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    Sad just couldnt do it :(

    Now I am not putting this profession down at all...I give alot of respect to anyone that can go on stage and do this...

    I went to flashdancers last night and was turned down cos I have tattoos and a nipple ring. The manager was this white haired old fart that was a complete asshole. For a second it made me feel...unatractive cos I was turned down. The makeup artist (a guy) told me I was a very pretty girl but its upscale and they dont want arm tattoos.. (they allow lower back tattoos in as I saw some strippers with them) He told me to go to lace, that they would prob hire me.

    I felt so nervous!! like I didnt belong there..like I definetly couldnt do it. It made me feel sad. I dont think that this would be a good job for me mentally no matter how much money it makes.. I am however going to go in tomorrow to lace not to audition but just to visit and see how it is. Maybe it was just too much for me since it was the first time I ever been in a strip clup period. I'm going to apply to some other jobs tomorrow..I think its the best thing

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    Sorry to hear that. One thing you'll learn about this industry is how cruel it can be. You'll think you are cute and in good shape until a manager calls you an ugly fat slob. Othertimes they'll reject for no reason. Often they don't even beat around the bush, they'll tell you to your face they don't want you. You have to be very thick skinned to work in the industry. It's not for everyone because it will emotionally drain you at times.

    Good luck at the other club. Just because a club rejects you doesn't mean others will. There have been times I was rejected by a club only to land at a better one.

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    Definitely don't let that manager get you down. It can be difficult getting into the large clubs with tatoos and piercings, but it obviously doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. Were you able to get in touch with Saint Venus Theater?

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    Don't get discouraged honey~! I went through the same thing here in Vegas when I started dancing.

    I don't know if it will help at all, but what I did was pick a divey little club and work there for a couple months - one of those places where strippers go to die. lol I was able to learn to dance and move on a pole, learn to be comfortable with being nude/topless, etc. Maybe instead of trying right off the bat to get into a big club - pick a smaller one.

    The other thing that's important is to visit the clubs. I went to 7 different strip clubs before settling on my little dive bar, and then did it all over again when it was time for me to move on. I learned the ins and outs of the industry, built up a thick skin, and was WAY better equipped when I got to the bigger places.

    Now, turning 21 and moving to a different kind of club, I'm doing it all over again. I know that a 21+ bar is a whole different animal than an 18+ nude - so I'm starting at a smaller club, learning the ropes, and THEN moving on to larger and more money-making clubs.

    It's a learning experience when you first start out - don't get yourself thinking that you can't handle it. You need to try at first, and get a nice thick skin built up so you can brush off asshole comments like the one that manager at Flashdancers made toward you. Don't give up hun! If I can do it (and I was a BIG crybaby and totally insecure and self conscious when I first started... lol) so can you! I'm confident, secure, and I make my money and brush off comments like it's nothing. You'll learn, just stay strong and lean on the girls here for support. This is a great community of people who really want to see you succeed.

    Keep trying, and visit some clubs first! Watch how the girls hustle, watch how the management and bouncers treat the girls. DJs are often willing to chat with you, and so are bartenders. Flag a girl that looks similar to you (if you have tats and a piercing, call a dancer over that has them too that looks like a nice girl) and talk to her about her experiences, what clubs she's started at, etc - and make sure to tip her for her time. You'll get the hang of it soon enough!

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    Aw I'm so sorry he was rude to you. He made a big mistake turning you down for 1 tattoo and a piercing you can take out. I hope that doesn't stop you forever! I got so stressed by first day I had to wait 2 weeks before going back. If you really want to try again then you should! But if you still feel uncomfortable well, you gave it a try and that's great! I had never been in a strip club before my audition, either, and it freaked me out how different it was than I imagined.

    Don't let some rude fatass put you off forever! Good luck girly

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    The best advice I can give you: If you don't like the job.. or don't "feel comfortable" doing it.. DON'T DO IT! It's not worth your mental health. It'll mentally fuck you up if you're not into it and doing it just for the money.. Just my $0.02

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    You got turned down for arm tats .. that's understandable. I've gotten turned down for simply being black so many times *coughs* two words: MAL entertainment. Don't feel bad.. just keep trying.. I'm sure you'll kick ass!

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    You will meet a lot of great people in this industry, and you'll meet a lot of assholes. A friend once told me that when you become a stripper, God plucks out your tearducts. It was her funny little way of saying that you get a really thick skin.

    Personally, I wouldn't bother with anywhere that gives me hell about my tattoos. I make my money regardless of my body art, so if they think they are too 'upscale' they can piss off. I've worked at both upscale gown clubs and dives, and everything in between. I've found that I like the 'in between' the best because it's a happy medium for me. But starting in a dive is a great idea, I know I did. It's less intimidating AND you might just be the cutest girl there. This will help you build confidence to move up to a more upscale club.

    Good luck with the job hunt! I'm positive it will go well for you. Just remember that, as an independent contractor, the only opinion that matters is yours. As long as you think you are beautiful, then that's all that matters. Confidence is sexy!!

    edit: Yeah Malaya is right about not doing it if you aren't feeling it. Just make sure this is something you really want to do before jumping in headfirst. There are a lot of pros and cons to this industry, but I'm sure no matter what you choose to do, you'll do well.
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    tomorrow im going to apply to some places like sephora...and some open calls for restuarants. I think its best. Being there last night it just made me feel (no offense to anyone) but I just felt is this what my life has come to? and I dont mean the stripping cos if that is what you want to do more power to you. I mean the fact that I DONT WANT TO take my clothes off for men and I feel like its my only choice.

    Just being near the place I was sooo soo scared. I had to smoke some of a joint to even get the nerves and when I had to go up to the guy to tell him what I was t here for I was so scared sooo scared. I was also very ashamed or scared to have to do it and if I'm going to feel that way its not worth it. I

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    Quote Originally Posted by eve666 View Post
    tomorrow im going to apply to some places like sephora...and some open calls for restuarants. I think its best. Being there last night it just made me feel (no offense to anyone) but I just felt is this what my life has come to? and I dont mean the stripping cos if that is what you want to do more power to you. I mean the fact that I DONT WANT TO take my clothes off for men and I feel like its my only choice.

    Just being near the place I was sooo soo scared. I had to smoke some of a joint to even get the nerves and when I had to go up to the guy to tell him what I was t here for I was so scared sooo scared. I was also very ashamed or scared to have to do it and if I'm going to feel that way its not worth it. I
    I'm sorry that you feel that way. And I really don't mean that in a sarcastic, catty way. I'm genuinely sorry that it was such a weird experience for you.

    On the other hand, I have a lot of respect for you and for realizing that it's just ... not your thing. I've worked with countless girls who force themselves to deal with it and it's just bad news for those of us who have to put up with their attitudes (not saying anything bad about you, just a general statement), it's bad news for customers who come in and want dances from a girl who enjoys her job, the managers are rude enough in most cases ... etc. Kudos for being woman enough to say, "Eh, tried it, not for me - power to the rest of you girls!"

    I wish you the best in your future endeavors - and if you ever decided that maybe, juuuuuuust maybe you wanna try again, you know all of us here on SW are here to back you up!

    Best of luck honey!
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    Quote Originally Posted by eve666 View Post
    I mean the fact that I DONT WANT TO take my clothes off for men and I feel like its my only choice.
    There's always another choice.
    If you don't want to do it. Don't do it.
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    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    If you are still ok with working in an adult job but don't want to get naked, you could try doing phone sex... OR try cocktail waitressing/ being a shot girl in a club to check it out and get a feel for it. That way you get to see what it's really like before taking the plunge.

    In a down economy, you know who's always hiring..? Credit card collections agencies. The money is decent, there's good incentives, and it will help hone your sales skills so you can do whatever you want. I worked for TSYS as a collections agent and really enjoyed it, and they have campuses all over the US and overseas. There are usually opportunities for advancement also.

    Also, you could clean houses independently... it pays more than doing it through a company. But be careful!! You could try cleaning for people you know..?

    I definitely agree that you should only get into dancing if that's something you really want to do. Never do anything that makes you uncomfortable, even if you feel like it's a 'last resort'. There are always temp agencies, under-the-table jobs, odd jobs etc. Have you looked into unemployment benefits or help finding a job through the unemployment office? I think they now also offer help with certification courses

    Good luck with the job hunt!
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    My 1st time EVER in a stripclub, was when I started cocktail waitressing in one. At the short-lived Club Cheetah Miami.

    I was 19. The money was awful, the girls were drunken/crazy, the managers were pieces of shit. The customers were scary. I was not good at asserting myself to grabby obnoxious customers. I had low confidence and felt very unsexy and awkward in my cheetah-print outfit. I had always been a sort of artsy, super shy, quiet, introverted girl so even asking customers for their drink orders took a lot of emotional energy. Not to mention this was MIAMI (used condoms in the LD booths, anyone?). At the time I never would've DREAMED of getting totally naked and fingering myself on stage for strangers, grinding/fucking/whatever strangers in those private booths ("what if no one can hear me scream??") or even having to converse w/ random people who'd be judging my every flaw. I lasted there 1 month as a waitress.


    Fast forward to age 24; I'm mature enough to have the confidence to take off my top, the courage to talk to and be alone with strangers, and the assertiveness to say "NO". So I decide that I'm finally at a place in my life where I can handle stripping. It doesn't hurt that I'm now living in a cleaner, stricter state than FL as far as dances go.

    I guess the point of this story is that people change, stripping may not be the best thing for you now, but it may be in a year or 2 or 5. Or you may NEVER wanna do it. The worst thing you could do is to strip when you're uncomfortable with it. It'll show through to customers & you won't last long

    Best of luck!

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    There are plenty of clubs out there that allow tattoos, and plenty of guys that love 'em. So what if the first club wasn't the right match...NEXT!
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    Default Re: just couldnt do it :(

    I'm in my 20's and I am mature enough to know...that this is just not for me

    thank you everyone for ur sincere responces

    I think i needed to go to that club tho ya know...to know it wasnt for me and that there are other ways of making money. I signed up for classes today. My father said he will help me. I am looking for jobs and just going to do that instead. I think the whole enviroment also scared me. its not for everyone and I know that now

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    Props for you Eve for knowing what you can and can't do If stripping is a girls last resort it must be emotionally taxing - I love this job even on the bad days! It sounds like things will work out for you. Oh and I love the name Eve it's my stage name lol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by eve666 View Post
    I'm in my 20's and I am mature enough to know...that this is just not for me

    thank you everyone for ur sincere responces

    I think i needed to go to that club tho ya know...to know it wasnt for me and that there are other ways of making money. I signed up for classes today. My father said he will help me. I am looking for jobs and just going to do that instead. I think the whole enviroment also scared me. its not for everyone and I know that now
    Good for you for not pushing yourself into a path you didn't want to go down.
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    Quote Originally Posted by eve666 View Post
    I'm in my 20's and I am mature enough to know...that this is just not for me

    thank you everyone for ur sincere responces

    I think i needed to go to that club tho ya know...to know it wasnt for me and that there are other ways of making money. I signed up for classes today. My father said he will help me. I am looking for jobs and just going to do that instead. I think the whole enviroment also scared me. its not for everyone and I know that now
    I couldn't imagine how hard it would be to do something you are not comfortable doing. I was totally relaxed at my 1st audition/day because I'd wanted to strip since I was 16 and didn't get the courage to do it until I was 23.

    You would have found it really hard to make money because guys can tell when someone is desperate. Good luck with your other options. I wish you well.

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    theres nothing wrong with you if you can't do this. It's not for everyone. It's much better to find that out now instead of getting into it and not being able to handle it.
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    If you don't want to do it then don't. I'm planning on doing it cause I enjoy dancing, I will be hiding my tattoo cause I don't feel like explaining it over and over.

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    thanx again everyone.

    Tomorrow after I bring some papers to school I will be going to NY Dolls..they are looking for waitresses. I also have a few other places to go to..

    I may do some go go dancing at this metal bar in bk. I dont mind that as I have been to that bar many times and danced on the table during drunk times haha.. Everyone there is friendly and very sweet.

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    lol I was just about to suggest go-go dancing!
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    You sound like a smart girl, if the environment itself scared you you are being very responsible in taking care of your self and your future.

    The environment is not right for many girls who choose to dance, and that can lead to life long problems.

    But as far as them turning you down and feeling unattractive-its just 1 club and a picky one at that. If you did want to keep on dancing this wouldnt be a road block. Getting hired can be one of the harder part of the jobs. Once your in the club then you get to see if you can make $.

    Getting turned down at an upscale club in a major city doesnt make you not fit for dancing, feeling in your heart that it isnt right does make it not right for you.

    I respect the way you posted and how you feel. Just dont let the old farts who run this industry make you feel unattractive when you know youre hot!

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