a private dance''

    if he changes the subject back to how im too good for him and the place i just walk away without a single word fucker obviously wants to waste my time........ then i save the compliments for a rainy/fat day

  21. #18
    Member
    Joined
    Sep 2008
    Posts
    42
    Thanks
    11
    Thanked 8 Times in 6 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    ^
    ^
    ^
    Awesome ideas, deffinitly helped me so much now that I know what to say to these jerks and not feel like I hae to defend myself!
    Yea gymnastics has deffinitly a big pole helper, but now I find that now that I do all the super hard pole tricks that guys get intimidated or scared sometimes, it depends on the crowd, sometimes I make more just prancing around unless someone dares me that I can't climb out 2 story tall pole, and I get a good laugh at not only climbing it but doing like 10 different tricks on the way down hehe!
    })i({Raquelle Butterfly})i({

  22. #19
    Featured Member london's Avatar
    Joined
    Oct 2004
    Location
    http://playtimewithsandra.com
    Posts
    1,068
    Thanks
    708
    Thanked 300 Times in 136 Posts
    My Mood
    Yeehaw

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    If they say you're stuck up, say, " Well, why don't you take me for a spin and loosen me up, then?"

    I dunno, raunchy humor works on guys that think you're either too "pretty" or too "proper". Works for me!
    The Official Sandra London Website and Blog

    My Live and Grind Emporium:


    Listen to Playtime with Sandra Radio.


  23. #20
    Featured Member london's Avatar
    Joined
    Oct 2004
    Location
    http://playtimewithsandra.com
    Posts
    1,068
    Thanks
    708
    Thanked 300 Times in 136 Posts
    My Mood
    Yeehaw

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    Be careful that the guy doesn't take your figurative humor literal, though...so couple that response with a loopy grin. Being silly eases the intimidation factor.
    The Official Sandra London Website and Blog

    My Live and Grind Emporium:


    Listen to Playtime with Sandra Radio.


  24. #21
    Banned
    Joined
    Feb 2010
    Location
    on the jizz-covered computer screens of horny men everywhere
    Posts
    1,732
    Thanks
    2,783
    Thanked 1,557 Times in 600 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    This thread is worthless without pics! lol

  25. #22
    Member
    Joined
    Sep 2008
    Posts
    42
    Thanks
    11
    Thanked 8 Times in 6 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    Why is it worthless without pics??? I'm confused, this thread helped me a lot
    })i({Raquelle Butterfly})i({

  26. #23
    JRdancer
    Guest

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    Here's what I reply, Raquelle. Basically I plow through these comments and get them back on target.

    Quote Originally Posted by Raquelle21 View Post
    "Wow your too pretty to be here what are you doing here"/ "you shouldn't be here you should be a model"
    I love this job though! Now let's go have some fun!

    Quote Originally Posted by Raquelle21 View Post
    "Your really hot. You must KNOW your the hottest girl here. You know how hot you are I can tell you know it. You think your the hottest girl out there don't you"
    That's what I love about working here. All the girls are SO pretty. Now let's go have some fun!

  27. The Following User Says Thank You to JRdancer For This Useful Post:


  28. #24
    Banned
    Joined
    Feb 2010
    Location
    on the jizz-covered computer screens of horny men everywhere
    Posts
    1,732
    Thanks
    2,783
    Thanked 1,557 Times in 600 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    Quote Originally Posted by Raquelle21 View Post
    Why is it worthless without pics??? I'm confused, this thread helped me a lot
    I was kind of joking lol I'm just saying there aren't any pics so we can't see how "hot" you are we just have to take your customer's word for it I guess lol

  29. #25
    Member
    Joined
    Feb 2010
    Posts
    32
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked 9 Times in 4 Posts

    Default Re: "your too hot to be here"....UGH

    Quote Originally Posted by Harleigh HellKat View Post
    I had a friend tell me that guys would turn her down for the champagne room because she was too pretty.

    Bah! I thought. There's no way guys actually turn down pretty girls like that... isn't it supposed to be about having some gorgeous woman of your wildest fantasy hanging out and dancing for you...?

    Aaaaand then it happened to me. That's when I realised that I still have a lot to learn about this industry, and men in general. Sometimes they just identify with more average women... and sometimes below average. Everyone has their preference.

    By the way... the next time I get this, I'm so bringing over the first troll that walks by.
    i've been told that guys want dancers who are someone they could conceivably have in "real life". they're intimidated by girls who are "too hot".

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. Post Pics of hot "DISFIGURED" girls/guys
    By _Avery_ in forum Picture Post
    Replies: 520
    Last Post: 11-08-2012, 06:56 AM
  2. Replies: 7
    Last Post: 07-03-2008, 09:18 PM
  3. "Hunnie You Don't Belong Here" UGH!
    By MaLiBu42o in forum Hustle Hut
    Replies: 40
    Last Post: 10-15-2005, 10:44 AM
  4. ugh transition from amateurs to "real" dancing
    By quaid in forum Newbie Board
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 05-02-2005, 10:23 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •