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    Thumbs down I am so fed up..

    ..with being treated like crap!!
    I finish a stage set last night and go back to the dressing room to freshen up, and when I come back out onto the main floor I see who I thought was a guy that sat at my stage (looked practically identical). I have a seat next to him and start making small talk.
    “Hey there, did you just come back from some fun at the tip rail? *wink*”
    “Oh no, must have been someone else. I don’t go up to the stage… I just come here to hang out and drive my friend. I got in free tonight so I’m just checking out the girls. I don’t do dances either. I’m above all that, dances are a rip-off.” *side note – the dance prices started at $10
    Instantly I feel my eyes narrow but try not to change my attitude, so I stick with the same sweet voice
    “Oh, so you just like to come in here and watch us girls work for free? Is that correct?”
    “Yeah. So?”
    “SO that sounds just a little pathetic” – dripping with sarcasm
    “Interesting you have such a big problem with that. None of the other girls do, I talk to all of them.”
    “Yeah..sure. The girls you’re talking to are probably the same ones talking with me in the dressing room about the loser customers who brag about coming in for a free show.” -getting up to leave
    “Well the next time I come in it’s gonna be a night you’re not working because you have a bad attitude!”
    “Like I fucking care dude..”
    Fast forward to a half hour later. My manager comes up to me and mentions I upset a friend of the cook’s! And that I need to go apologize to him right now. This mofo was a friend of one of the guys I work with! I just told my manager that I was giving him tough love to try to get a dance out of him and that I guess he took it the wrong way (yeah right). He laughs and points out the guy to me. So I walk over and give a fake apology to his pansy ass, he deems it acceptable and I make my way back to my regular – who found the whole situation hilarious and agreed the guy was a douche and didn’t belong in there.
    What is so outrageous about this whole situation is WHY did I have to apologize to a customer who didn’t even pay to get in there? Normally management makes a profit off the cover charge they pay so the customer is valuable to them even if they don’t spend on us. But in this situation neither the club nor the dancers benefited from this ass-hat being present. (Cover is free with a coupon every Monday.)
    I’m more amused than I am pissed off, but I just wanted to share what a ridiculous waste of time that portion of the night was. I’M THE ONE WHO PAID TO BE THERE LAST NIGHT, NOT HIM! And yet I’m still expected to kiss his ass while I get treated like dog shit. It’s a stupid double standard. But didn’t keep me from making money off of quality customers in the building, so whatever. I try not to let minor setbacks like that get to me but it just seems like there's an abundance of asshole guys in the club nowadays. Aghhh sorry for the long rant. Feel better already

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    I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

    It's bad enough you had to put up with with a douche bag custie (if you can even call him that), but then they had to insist you apologize?! Ugh!

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    I am seriously starting to think that clubs should just charge the customers for a certain number of dances before they walk in the door. It's frustrating that owners and managers are starting to let this stuff (not tipping stage side & not purchasing dances) slide so much.
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    Dude the cook needs to apologize to you for letting his douchey friend in at no charge.

    The other part of this story is that his friend may have been lying about getting in for free.

    That sucks. Glad to know there are other dancers who dole out the tough love.




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    I get you Jade! We are on the same page! They tried to make me give back a stage tip because the guy asked me for change back and told him to fuck off. The management then tried to coerce me to refund the dude's money, like my stage show wasn't worth a $20 dollar tip. He "only" wanted to give me $2. What I really wanted to give him back was a heel through his eye socket. WTF. That was a few days ago, word on the street is management had me banned from that club because of my bad attitude. Let's see these mickey mouse floor guys and managers take off their clothes on stage in front of hundreds of people and see how they like it!

    I guess (once again) we can just chalk it up to the bad economy.... they want to keep these jerk offs happy because they are paying customers, no matter how little they spend.
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    That's just terrible. I would have told him off again. I am so tired of clubs treating girls this way and it seems like it's getting worse.

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    What a cock smoker. I hate guys who go in and don't spend.
    I absolutely would not apologise.
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    I would not have been able to apologize! Damn that is some fucked up shit.

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    Wow, I really feel for you. I, too, refuse to kiss the asses of people like that. I agree that the cook should have apologized for his friend's douchiness.

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    That is ridiculous! Seriously... A girl I work with punched a guy in the face the other night and I don't think even she had to apologize.

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    think i might have walked upto him and said something along the lines of 'sorry your so pathetic' im very good at lying and would have then argued i apologised nicely!

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    Default Re: I am so fed up..

    He "only" wanted to give me $2.
    Then maybe his lazy ass should have gotten change beforehand.

    What a moron. Sorry that happened to you. I've never (!) heard something like that before.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Stripper Hacks View Post
    Then maybe his lazy ass should have gotten change beforehand.

    What a moron. Sorry that happened to you. I've never (!) heard something like that before.
    Stripper Hacks, I know you have worked in Texas, this happened at Cabaret North in the outskirts of Fort Worth, so that should give you a good idea of the clientele and management. Can we say illegals, rednecks, and meth heads?

    What pissed me off the most though, and Jade this is how I totally relate to how you feel, is that the management actually followed me two stages down on my rotation coercing me to give him his $18 back. I grabbed a bunch of ones and through it on the floor at their feet. I was so mad, I just up and got off stage, went to the dressing room and changed to leave. The management followed me back, begging me not to leave, all apologetic telling me to calm down, they will buy me some shots to make up for it. Yeah, just give me a few jager bombs and it will all be ok! Get the fuck out of here!

    Now they have the nerve to go tell a good friend of mine who still works there to pass the message along to me that I am no longer welcome in that club due to my bad attitude. Let me get this straight......

    1. A guy comes up to my stage and tips me, then asks for change back
    2. I refuse to give him his money back, and proceed onto the next stage per rotation.
    3. The guy complains to management, and they demand I give him $18 back, as he only intended to tip me $2.
    4. I throw some money at them and leave early.

    How am I the one with a bad attitude? A guy tips me to see me topless, asks for change back, and you MAKE ME GIVE IT BACK??!!

    I guess nowadays the basic standards of treating dancers has changed. I remember when everything was catered to us, not the customer. We ALWAYS used to outrank the customer.

    Like Jade, I am baffled at how out of wack management has their priorities. I mean, you made more money off me, my house fee, the EXPENSIVE drinks I sell, and likely the repeat customers that would come back JUST to see ME. (We're talking a dive in Fort Worth here, I have previously worked at Spearmint Rhino Vegas so that should give you an idea of how I stood out amongst the other girls).

    All in all, I am a more important commodity in the club, so the management should realize this and act accordingly. They lost one of the best dancers that will EVER work in that place because they valued some guy who probably doesn't even have his papers to be in the U.S. and only came in for $1 beer night over ME. Then they have the nerve to talk shit about me and my attitude to the other dancers there when I wasn't even there to defend myself. I swear, only in Texas...

    WTF is going on lately??? This makes me glad I have an Exit Plan in play as we speak, six more months *crosses fingers* and I'm done with this bullshit.
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    ^ LOL For real? That is seriously some shit. It amazes me how some men can be such dickheads. I would have done the same thing. How can you ask a dancer for change at the tip rail, that is so damn rude! He def did not deserve to get his money back after pulling a number like that on you.

    It's really frustrating how management treats the customers better than they treat their dancers... they really fucked up if they're losing one of their best dancers for some jerkoff customer who will probably only visit the club and pay their cover charge once. They don't deserve to make money off you working there!

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    I'm glad I work with cool managers, because they could have cared less about his pathetic crybaby ass. Even if they did coddle him to shut him the fuck up, they wouldn't have forced a girl to go and apologize, especially if he wasnt spending!

    I have never been asked for change at the tiprail. Thats just fucking tacky. I don't know why someone would think to do that, but I would of given his pathetic ass his change after I finished my stage set. Simply because I wouldn't have wanted to deal with him or mgmt. Then again, if he asked for change AFTER I accepted it and did my thing to thank him for the twenty, I wouldn't be too keen on giving it back either. It would make me feel like I worked for his tip, then he took it back, as I would give more attention to a twenty than to a dollar. Thats just fucked.
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    jade's story blew my mind. WTF! i've had my manager tell me to go to the DR to cool off for a bit after telling off customers before, which i appreciate, but never go apologize to them!! maybe maybe i could see if a girl did something horrible to a guy who dropped 10k in there constantly... but the COOK's friend?!? who the fuck is that? seriously?? i completely applaud your composure jade and ability to continue making your money after that!!
    and JD's story, like hello, doesn't everyone know if you hand a stripper money, you're not getting it back?! unless its like a complete explicit thing with a customer who's been nice where he gives you a benji and you give him back change for a dance maybe. i just had a dude give me a hundred to pay for the round of drinks when he went to pee, which came to about $40, and when he got back i didn't attempt to give him change. i feel like its understood. i can't believe management acted like JD wasn't welcome back when like she would even wanna go back to a place with such spineless scumbag managers!! when they're the ones lucky to have her there in the first place too!

    amazing management is prob the main reason i would never leave my club, and if for some reason i no longer had a job there, i would stop dancing before work somewhere else.

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    What a pussy he was for complaining to the manager lol!

    I had a guy ask me at the stage if i had change for a $5. I looked at him and said, "Are u kidding me right now"?? He says "Oh its ok i ll just go to the bar". He comes back with a dollar and as he stood at the tiprail, I completely ignored him for the whole song and walked off. he walked away feeling embarrased as the other girls laughed at him.

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    OH HELL NO! lol

    I would have gone over and laughed in his face and walked out.

    I can't believe a manager would make you do that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by jasmine22 View Post
    What a pussy he was for complaining to the manager lol!

    I had a guy ask me at the stage if i had change for a $5. I looked at him and said, "Are u kidding me right now"?? He says "Oh its ok i ll just go to the bar". He comes back with a dollar and as he stood at the tiprail, I completely ignored him for the whole song and walked off. he walked away feeling embarrased as the other girls laughed at him.
    lol that's great!!

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    one of the clubs i currently work at has a sign posted that says "complaints $5", and the bouncers will actually point to it and hold out there hand when some dude walks up and starts whining about xyz. Cuts down on complaints a lot lol. We don't have a manager per se, just the dj and bouncers to complain to, and they don't give a shit.

    but at my other club I have the same pussy ass manager problem. This example happened last sunday. Unbeknownst to me Sunday night is 25cent beer night at the club(max of 5 beers per person). I had just gotten to work and was chatting up these 2 younger custies, i spent a good 10-15 min at their table as it was early in the night and not much of a crowd yet. I brought up dances but they didn't seem too interested, so I told them i would stop by later to see if they were ready.
    So, later in the night i came back by to find they had spread out $1 bills all over the top of their table. apparently they weren't getting much love and thought it would attract some strippers to come over. so i hit them both up for a dance again, they declined. I took $2 off the table and stuck it in my top, said "ok well let me know when you guys are ready" and walked off. 1/2 hr later manager pulls me aside and tells me a customer complained that I stole money he had sitting out on his table. I was completly stunned! Remember these were guys i had met and bullshitted with earlier in the night, i wasn't like some random dancer who had just walked up asked "wanna dance?" grabbed some ones and ran off.
    so then it all came to together, they were only there to drink 25cent beers, not get dances, not tip at the stage and then flash money around just to tease us? For gods sake, it was FUCKING $2!! what did they think would happen spreading ones all over their table in a club full of strippers?! But when i tried to explain this to the manager he TOTALLY took their side, and i couldn't believe it! I was like fuck those guys, i'll go apologize and give them their $2 back and started to storm off but my manager grabbed me back and said if i talked to them again he'd send me home for the night. so i had to just ignore them, and they left soon after. At my other club if a dude had come up complaining a stripper took two $1's off their table they would have laughed in their face!
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    ^^^^ I guess this type of behavior is a growing trend everywhere. I don't think things like this would've happened a few years ago.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Oksana23 View Post
    one of the clubs i currently work at has a sign posted that says "complaints $5", and the bouncers will actually point to it and hold out there hand when some dude walks up and starts whining about xyz. Cuts down on complaints a lot lol. We don't have a manager per se, just the dj and bouncers to complain to, and they don't give a shit.

    but at my other club I have the same pussy ass manager problem. This example happened last sunday. Unbeknownst to me Sunday night is 25cent beer night at the club(max of 5 beers per person). I had just gotten to work and was chatting up these 2 younger custies, i spent a good 10-15 min at their table as it was early in the night and not much of a crowd yet. I brought up dances but they didn't seem too interested, so I told them i would stop by later to see if they were ready.
    So, later in the night i came back by to find they had spread out $1 bills all over the top of their table. apparently they weren't getting much love and thought it would attract some strippers to come over. so i hit them both up for a dance again, they declined. I took $2 off the table and stuck it in my top, said "ok well let me know when you guys are ready" and walked off. 1/2 hr later manager pulls me aside and tells me a customer complained that I stole money he had sitting out on his table. I was completly stunned! Remember these were guys i had met and bullshitted with earlier in the night, i wasn't like some random dancer who had just walked up asked "wanna dance?" grabbed some ones and ran off.
    so then it all came to together, they were only there to drink 25cent beers, not get dances, not tip at the stage and then flash money around just to tease us? For gods sake, it was FUCKING $2!! what did they think would happen spreading ones all over their table in a club full of strippers?! But when i tried to explain this to the manager he TOTALLY took their side, and i couldn't believe it! I was like fuck those guys, i'll go apologize and give them their $2 back and started to storm off but my manager grabbed me back and said if i talked to them again he'd send me home for the night. so i had to just ignore them, and they left soon after. At my other club if a dude had come up complaining a stripper took two $1's off their table they would have laughed in their face!
    Not to be an asshole, but you did just take the money off of the table without their consent, so technically it was stealing. Thats why its just not worth it to help yourself to a tip. As cheap and douche-baggish as some customers may be, mgmt can't just let girls take a customers money. At some places they would fire you, and there is no use for getting fired for only $2.
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    Quote Originally Posted by hot4ablackchick View Post
    Not to be an asshole, but you did just take the money off of the table without their consent, so technically it was stealing. Thats why its just not worth it to help yourself to a tip. As cheap and douche-baggish as some customers may be, mgmt can't just let girls take a customers money. At some places they would fire you, and there is no use for getting fired for only $2.
    well, they didn't say anything when i did it, like "hey, put that back!", yeah fuck those guys i'm over it
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    ^^Yes but even if they told you to put it back, it doesn't change the fact that you took it off the table WITHOUT their consent. Its like if I walk out of the store with stolen merchandise, get caught with it, and then offer it back to them. It doesn't change the fact I stole it. I know you didn't do what you did with the same bad intentions, but you have to see mgmts side on this one. They can't just let dancers take a customers money or any personal belongings ever, know matter how little the amount is.
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    ya honestly i think taking money off of a table that wasn't handed to you is different. i'm surprised you didn't at least say to them "well then i'm sure you won't mind if i help myself to a tiny tip for the time i've spent with you boys so far?" as you took it or something. then you would have been covered by asking for it.

    but the fact that it was 25cent beer night is very disturbing to me. 25 cents?!? might as well be free. i don't think i could work that night if someone paid me $200. i would be such a bitch to those cheap assholes. i'm just in complete shock that that this occurs in the US, i really must be in a bubble.

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