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    Default Food instead of sex/intimacy?

    Ok, so for various reasons I won't get into here, and out of my control, my usually active sex life has hit a wall. Specifically with one person, my main person, the person i love/been with for 8yrs.

    We don't live together, so its not like i can just jump him. No, this is not a situation where he is cheating on someone with me or anything, so please dont think that is why we dont see each other.

    Here is the problem, since it has gone down, i have been eating. and eating. constantly.

    I'll eat a nice healthy dinner or lunch, and then pig out on crap. I know I'm not hungry. I'm pretty sure I'm doing it in place of the intimacy (he and i had sex last saturday after everyone had gone to bed [it had been a swinger party], but have not had extended 'intimate' time for over a month).

    I've never done this before and it is not helping my self esteem. I've put on weight and i feel fat and nasty. I have healthy stuff in my place, but I dont eat it, or i eat it and then go out and specifically buy crap to eat as well.

    I'm hoping some ladies here can give me suggestions on how to curb this habit? It's not only making me feel yucky, but I seriously don't wear extra weight well (i have a very petite frame and it all goes to my stomach). Plus, the worse i feel about how I look, the less i try to see him cause I feel nasty.

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    I've had this happen to me.

    I'm usually a complete nympho, but every now and again, my boyfriend and I get into a relationship rut, and I lose interest in sex.

    Then for some bizarre reason, I compensate by eating complete crap non-stop. Like you said, I'm not hungry or anything, I just eat.

    Then it begins a cycle. I eat, so I look like crap, so then I feel like crap, so my self-esteem plummets and I REALLY don't want sex then, and so I eat some more.

    What I found works is first recognizing it, then trying to find some way to snap you out of it.

    I know it's the last thing you feel like doing, but going to the gym or running really helps me. Even if it's right after I've eaten dougnuts, I'm taking time for me and improving my health/look. And the endorphins afterwards do improve my self-esteem, so I'm less likely to eat junk after a workout.

    If that doesn't work, I try to do some retail self-esteem therapy. A pretty non-work top, shoes, or a new hair-cut give me a great boost, so again, I'm less likely to eat, I feel more attractive, and then I have the urge to pounce my boyfriend again.

    And POOF! Cycle broken

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    Default Re: Food instead of sex/intimacy?

    Using sugar to stimulate the pleasure center of the brain?

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    Default Re: Food instead of sex/intimacy?

    ^^^
    You were reading my mind....

    The chemical released from eating sugar is dopamine... a "reward" chemical in the brain. This same chemical is released from sex. Your brain is craving this chemical, if not through sex... then through food.

    http://abcnews.go.com/Health/Diet/st...2001298&page=1


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    Default Re: Food instead of sex/intimacy?

    Have u seen the Sex and the City movie? Samantha starts eating so she won't cheat and she puts on weight. It must be a common thing to substitute food for sex.

    I would say yeh it must be that u are substituting one pleasure activity for another.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    Have u seen the Sex and the City movie? Samantha starts eating so she won't cheat and she puts on weight. It must be a common thing to substitute food for sex.

    I would say yeh it must be that u are substituting one pleasure activity for another.
    I was just about to post that!

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    Default Re: Food instead of sex/intimacy?

    I know why I am doing it

    I was looking for ways to stop doing it

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    You might want to look into ways to curb or suppress your appetite. There are various herbs that can do this safely. Hoodia, and Garcinia Cambogia are two that have been well documentated and are safe to use.

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    Default Re: Food instead of sex/intimacy?

    the only way to stop is to practice self control

    you know why you are doing it so thats a good start, just say to yourself I dont want that candy bar, I dont need a bowl of ice cream right now

    also you could try exercising the endorphin release from exercise is another pleasure that the mind can crave

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