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    I started at this club where it is very clean and no grinding is allowed. Unfortunately i took a pay cut coming here bc they lose business to the dirty clubs in the area.

    Anyway, I made absolutely nothing until this guy came in and wanted to do a champagne room with me for a half hour. The thing was he was into feet. He wanted to rub my feet, suck on my toes, put my feet on his face. Yes its a lil stange and not something im into, but i kept my clothes on and wasnt doing anything dirty. well the manager came back while i was in the room and told me they didnt allow that here. Ok fine so we sat and talked the rest of the time.

    So i finish and go in the dressing room, and the manager comes up to me and says, "U dont need to things like that to make money, because thats just DISGUSTING!" I felt REALLY embarrased and said, "Well, um, im not really into that myself, but he had a fetish and i was trying to accomodate him."

    Then i heard later from someone else that the managers and owner were saying nasty things about me behind my back. They were acting like i was some kind of weirdo or something! I was pretty hurt by that. Not to mention i was one of the only girls who made any $$ or sold a champagne room.

    Ok i get it, its not allowed, but i feel like i was being judged unfairly! I mean i dont judge them for how they make their $$, and i dont think a foot fetish is that strange.

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    well im on the managers side, if you think that there are other clubs in your area in which girls are making money by letting me suck on body parts then go and work there, dont try to lower your own clubs standards and undercut other girls! If your in their club then they have a right to tell you what your not allowed to do, it doesnt matter what you think of foot fettishes or what other girls think of foot fetishes its irrelevant its not allowed in the club!

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    I DIDNT KNOW it wasnt allowed. I was told once and i get it. Did he really have to come back and tell me i was DISGUSTING? nah i dont think so.

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    Meh that's stupid. They shouldn't trash talk a girl that obviously is being smart about her custies, trying to accomodate them in clean ways, etc. What he did with the rubbing is nothing to be ashamed of. Girls would Kill to have a guy spend $$$ on something that small. They are being fail by discriminating against you

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    are they discriminating against her? are all the other girls allowed to do that and not just her? or is it the same rules for everyone. its not about whether what he did or what he likes or whther its something to be ashamed of or not, its not allowed, quite frankly if a man tried sucking on me anywhere i would kick him in the balls and have him thrown out!

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    Quote Originally Posted by xXmy shanghai sweetieXx View Post
    are they discriminating against her? are all the other girls allowed to do that and not just her? or is it the same rules for everyone. its not about whether what he did or what he likes or whther its something to be ashamed of or not, its not allowed, quite frankly if a man tried sucking on me anywhere i would kick him in the balls and have him thrown out!

    u already expressed your opinion previously and now u want to argue? knowing that fetish work isnt allowed, i would never do it again. just bc its something u wouldnt have done, doesnt mean im a bad person. I really didnt know it wasnt allowed, i was trying to follow the rules and accomodate the customer in what i thought was a clean way.

    for them to say nasty things about me to other people and that person telling me about it, then calling me disgusting in the dressing room.....i dont think i deserved that.

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    I think management are being jerks. I once had a foot fetish customer many years ago. I am hoping he becomes my boyfriend so as you can see I have no problems with that. Personally, I've found that fetishism guys are in general better tippers and better customers. Not one has ever tried anything else with me except things like massage my feet. I think management is probably a little scared it might become more but I also suspect it's because you are new and others are jealous.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jasmine22 View Post
    u already expressed your opinion previously and now u want to argue? knowing that fetish work isnt allowed, i would never do it again. just bc its something u wouldnt have done, doesnt mean im a bad person. I really didnt know it wasnt allowed, i was trying to follow the rules and accomodate the customer in what i thought was a clean way.

    for them to say nasty things about me to other people and that person telling me about it, then calling me disgusting in the dressing room.....i dont think i deserved that.
    and now im expressing another "opinion"/FACT you weren't discrimanated against, you want sypathy and thats all, not from me sweetie!

    Oh and by the way i didnt call you a bad person.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xXmy shanghai sweetieXx View Post
    and now im expressing another "opinion"/FACT you weren't discrimanated against, you want sypathy and thats all, not from me sweetie!

    Oh and by the way i didnt call you a bad person.

    I posted this to get a second opinion, but also to get things off my chest. I appreciate everyones responses thank u

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    ^^^^

    please dont PM asking me "why i have posted such hurtful things?" my opinion that a girl should to stick he rules and stating you weren't dricrimintaed against is hardly hurtful!

    just because i have posted a different opinion and not fully agreed with everything you have said doesn't mean i am trying to hurt you, not everyone always agrees on everything thats life!

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    Shanghai sweetie........I pmd u bc i didnt want to argue on this thread. Its immature. *yawn* this is getting old

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    I think managers calling you "disgusting" is pretty excessive. It sounds like that's their hazing technique to get you in line with the club's standards. Obviously you have to follow the rules they have for their club or go elsewhere, but I can see how feet would be a grey area if they never specified that when hiring you.

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    Disgusting is overkill. But I did wince at the toe sucking part.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xXmy shanghai sweetieXx View Post
    well im on the managers side, if you think that there are other clubs in your area in which girls are making money by letting me suck on body parts then go and work there, dont try to lower your own clubs standards and undercut other girls! If your in their club then they have a right to tell you what your not allowed to do, it doesnt matter what you think of foot fettishes or what other girls think of foot fetishes its irrelevant its not allowed in the club!
    first off, i used to work with jasmine and i wouldnt consider her a dirty girl by any stretch. i never noticed her doing anything raunchy when i worked under the same roof as her.

    also, this is a support forum. flaming a girl for posting this is out of line IMO. and unecessary, there is no need to increase negativity.

    As she said, she didnt know. Foot fetsh people are weird, but its not too uncommon. I have never really dealt with them because i have a foot-phobia and i hate people touching my feet, plus my feet are REALLY ticklish so if anyone tried to suck on my toe i think that i would reflexively kick them in the face. However, fetish people tend to be well paying customers and are often ashamed of their fetishes and strip clubs are one of the few places where they can be explored. Toe sucking in a champagne is grey area... a lot of places would not consider that dirty, especially in the CR where raunchier stuff happens. if it wasnt allowed, i think it is appropriate for the manager to come in and politely tell her not to do it any more, but if she ceases the activity then there is no need for management to humiliate her more. honestly, all clothes were on and no genetalia was involved... the humiliating lecture afterwards was unprofessional IMO.

    also, i would like to point out that in ohio, i think the toe sucking is actually legally within bounds. lap dances once the clothes come off are illegal and are considered prostitution, but toe sucking fits within the law. ::shrugs:: so tehnically and legally what jasmine did is considered to be less of prostitution than a lap dance-- so lay off a bit its even in the legal grey area.

    and mangement/owners talking behind your back, also very unprofessional.

    you said your apologies just ignore the rest. if they say anhything else, i would be like "well technically i did not violate the law, and i have seen girls here touch a guys shoulder before during a lap dance and i saw one girl touch her nipple when on stage...these things are against the law. so im sorry, since it wasnt illegal i didnt know it was against the club rules it wont happen again."

    on the bright side, congrats on finding a clean club! and if management came in to stop this, then they will probably also come in if a customer is being gropey. so hopefully management will cool down and all will be well.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Quote Originally Posted by xXmy shanghai sweetieXx View Post
    ^^^^

    please dont PM asking me "why i have posted such hurtful things?" my opinion that a girl should to stick he rules and stating you weren't dricrimintaed against is hardly hurtful!

    just because i have posted a different opinion and not fully agreed with everything you have said doesn't mean i am trying to hurt you, not everyone always agrees on everything thats life!
    This is so rude. Obviously she PM'ed you so that you would stop filling up the thread with unnecessary bitchiness. Grow up. This isn't the first time I've seen you being out of line on this board.

    Anyway, I'm sorry that happened to you! I can see both sides of the argument here, especially since you are new and they may think that you are going to break other rules. But talking shit about you and calling you disgusting is uncalled for!

    And I totally understand about foot fetish customers and I don't think you're disgusting at all. I did a CR once with a guy who just wanted to lick my feet and suck on my toes and it was the easiest $150 I ever made! Didn't even take my clothes off, just pretended to be really into it the whole time.

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    The manager and owner are little drama mongers, aren't they. What a childish thing to do, gossip about it. So you didn't know, you were told, and you won't do it again. There's no need to be talking about it.

    Besides, it's not like you were licking feet! I find the licking much more gross than being licked.

    Just hope it blows over <3

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lola_sinn View Post
    This is so rude. Obviously she PM'ed you so that you would stop filling up the thread with unnecessary bitchiness. Grow up. This isn't the first time I've seen you being out of line on this board.

    Anyway, I'm sorry that happened to you! I can see both sides of the argument here, especially since you are new and they may think that you are going to break other rules. But talking shit about you and calling you disgusting is uncalled for!

    And I totally understand about foot fetish customers and I don't think you're disgusting at all. I did a CR once with a guy who just wanted to lick my feet and suck on my toes and it was the easiest $150 I ever made! Didn't even take my clothes off, just pretended to be really into it the whole time.
    LMAO i dont have to agree breaking the rules is right, if thats being bitchy then so be it im entitled to my opinion, if she doesnt want to see peoples opinions dont start threads, sorry i forgot this is a lame sympathy thread, sure let men suck your body parts its up to you poor thing being told not to break the rules my heart bleeds for you wuwuwu!

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    Quote Originally Posted by xXmy shanghai sweetieXx View Post
    LMAO i dont have to agree breaking the rules is right, if thats being bitchy then so be it im entitled to my opinion, if she doesnt want to see peoples opinions dont start threads, sorry i forgot this is a lame sympathy thread, sure let men suck your body parts its up to you poor thing being told not to break the rules my heart bleeds for you wuwuwu!
    PM--- PRIVATE message.

    bringing the contents of the private message to the public discussion was bitchy.

    shit dawg, get off your high horse. really, jasmine is not the enemy . why dont you save your anger for girls who knowingly break the rules and to continue to do so as well as for the customers who pressure them into doing so and the management that looks the other way to enable it.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    ^^^thank u athena

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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    PM--- PRIVATE message.

    bringing the contents of the private message to the public discussion was bitchy.
    Agreed. That was a really nasty thing to do, and I'm a little surprised at your animosity in the first place.

    Anyways, I'm sorry that happened to you. Feet don't really bother me, if someone wants to rub them...fucking go for it, I'm not going to turn down getting paid for a foot massage. The sucking thing would have probably weirded me out, though...but that's just me.

    However, I agree that you should look at the bright side. If they break up a guy sucking on your foot, you'd better believe they'll be all over some guy who tries groping you elsewhere.

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    1) xXmy shanghai sweetieXx is a bitch who wants attention.
    2) I say management is being totally asshole-ish in this situation. You didn't even know, and in all honesty I would not say that's an extra. If he was paying big $$$ I would let him massage my feet all night, haha! It's not like you were touching his dick or he was licking on your breasts. :/
    3) Don't be discouraged. Maybe a new club?

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    Quote Originally Posted by xXmy shanghai sweetieXx View Post
    and now im expressing another "opinion"/FACT you weren't discrimanated against, you want sypathy and thats all, not from me sweetie!

    Oh and by the way i didnt call you a bad person.
    You're not expressing another opinion, you're just posting the same thing...with the same fourth grader grammar... three times.

    I don't mind foot fetish guys, I actually like them. I don't think there's anything disgusting or dirty about letting a custy suck on your feet (granted you clean them afterwards). Compared to what most girls are doing to make money it's pretty innocent. And whether or not it was a rule, your management did not handle it professionally at all. Their actions were cruel and immature. If I was you I would not
    work there anymore.

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    Wtf? I've never heard of that being against the rules. o.O

    I have tiiiny feet. So I get a lot of foot fetish customers.
    They are. MY FAVORITE.


    You manager was totally out of line with that comment. It wasn't necessary in any way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by xXmy shanghai sweetieXx View Post
    LMAO i dont have to agree breaking the rules is right, if thats being bitchy then so be it im entitled to my opinion, if she doesnt want to see peoples opinions dont start threads, sorry i forgot this is a lame sympathy thread, sure let men suck your body parts its up to you poor thing being told not to break the rules my heart bleeds for you wuwuwu!
    How many times does she have to say she did not know she was breaking a rule? In any club I have worked at the rules say no touching of private parts. I've never seen a no toe sucking rule either. She just started working there so it is fair that she made an honest mistake. She stopped when asked. And BTW she was not saying the discriminated against her...she said they were judging her. She is not upset they made her stop or got made at her, but because they called her disgusting. She is just venting because that hurt her feelings.

    To the OP... don't worry about it babe. All clubs have different rules. You are not the first person to unknowingly break one. Who cares what they think of you? Imagine how hurtful that would be if you really did like toe-sucking LOL? I'm sure after you have been there a few weeks and they see you are not breaking rules and not a dirty dancer it will all be forgotten.

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    I think management was way over the line with this behavior. I understand the fact that they don't allow what you were doing but since you are new then him coming over to your champagne room to ask you to stop was more than enough. If you make a second offense then it's a total different story... and even then, it doesn't justify them talking about it with other people.

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