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    So im the new girl in my club. I believe I am making more money than most girls in the club right now (at first girls were happy for me now its becoming ugly so ugly infact that bouncers and telling me im the topic of the day everyday). Last night I pulled alot of hours just because im stuck with lunch shifts that only bring in 3 customers so im basically just there as wasted space for a few hours. once the night gets rolling then thats when i start earning.

    Long story short. A spender in the club came in before shift change to get dances from me before I had to leave home because everytime the person gets to the club im leaving. He has spent money on all the girls except for me. And his reasoning to come into the club last night was for me. I did a two 5 set dances before shift change at 9. I stayed longer last night to freelance (only able to get dances not go up on stage) The 9pm girls caught wind he was in club and started bringin him back for dances left and right. I went bak wit a customer to do dances and when i came bak out to the floor and to the bar he was standing with two of the girls he did atleast 6 dances each with. I smiled and said hi. HE stopped me and said if i was ready to go back there. I said yes so he excused the girls and went to do a few more dances with me.

    Veterans from the club say i did not do anything wrong. But the girls that were missing out on money because sadly that is the only dances they had for the night were extremely jealous and upset. One of the customers and a bouncer came up to me and told me to watch my back for a specific two girls (girls at the bar). I shrugged my shoulders went into the dressing room freshned up and went back on floor.

    Next time I went into dressing room I was confronted by one of the girls while i was counting my money to tip out. And she was saying she wanted to beat me up ect..

    I dont know what to do. Should I tell management? one of the girls i talk to at the club said I should and no girl "owns" a guy a nd if the guy wants to spend money on me and decided not with those girls they have to suck it up and go to the next guy.

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    If you are truly scared (I would be in that case) then yes tell someone. I've worked with a few that have attacked other dancers. As for the jealousy part, that is part of dancing. I once worked at a club where most of the other dancers hated me. I didn't know this at the time but they were jealous because I had great regulars and had clean dances and made more than them. What I did in this case (the manager wouldn't do anything because he was sleeping with one of these girls) was ignore them. I would come in all ready and just go to the dressing room and take off my civilian clothes (I wore my outfit underneath) and freshen up. Then I was out on the floor all night except when I needed to go to the bathroom or to reapply makeup (or whatever needed). When in the dressing room I rarely talked to any girl except maybe in passing. It worked for me and after awhile those causing trouble went on to their next victim.

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    You're right that they should be sucking it up, obviously it's not like you stole that customer. But if they can't deal with it and are making threats then I would tell someone if I were you. Usually these drama queens are already known to management and if you're at a good club they can keep an eye on the situation.

    Also a cautionary note:? I know it shouldn't be up to you to control their issues, but be sure not to count your money in front of anyone or talk about how much money you made, it just antagonizes. I'm sure you already know this but it's important to keep in mind.

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    Default Re: Jealousy is a ugly thing..need advice

    Can't hurt to talk to the bouncers too about keeping an eye out.
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    Default Re: Jealousy is a ugly thing..need advice

    I just ran into something similar last week. It sounds like the bouncers are trying to look out for you, so at least you have that to your advantage.

    You can try talking it out with the dancers first directly. Just tell them that you don't mean to cause any problems and ask why they don't "like" you. They may think there is a reason customers are buying more dances from you and if you can assure them that you aren't doing anything different from them, that can help.

    If it doesn't help go talk to your manager. If the manager doesn't try to resolve things I would seriously consider other clubs as an option.
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    in my experience managers are worthless in these situations, they expect the dancers to just "work it out".
    I personally won't take a guy for dances if he's already with other dancers, even if he asks me, but then i probably wouldn't even give him the opportunity to ask me, as i would not be close enough for him to ask since he obviously already has company. You saw he was already with 2 girls, but you still approached him, smiled and said hi. Next time you should just hold back and wait for the right moment before you approach if you want to avoid drama. Just sayin'.
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    I'd keep it down for a while, and not approach custies hanging out with other dancers, as Oksana23 said. Work your allotted shifts, and go home. Hopefully that'll ward off the drama llamas for a while.

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    Make sure you tip the bouncers they obviously are looking out for you. I've noticed that sometimes girls think they can scare new girls. If they confront you again just stay calm and hold your ground. A lot of people are all talk - that said if you think they really will harm you try to avoid being alone with them and don't provoke them. Most likely though if you ignore them and don't let them get a rise out of you they will move on. Talk to the bouncers, have them walk you to your car or wait with you until your ride picks you up. You can let management know what's going on and maybe they will do something. If it's a continuing problem maybe it's time to move on to a better club.
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