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    I'm getting involved with a dancer......in her personal life I'm not a customer. I recently found out she has a few regs that call her at home. She said they mostly call to find out when she's working or if she's going to be in on a certain day etc.. She also said she has brief convos with them when they call and I was fine with all that. Then one night I wanted to take her out and told her I'd pick her up in the parking lot outside the club. She said she didn't want me to pick her up there b/c she didn't want any of these regs to see her with me. She said it would ruin their fantasy for them to see her with me. I thought doesn't their fantasy end the minute they walk out the door? She said no they really believe what she tells them in the club is real. What if we're out somewhere and one of these regs see us together? It's not a problem for me and it shouldn't be a problem for her but.....I don't know. Is that normal or is that a little too involved. Maybe I'm wrong but it seems creepy to me.

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    I think it all depends on her regulars and how crazy they are, and how much money they shell out.

    "Enough", I think. Crazy enough, and generous enough, for her to personally desire to keep it that way.

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    It's not creepy or weird at all. If her customers see her boyfriend pick her up they might loose interest in her and there goes her money.

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    Well i would never have this problem bc the club i work at makes sure all the customers have left before we can leave.

    If u ever need to pick her up from work or want to, i dont think her regulars would see her with u, especially if ur sitting in the car in the dark. and lets say they did see u guys, she could always tell them, "oh my cousin is picking me up" ...or brother or close friend whatever.

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    I wouldn't suggest you pick her outside the club... it just looks bad and can make her look bad. Unless you've been in a relationship with her for years and you aren't going anywhere then meet up with her somewhere else. Otherwise you are risking that the club staff may think she's meeting up with a former club customer.

    As for her actual customers seeing you two together, it's very unlikely anywhere except at the club - where it's very likely especially if she works an early shift.

    If it's an emergency I would use Jasmine's idea though and have her tell customers that you are a cousin or something along those lines.
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    Quote Originally Posted by alphamale99 View Post
    I thought doesn't their fantasy end the minute they walk out the door?
    No, not for a lot of these guys. They leave the club and spend all week thinking of that dancer and the next visit. The myth of her "availability" is a big part of what keeps the fantasy alive when they are not face to face with the lady.

    Is it creepy? Depends on how you look at it. One thing is for sure. If you want to date a dancer, or any sex worker, you have to accept the fact that things like this are part of the gig...
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    Their is also another possibility, that she is involved OTC with some of these guys and she does not want you to see what she is doing. It happens.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fast tan77 View Post
    Their is also another possibility, that she is involved OTC with some of these guys and she does not want you to see what she is doing. It happens.
    I've thought about that and I don't think so but even if she does it wouldn't bother me. I'm very secure with the knowledge she's into me and I"m also very good at separating what she does at work from her personal life

    Thank you for the replies I feel much better about it. My main concern was wondering if it could get out of control if the fantasy was that real to them and that's why I wondered if it was normal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alphamale99 View Post
    I'm getting involved with a dancer......in her personal life I'm not a customer...She said she didn't want me to pick her up [at the club] b/c she didn't want any of [her] regs to see her with me. She said it would ruin their fantasy for them to see her with me.
    Depends on the regular. Some are entirely realistic about it and only go in to see the dancer ITC. That sort of arrangement can suit both parties because the reg gets slightly more of the dancers time/slightly better dancers as an incentive to keep him coming back for more.

    Other regulars are after a date but know in their heart of hearts it won't happen. They typically move onto another dancer after a few months with minimal drama.

    Rarely, a regular will get totally obsessed with a dancer and drop serious money on her in the hope that he will get a date. We could be talking tens of thousands of $$$'s here. And that situation usually ends with drama - and the reg getting tossed out by the bouncers.....

    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    No, not for a lot of these guys. They leave the club and spend all week thinking of that dancer and the next visit. The myth of her "availability" is a big part of what keeps the fantasy alive when they are not face to face with the lady.
    QFT. 'Availability' is what keeps these guys spending. If they thought that all they were doing was financing the dancers OTC lifestyle and that the dancer had no intention that they feature in that lifestyle, then they'd soon stop spending on her and start spending on another dancer who was 'available'.

    So, yeah, visible SO's can ruin the fantasy for high spending 'date the dancer' type regulars.

    Quote Originally Posted by alphamale99 View Post
    What if we're out somewhere and one of these regs see us together?
    Odds are heavily against it. Firstly, most dancers look very different in the club to what they look like in real life. And secondly, most clubs are in cities or very large towns - so the odds of being in the same place at the same time as one of her regs is very low.

    Final thoughts

    (a) Most dancers are pretty experienced at dealing with regulars, so following her advice/recommendations is generally a good idea.

    (b) It's very rare for a dancer to see a regular OTC - unless the regular is paying for the pleasure (including the dinner, the taxi and the theater - and generally all in return for nothing more than the chance to spend more money on her the next time he sees her ITC).

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    You shouldn't worry. This is normal. I am married and I make my husband drop me off a block from the club. I sometimes don't even wear my wedding rings in public if I think I may be somewhere I could run into a customer. I have run into a couple before and just said he was also a customer that was paying for my time. Not all customers are like this, but usually the big ones want to think you are single and available. My husband understands this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alphamale99 View Post
    I'm getting involved with a dancer......in her personal life I'm not a customer. I recently found out she has a few regs that call her at home. She said they mostly call to find out when she's working or if she's going to be in on a certain day etc.. She also said she has brief convos with them when they call and I was fine with all that. Then one night I wanted to take her out and told her I'd pick her up in the parking lot outside the club. She said she didn't want me to pick her up there b/c she didn't want any of these regs to see her with me. She said it would ruin their fantasy for them to see her with me. I thought doesn't their fantasy end the minute they walk out the door? She said no they really believe what she tells them in the club is real. What if we're out somewhere and one of these regs see us together? It's not a problem for me and it shouldn't be a problem for her but.....I don't know. Is that normal or is that a little too involved. Maybe I'm wrong but it seems creepy to me.

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    My concern was not meeting outside the club it was a one time only deal. It was a these regulars calling her at home that concerned me. I couldn't wrap my brain around continuing the fantasy to that degree. It made me wondered do they really believe the fantasy. To be honest I wondered how sane they are or if they are perfectly sane and even on the phone know it's a fantasy. My primary concern with calling at home was could they could be a potential threat to her. Based on what I read here it's fairly common so they're probably not a threat. Thanks for the feedback

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    Yeah, it sucks that she has to spend time on the phone at home, but that is the reality of just about any sales position. My husband regularly takes work calls at home, and he is in home construction and remodeling. It is just the nature of the beast.

    Being a dancer, some regulars have limited time to set up appointments, and will call during their lunch breaks at the office or whatever. If I don't answer when they call, then they will call the next girl on their speed dial and she'll end up getting the sale.


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