This is anonymous, so I would appreciate replies. I am also not going to be mean or judge you- this is pure curiousity.
What's your motivation?
I enjoy it.
I can't work for an agency for certain reasons.
I do it so rarely I don't want to be a full time escort.
It's the norm in my area, I have to keep up.
I don't have a choice for whatever reason.
I have a quota to make that is set my someone else.
It's easier for me to make money that way.
I don't like to talk.
I feel it's safer ITC than screening clients.
I don't want to give an agency a cut.





This is anonymous, so I would appreciate replies. I am also not going to be mean or judge you- this is pure curiousity.
What's your motivation?
I think it should be more clearly defined. Do you mean just outright sex acts? Like BJ, HJ, full sex, fingering, letting a guy perform oral on you. Are those the kind of extras you're talking about? Depending on the club/area, grinding or showing your boobs could be an extra.
Well I guess I've done some sort of extra. I've never done any of the sex acts mentioned above, but I have let very few select customers touch my breasts. I guess I don't really know how to vote because I've done an extra so few times in 7 years. I really just have to feel comfortable with customer and have a connection with him. It can't just be all about the money for me, but of course that is part of it. If its a customer I genuinely like and he is spending money, I don't mind giving an extra when the chemistry is right. Of course I will never have any sort of sex, let a guy finger me, touch my vagina, give a HJ, or make out with a customer. I just could never do that ITC. It would also be disrespectful to my hubby. If I give an extra it is always at my discretion and something I'm completely comfortable with.




What about some girls who might have given extras a few times, or worked in a club where what's considered extras to most, is the norm there, but it was still in the past?
Because, I'd be happy to share, but every incident had a different reason, and it was only a handful of times over an entire decade, but not anymore, know what I mean?
99% of time time though, it was the norm of the club. One time was because I was fucked up, and one time because I absolutely wanted to and was having a lot of fun with a guy spending a lot of money....and it was in such a totally private, curtained off area, no way anyone would have seen it.
Ugh, I might just delete this post, don't want to get called names, its all in the past.![]()





I'm talking boob sucking, fingering, HJ, BJ, DATY, FS et al. Not grinding and boob touching.









I would think the motivation would be money, however, I have seen boob sucking, etc. without extra money changing hands.
So I dunno.




I'm just scared, is all. I can give an exact detailed explanation of each time it happened, and why. Also, I'm not worried about you saying anything, since you started the thread for informative purposes, but about others. I don't want to be called a nasty, dirty, immoral whore...because as a dancer, I was a great hustler, and made all of my money dancing clean. Still, things happened.....
Let's just say, first time it happened it was an assault by a customer and I was too afraid and shell-shocked to say no.
Twice it happened because it was the norm at the club, and I wanted to see if I could handle it. I charged a great deal more than the price of the dance, and took safety precautions (not sex). I could not handle it, so I just stuck with getting a maximum of 2-3 dances per guy, then left the club alltogether.
Once it happened because I really, really, really needed the money badly. After I thought about it, I didn't need the money that badly, I still regret. BTW, this was also at a club where extras were the norm, so although I was breaking the law, I was doing what about 90% of the girls at that club did on the reg, was just a different club.
Once I took a tab of X at work and kissed a really cute guy for about half a song. Oops.
And the final time, it was an incredible surreal experience with a really handsome guy, and had nothing to do with money, I just felt a hankering to do it. We were in one of those celebrity VIP rooms at the Rhino, you know the ones I am talking about. Bouncer had been paid off, but NOT because of the extra, he had been paid off long before for privacy, it was my last shift at this club ever, and I was in the mood (no we didn't have sex).
There you go, a multitude of reasons. Ok, I typed it all out, a decade's worth of stuff. Flame away if ya'll want, I am only human.




I didn't vote sorry since I didn't know how to answer.
Extras mean different things in different areas. At some clubs going topless is an extra. Other places it's more.
I don't do any of this and I don't grind to completion, make promises or even bring up the subject as it's not my intention.I'm talking boob sucking, fingering, HJ, BJ, DATY, FS et al. Not grinding and boob touching.
You say not boob touching. I'm a prude do you mean touching my own boobs or a customer touching?
A customer touching my boobs to me is an extra and not one that I offer.





^^ For the sake of argument and control factor, I am not including boob touching. I am specifically asking about true sex acts: LFK, DFK, HJ, BJ, FS,Greek et al. All those damn acronyms that keep me up at night.
Though I get your point. No customer was going to touch these boobies. Just my SO.
AH, retirement. Been .... interesting.


Boob sucking is an extra? Oh shit. If I had the balls I'd start telling customers that sucking my itty bitties comes with an extra charge. But I don't. I have like NO sensitivity so half the time I don't even realize their mouth is on my breast.
So I guess to answer your question...uhh my motivation is that I work in a high contact club and that's the norm?
But I will not grind and I'm VERY sensitive and turn into a monster if someone tries to touch my kitty.
Ew. And I would never touch a customers crusty penis.
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I was naughty once coz I liked the guy. He was my regular and I fell for him. I let him suck my nipples and some other things but he also became my bf for 2 years and most of the stuff i did happened after i began seeing him OTC.
There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.
Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.




I wonder if some of the guys are voting in this poll?


grinding would definately be an extra here, the first time i went to see about dancing the manager told me about some foreign girls who had let men suck their niples and the other girls beat them up - quite right too!










Most of the clubs I worked at even giving a kiss on the cheek was an extra I'd give. Harmless though. If a customer tried to touch my legs I usually didn't say anything either because it didn't bother me. I had a few guys try to touch my boobs and I kind of leaned away from them so they'd stop. This usually wasn't a problem though.
I have to respond to this because you reminded me of something terrible that happened to me. At the time I was coming into dance at this one bar. This club wasn't a fulltime gentlemens club, but had exotic dancers on Saturday nights. I did this because it was good tips and they didn't take any of my money. There was a guy in there who was a regular. Every month he would rent the other side of the bar (it had one entire suite with another bar and I later found out bedrooms for the staff) to have private parties. After a few months he asked me if I'd be interested in topless waitressing for an event and I said yes. So the night went fine and I made decent money. Nobody tried to touch me. I later found out most of the dancers there were performing sex acts. I wish I had known this because I never would have agreed to it. Anyway, about a week later (by then I had been working there for months as well as dancing at another fulltime club 5 miles away) he then told me he wanted a private dance in one of the rooms. Ok, so far normal, that is until he dragged me into the mens bathroom and forced me to perform oral sex on him. I was truly frightened and tried to get out of the bathroom but he locked it and he was stronger than me. Finally it was over and I went to tell the owner. I'd always got along with him. He said to me that he had no problem with it, that if I wanted to do extras it was fine with him. I stupidly stayed the rest of the day then left and never returned. I felt so dirty after that and wanted to report it to the cops but felt like I was to blame. Ironically, after I left the club, the owner kept asking me to return, and he kept offering me various bachelor parties (as well as referring people to me). I declined all of these parties, and left to move in with my then boyfriend (whom I was too ashamed to tell what happened). This club no longer has dancers, it's strictly a rock concert club.
You weren't to blame and neither was I. I never talk about it because it still makes me feel dirty, though I was assaulted. This was the only time this has ever happened, but I bet many others have had things like this occur. To some it probably sounds like an extra, but I've never considered it that. After that I made sure the next club had strong security. This club had a bouncer but he was fired right before this happened. Strangely, the bouncer was an exboyfriend who I was friends with and if he was there he probably would have beat up the guy for doing this.
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Don't take offense. Good for you for staying true to your personal boundaries, especially in a place where those are not the norm. And in my opinion, when I read the whole "retirement is in order thing" I saw no connection between the two statements she posted. Why would working in Vegas and not allowing customers to touch your breasts lead to a retirement suggestion? If you make money there without that, then god, who cares? If you weren't making any money as a result of your boundaries, THEN I'd see it as a reasonable thing to say. If you can't hang, then why play? You keep working it!
With that said, I've been obsessing about the whole boob touching and sucking thing = extras. I couldn't get myself to go in today because I'm deeply disturbed by that.
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Stripper persona- Britney DeFaire @ The Jet Strip.




What is all this talk about retirement if you don't provide extras?
If people think extras are a part of being a STRIPPER maybe those people need to retire.
Not to start a flame war but since when do dancers let customers have total control?
Not to mention steep discounts for guys who hardly spend any money.
Girls need to charge more especially with the economy the way that is it.
Doing extras and not charging for it...WTF?
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the poll, with extremely slight changes, could apply to just stripping in clubs at all.
amalia i don't think they are ALWAYS "extras." some clubs allow 2-way contact, although i don't know the exact rules of that. i do know that i would have a very hard time selling and keeping customers back in the CR if they couldn't touch/suck my boobies. its probably not technically allowed by law or whatev, but no girl at my club would consider that an extra. it just seems very basic and just skin contact so it doesn't upset me one bit. you said before that it doesn't bother you either and its a norm at your club, so i wouldn't get upset over it now.
i don't do it during $20 dances, but to get them to spend 1k/hr without a bj or sex is hard enough as it is.
maybe its a little boob thing too cause i have A cups and it really means nothing for anyone to touch them. its like massaging my back, who cares.





I actually think it's cool that you can handle letting guys touch your boobs. I wish I could. I commute for an hour to work a no-touch club outside the city when there are plenty of decent clubs to work at within a 20 minute drive of me, just because the contact levels in Philly are so high and I can't deal with it.





I let guys touch my boobs in VIP. i I dont consider that an extra.in most clubs that i worked at, that was the norm. actually, in some clubs that i worked at genital contact and more was the norm in the VIP rooms, so boobie grabbing was milder than was expected. ive never allowed kitty contact though. thats when it becomes personal as well as a health risk, IMO.
also, in the vip room, keeping guys hands off of my boobs is often more trouble than its worth. for me, it doesnt really bother me, and swatting their hands away and explaining that they arent allowed to do that when management really doenst give a fuck is more of a hassle than putting up wtih the hand on my tit.
as far as the mouth on my boob, usually i just remind them that they dont want to do that for heigiene reasons and they stop. having slobber on my boobs does bother me enough to put a stop to it. same with any other stuff that involves body fluids.
if they are extra creepy then i wont. But i dont usually do VIP rooms with customers who give me the willies. i usually just sell dance by dance to them and give them lame dances with less contact than customers who dont creep me out.
The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.




I think the point of doing extras is to charge more.
Extra requests costs extra money.
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