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    due to my stupid anxiety
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    when regulars turn cheap, it's time to kill em off.
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    Default Re: I cancelled work tonight......

    I'm sorry, sweets. I hope you feel better. I cancelled tonight too, but it was because the weather was finally nice & I wanted to do photography today.

    be well.

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    Ah. I was wondering how many other dancers suffered from this. Thanks for posting something about it. My anxiety was under control for a while, but it's creeping back. Comes in the form of heart palpitations. I'll be at work (or anywhere, for that matter), and my heart starts beating all wacky and I am sure that I am about to go into full cardiac arrest.

    It probably sounds ridiculous, and your anxiety issues may be nothing like mine, but I do empathize with you. It blows, and I hope you feel better really soon.

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    I know how you feel. I was so confident my first night, that I would do really well and make some good money. 2 hours in i was getting emotional and really getting anxious right before they would call my name for stage sets. they would say heres x followed by x and then Ryan and I hear that and go U_U uggghh here we go. Like 30 seconds before I would go on I would get real nervous and sweaty. I didn't make it through my first night. I know I will do better in the future, I just needed a break. I hope you do good better!

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    thanks girls Im glad im not the only dancer. sometimes i think every other dancer is confident except me.
    i get social anxiety.
    last night i pictured myself going to work and talking to customers all night and i just broke into panic.
    Im really introverted and shy and i have to put all my energy into being friendly and outgoing at work. it's so hard.
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    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    You are so hot and smart too (I think you said you have 2 degrees)... I bet 99% of the customers you talk to feel a lot more anxious than you do hehehe. Sometimes we all need a "mental health day".

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    thanks girls Im glad im not the only dancer. sometimes i think every other dancer is confident except me.
    i get social anxiety.
    last night i pictured myself going to work and talking to customers all night and i just broke into panic.
    Im really introverted and shy and i have to put all my energy into being friendly and outgoing at work. it's so hard.
    I know what you mean. I'm quite outgoing and I don't really have a problem talking to the guys, but it's SO emotionally draining having to pretend to be all upbeat when talking to every single guy. Sometimes I leave work and, even though I had a good day and nothing went wrong, I start crying on my way home just kind of as a way to blow off steam from pretending to be so happy and sexy all night.

    Don't worry, even the best of us get anxious and nervous before work. Hang in there!

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    ^^
    I know what you mean. My regular stayed for 6 hours the other night on a quiet night. He doesn't make me dance the whole time but sitting there entertaining him, smiling and being charming for 6 hours makes me really exhausted.
    I felt completely drained when I left and felt so emotional.
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    You're still a vagina.
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    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    ^ I agree. I always joke with my hubby that I am in a bad mood because the customers suck out my life force.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jessie_tinydancer View Post
    ^ I agree. I always joke with my hubby that I am in a bad mood because the customers suck out my life force.
    LOL I love it!! emotional vampires they are!!
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    You're still a vagina.
    There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.

    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    I'm sorry babe. I get real anxious at times too. I felt a bit panicked when I started my shift, so I drank too much to try to curb my anxiety. We also had a really young crowd tonight, so it made it even worse. I HATE my anxiety. I told myself I was going to work hard, talk to lots of customers, but instead I sat with a reg all night and drank too much because of my anxiety. I totally choked.
    CARMEN IS HOTT 4 A BLACK CHICK!!!!!!!!

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    Why does he have a headset on his head, like Janet Jackson or some shit?
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    why does Janet Jackson have a headset on her head?!

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    ^^
    when I started I used to work without any alcohol. Can't seem to do that these days. Often get tipsy or drunk now
    Hugs babe xoxo
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    You're still a vagina.
    There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.

    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    ^^Me too. I never ever drank either. I'm 27 and I haven't been drunk yet, but I was very very tipsy tonight. Never puked or been hungover, but I seriously feel so much better when I drink lately. I didn't use to be this way. I was ALWAYS sober, and I've never been this tipsy while working. I need some confidence.
    CARMEN IS HOTT 4 A BLACK CHICK!!!!!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    LOL I love it!! emotional vampires they are!!
    yes, some customers really are. I have had customers that were emotional/energy vampires, & I would be too exausted to work after they left the club. If they didn't pay so well, I would have passed them by after the first time I met them. I can only handle entertaining them for so many weeks/months though, & eventually I can't take it anymore & "break up" with them. The weird thing is, they stop coming to the club when I do that; they don't just go to some other girl in the club. It's weird.

    are you feeling any better?

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    I use to get it really bad. I didn't want to leave the house, let alone go to work.

    My doc has prescribed xanax to me. I only use it when i work and I drink green tea out of a wine glass to make custies think I'm drinking.

    So, far. For the last few months, it has been working. I also find that if I get ready for work and do a work out at least a couple of hours before I have to be there, I am so much more relaxed.

    I hope this helps.
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    ^^
    I haven't tried Xanax babe but I've tried valium and I fall asleep on it. How do u stay awake and energetic if u have that before work? I used to work with a girl who took valium before work and I just worry that I would be too tired or sedate on it.
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    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by daniella_maria View Post
    yes, some customers really are. I have had customers that were emotional/energy vampires, & I would be too exausted to work after they left the club. If they didn't pay so well, I would have passed them by after the first time I met them. I can only handle entertaining them for so many weeks/months though, & eventually I can't take it anymore & "break up" with them. The weird thing is, they stop coming to the club when I do that; they don't just go to some other girl in the club. It's weird.

    are you feeling any better?
    yeh same thing with me. when my regulars stop seeing me I never see them at the club either.

    yeh im feeling better thanks hun. i've been using an infrared sauna at my gym and it's really relaxing my mind a lot. it has negative ions in it too which is meant to be good for the body and mind.
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    You're still a vagina.
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    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    ^^
    I haven't tried Xanax babe but I've tried valium and I fall asleep on it. How do u stay awake and energetic if u have that before work? I used to work with a girl who took valium before work and I just worry that I would be too tired or sedate on it.
    can you get rescue remedy where you're at? It's 100% herbal, and really supposed to help with anxiety. I've been looking for it here in the states. It was recommended by a friend of mine in the UK. That might give you some relief.

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    Aww, I hope you feel better soon! I have no suggestions as I personally find my own anxiety hard to deal with and my coping methods are pathetic, but I really hope you can return to work and feel better in yourself mega quickly.

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    ughhhh jaizaine...Im feeling your pain today. I don't often get anxiety but it happens when I have a couple bad weeks in a row. Like right now. I was all fine today until now when I just started getting ready for work and I seriously feel like throwing up. I'm in the worst mood ever. It's been really quiet the past 2 weeks at my preferred club and there's been almost double the girls. I have so many bills to pay and my poor dog is sick so I need to make enough to take her to the vet tomorrow. Poor thing...couldn't take her today because I don't know if I'd have enough. The club is a sit down one so you have to talk for ages. Normally I like this style, but today I don't know if I can talk to anyone. I have the urge to drink or maybe even have a line or two, but I know that will just make me feel worse tomorrow and I'm working 5 days in a row this week just so I can hopefully get what I normally would in 3 days. When is stupid January going to end?

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    I recommend Rescue Remedy...you can get it in the US at Whole Foods. A couple drops on your tongue and it really calms your nerves.

    I'm sorry to hear about your social anxiety doll. It can make an already stressful job a lot worse. Have you been clinically diagnosed?



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    thanks. I don't know why I didn't think to look for it there.

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