That's so weird, to be w one stripper for so long, its almost like a relationship. But its totally common, just not for me.




That's so weird, to be w one stripper for so long, its almost like a relationship. But its totally common, just not for me.





Different? In what way? It's more than likely that your expectations are a bit different than hers or maybe she is taking you for granted and the dances are not as good as they used to be?
My current dance card has four girls that I have known for six years, two for seven or eight and one for ten years. Gotta be honest, they are favs because the dances get better all the time.
There have been quite a few that I only lasted a few visits with but also several that I would still be seeing if they hadn't retired. I actually met the four that I have known for six years all within a few weeks of each other when a long-time ATF retired. I had an epiphany back then and decidedthat I was less likely to become a RIL again and harbor false expectations about dancers if I spread around my money and my attention span.





I think its entirely possible that things can just get old, whether it be a particular girl, a particular club, or the business in general. The amount of time that takes depends on the people involved.
"never trust a big butt and a smile"-- Bell Biv DeVoe
If you're in your twenties and aren't a liberal, you have no heart. If you're in you're forties and aren't a conservative, you have no brain - Winston Churchill





I agree with all of this.
To me it's all about expectations. Of course, expectations can change on the part of the customer. The one constant is the expectation of the dancer to make money. In all honesty, some regulars lose sight of that. Most of the time when a dancer tells me she is dumping a regular it's because he either kept asking her out, reduced his spending or, the double whammy, starting spending less and asking her out!




I would advise you NEVER to give a dance for less that the regular rate...EVER. your basically doing twice the work and are getting paid half the price... and making the impression that your desperate... If he can get by with some other girl for a 10 dollar dance let him... it wouldnt be worth my time ..sounds like he's looking to see who he can get away with the most with and pay the smallest amount to do it. Guys like that are a dime a dozen... when I was still dancing, I found the guys willing to spend REAL money and left the cheap asses to the new girls. Seriously on HIS BEST day he is only spending 30 or 40 bux on you?? I say drop him... just do it politely.



Like I said can't really put my finger on it. Dances had gotten progressively better (and I realize that will reach a limit) for quite a long time. But lately, they seem ho-hum, matter-of-fact.
I don't think my expectations have changed, when I'm there paying for her time -I expect to be the center of her attention. Thats pretty much it.
I don't know as my "shelf life " is expired, as much as it is stale.





It's entirely possible you might have just reached a point where visiting the clubs no longer "works" for you. Personally speaking, in the last 8 years, I've gone from a newbie to a 3- or 4-day a week regular dance or CR customer to an occasional dance-buyer to a non-dance-buying friend to someone who has only been in there once or twice in the last several months and currently isn't sure if or when he'll be in there again. Its by no means the path everyone follows but its possible the novelty and satisfaction of clubbing have just run their course for you as it apparently has for me.
"never trust a big butt and a smile"-- Bell Biv DeVoe
If you're in your twenties and aren't a liberal, you have no heart. If you're in you're forties and aren't a conservative, you have no brain - Winston Churchill





Well, she may be bored with you as it appears that you are with her. The difference is that she is not going to stop taking your money no matter how bored she gets. If her dances are not doing it for you anymore it may just be time for you to move on to another dancer or another way to pass your time.

I think Yoda has a healthy approach to clubbing, if that is even possible. Spread your money and time between several dancers and clubs. It helps to keep things fresh for you. I took a month off from the only local club in my area, and they were very excited to see me when I did go back.



Well, Good News, after what seemed to be a 10 month cool down, things couldn't be better these last 2 months. Seems like we're closer now than we've ever been.
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