"The way to a man's heart is through his stomach."
Is there any truth to this whatsoever?
Ladies and gents, your comments, please.



"The way to a man's heart is through his stomach."
Is there any truth to this whatsoever?
Ladies and gents, your comments, please.
I disagree.
If i had to pick one thing it would be to LISTEN.
I dont know how to explain it just listen and be attentive to his needs. I personally just want someone to be genuinely interested in what i do for them and to listen to me when i struggle with something at work.
I am identified by my work. It is what makes me who i am. If i had a woman that was behind me 100% and understood that what i do is for both of us and was supportive then she could feed me cold cuts for all i care. Wont happen though cause i love to cook and more than likely i would want to cook for her.
I will also disagree with it.
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I hope not, since I can't really cook. No, I don't think it's the most important thing. The way to a man's heart is through your heart.
I think the phrase's only truth is that to cook a really good meal, not only do you have to be a good cook, you also have to put time and effort in, and know what your man likes.
Time, effort, attentiveness. Showing that you care that much is I think where the truth lies.
hahaha no. the way to his heart is through his penis. i can't cook but i give amazing head. i'm great in bed, and the guys i've slept with were always falling in love with me. so i'm going to go with that.
yes yes, i'm sure its really with your heart or whatever. i'm not saying just to sex him and have no real emotional connection. just that i wouldn't concern myself with trying to make him some amazing meal when he would really prefer a great blow job and yummy take-out.





This is my proven formula to how to keep a dude around:
1) Feed him. Cook dinner once in awhile, and they are always appreciative.
2) Fuck him. Sex on a regular basis is good for both of you.
3) If he goes out with his buddies, don't bitch at him. Go out and do something yourself. Time apart is good.
4) Don't nag him. This also goes for phone calls. ONE MESSAGE. And don't call back to back unless it's a life or death situation.
5) Be supportive, and let him lead the way on this. If he comes home in a bad mood, don't try and force him to talk. Be there when he is ready, but don't be all OMGZ BABY WHATS WRONG!
I wish I could teach classes on this stuff.




I think the saying was created in a very different time than today... THEY DID NOT EVEN HAVE REFRIGERATORS! Cold cuts didn't exist. It was after the great depression so nobody was eating out every night. Making a delicious meal required going to market earlier in the day and planning for it to be hot and ready when he came home. If a wife couldn't do that one thing for her man, then she was pretty much not going to earn his love. Mothers were the one's who created the sayingso that their daughters would know they couldn't get by on looks and charm alone. They had to learn the skill of cooking. Sex is a big deal now after the sexual revolution in the 70's but for the most part, I think 50's wives were just layin' there....So he was more tempted to cheat with the hot secretary, yeah, but he knew she wouldn't cook a meal like the wife could....
^ very good point peach!
I think it depends on where you are. I grew up in the South, where any woman worth her merit could cook, clean, and sew. In upstate NY, though, NO ONE knows how to do this stuff. I live in suburbia, where all the rich Italian chicks haven't got a clue how to operate a washer or dryer, much less cook a meal. What's more, they have no interest in learning. So up here, when I cook for guys, they are much more into it because it's unusual. I don't think it matters so much once you're in the relationship, though.




...i would be proud to show off my love's great cooking to our friends. I would want our friends to enjoy and appreciate her cooking efforts, as i do, as we aged and got fatter together. However, i'll never be able to show off her great fucking nor will our fucking be so great as we aged and got fatter.
I guess i'm a bit old school in the long run.
"Peter, did you take Stewie to a strip-club? He smells like sweat and fear." - Lois and Stewie (Family Guy) ... "Through early morning fog I see, Visions of the things to be, The pains that are withheld for me, I realize and I can see..."
what does showing off have to do with anything?
getting fatter is not healthy and certainly not part of my plan.
but the real point, wiseguy, is say you are dating two women and like them both the same amount and can't really decide which one you want to be with. one woman cooks you your favorite meal plus some new delicious stuff, and the other one answers the door in nothing but high heels and proceeds to give you the best blow job of your life followed by a few hours of mind-blowing sex.
you're telling me you'll figure the sex will get worse but the other one's cooking skills will only get better and therefore pick the chef?
i guess some men prefer food over sex, and for those men, yeah go for their stomachs if you want them for some reason. it should be obvious which men these are however.




...showing off her cooking has to do with pride, support and self esteem so she feels loved. Showing off is also me showing appreciation. Everyone gets fatter as we age and we end up looking like our parents body type.
To answer your hypothetical question as presented, yes. I never knew anyone who was married for 50 years and who's love was based on great BJ's. Perhaps they exist though.
"Peter, did you take Stewie to a strip-club? He smells like sweat and fear." - Lois and Stewie (Family Guy) ... "Through early morning fog I see, Visions of the things to be, The pains that are withheld for me, I realize and I can see..."





Ooh. Also the fatter thing brought another thing to mind; maintenance. Just because I date a guy a long time doesn't mean I stop keeping up my appearance as long as he reciprocates. I was married for four and a half years, and unless I was sick my ex husband never saw me looking a hot mess. Granted he was the same way though.
I sort of get off on being a prize though. I like when I walk with J people stare. I want him to feel proud to have a beautiful girlfriend on his arm.
showing off is egotistical and not attractive or desirable to me. but obviously it gives some women self-esteem?
people with terrible diets and sedentary lifestyles get fatter as they age. it is not inevitable.
but you do know people who's love is based on great cooking??
obviously no one falls in love based on blow jobs or meals alone. just because you prefer food doesn't mean most men don't prefer sex.
but also apparently wiseguy is from texas and i'm used to new york men. firemaiden has something going with the south vs. north thing.




...laurcon, you can argue semantics and keep second guessing my words but there is nothing to "win" here. See me in a few decades and then you'll understand my point of view better.
"Peter, did you take Stewie to a strip-club? He smells like sweat and fear." - Lois and Stewie (Family Guy) ... "Through early morning fog I see, Visions of the things to be, The pains that are withheld for me, I realize and I can see..."
there's nothing to argue about. if you want a guy that's into food, feed him. if you want a guy that's into sex, sex him. not too complicated. there's no one universal rule, regardless of what decade it is. i understand you think making food has more long-term value than good sex, and that's your POV, not every mans.
please don't patronize me. its completely unnecessary.
anyone who has been to Dublin will have seen those postcards everywhere, the ones with a picture of a women and the caption "any woman who thinks the way to a mans heart is through his stomach is aimining a little bit too high". I thought this was the new more well known saying!


+100.
I was going to be sarcastic and say "through his penis" but this one wins.
I just split with my wife - partially because she became (suddenly) unsupportive of my work in this industry. It's not that she doesn't like the industry anymore that we split...it's that she wasn't honest with me and just kicked me out. Used things only she knew to hurt me in arguments.
Realizing I no longer had the support of THE ONE person I thought I could trust. Hurt more than if she had bit my dick off.
She wants to reconcile - and I'm trying for the child...but the damage done by the lack of honesty/trust/support is hard to get past.
and no, I was never unfaithful.
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