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    Default How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    I had unprotected sex with a guy I just met and I am (maybe) seeing him again tonight. He said he cannot come with a condom, I know this was stupid of me please don't lecture me.

    Is there any point asking him to get checked out? He said he had an aids test a while ago but he's fucked other girls since then I assume. Who knows if he would even go to a clinic if I asked. I put myself in a really bad situation.

    I was looking at pictures of herpes because I want to be really strong tonight and say no to the hot hot hot sex unless he uses a condom.

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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    Just say no glove, no love. He can always cum after intercourse without a condom. Even with a test you're not safe unless you're in an exclusive relationship. I mean how do you know he didn't sleep with someone days or even hours before he sees you?

    But to answer your question. IMO direct and simple is the best approach. Don't attempt to justify your request as it is far from unreasonable. Just tell him he will need to be checked out for STD's before you have sex again. If he's a rational person, he will understand. And frankly, if he balks you don't need him.

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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    You say "let's go tested together" so that you can both be safe.

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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    Just go get tested yourself if he wont. And if he wont...no more sex, esp sans condom. Better safe then sorry.

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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    So he can't come without a condom - big deal. That's no excuse.

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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    Try telling him you're feeling worried about having had unprotected sex and you would feel a lot better if he would get a test, and offer to pay for it. Also, promise him you will keep the results confidential. You should also get tested again every few months because some STD's don't show up for a while.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LuvlyDancer View Post
    I had unprotected sex with a guy I just met and I am (maybe) seeing him again tonight. He said he cannot come with a condom, I know this was stupid of me please don't lecture me.

    Is there any point asking him to get checked out?
    Like yesterday....but seriously, best to have a "I'll show you mine if you show me yours" HIV/STD report policy, and earlier the better for obvious reasons....
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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    "I can't come with a condom" is such a lame, old excuse. Its MUCH harder for a man to get an STD from a woman than the other way around, your risk is far greater. Get polyurethene condoms. OR, go to the clinic, make it a fucking date. Just remember, some of the free anon clinics make you wait 2 weeks for results. Depending on what insurance each of you has, might want to consider going to a proper medical clinic or doctor's office. They can get results seen under a microscope right away, and everything else within 48 hours.

    Take it from me, do the test. You don't want an STD, even a mild one. The humiliation of going to the doctor AFTER you are infected is way worse than going before, to be pro-active. They will pat you on the back as a responsible adult for doing it.

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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    its pointless to get him tested unless you are planning on being in a trusting monogamous relationship.

    i guarantee you hes not going to turn down sex with protection

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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    You ARE strong, and you can do this!!!
    It is a great idea to ask him not only to use protection but also to go for testing with you.

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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    Besides, if he "can't come without a condom" that means if he wears one he'll last forever, right?

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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    Just keep this in mind if he won't use a condom with you that means he won't use a condom with anyone else either.

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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    He's hot as hell and for sure he is fucking other girls. He's not that into me so I either need to insist on a condom or say no sex. I don't want to set myself up for failure (by not following through on those 2 options), so earlier today I was thinking about a STD test. But really that's not a solution since I can't imagine for a second he has not fucked other girls since his last test.

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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    If he won't wear the condom, then just play with yourself until he agrees. Use your feminine charms! Try the trick where you put the condom on him using your mouth.

    If he refuses, then just don't have sex with him. Hand him some lube and a porno and tell him thanks anyway. If he is sleeping with multiple women, and never, ever wears a condom you are for sure going to catch something from him, if you haven't already.

    If for no other reason, refuse to have unprotected sex because you respect yourself and your health. He obviously doesn't, so you had better.


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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    I'm sure there are other men that are hot as hell and are responsible as well

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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    Thank you Paris. I really respect / appreciate your comments. I know you are right.
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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    This is like the oldest, lamest excuse ever.
    Even if it were true... He could get off afterwards through a whole list of methods. Because really... it's not like he needs to come while he's penetrating you... with no condom. >_>;

    It doesn't make much sense to fuck him with no condom first AND THEN ask him to get tested... right?
    He's bascially volunteering the information that he's slept with multiple women with no condom in the past... so you already have to get yourself tested now... and then again in another few months...
    I guess since now you already need to get tested anyway... why not just invite him along? It's not an unreasonable request if you're planning on continuing to do this.
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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    You've had all the answers you need. Get checked out - even if he won't. If he's 'hot', he's in bed with other girls - that's a dead cert....and without protection too.

    All this stuff about 'can't come with a condom' is out of the Ark. In actual fact - an awful lot of guys come quicker with a condom because the lubricated latex stimulates the glans skin - so it's all bull!

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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    just tell him.

    a long time ago, i was pursuing a guy who was rumored to have genital warts. i told him i really wanted him to get tested before i slept with him. he got tested. he was clean. we slept together. it was cool for a couple weeks. the end.

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    Default Re: How do you ask someone to go to the STD clinic?

    If he can't get off without a condom, he can just jerk off afterwards. No big deal. Who cares if he can't ejaculate without one?

    He can't do many things without one - like, sleep with people. Poor baby, he'll have to deal with that.

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