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    Default Lapdance Strategies

    All too often I see girls taking guys back into the lapdance area and they do nothing more than grind their hips into powder, dry-humping for song after song, and the guy keeps buying more and more songs and the routine is never switched up.

    I know these guys are obviously looking to get off, or else the constant bumping and grinding would get hella-annoying after awhile.

    I'll admit, I tried the 'nothing but grinding' strategy... for half a song. The moment I heard the guy start to breathe heavier, I stood up on either side of his hips and airdanced a bit. I ain't your fucking hooker, buddy.

    What are your girls' take on lapdancing for entertainment VS lapdancing as a way to get off? Have you ever done the grinding strategy as a way to get more dances knowing the guy's just looking to bust a nut?

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    Default Re: Lapdance Strategies

    I don't think I'd have a problem grinding, but not THAT much grinding.

    I would have a serious problem if a guy actually spunked while I was grinding. I'd probably puke on his shoes.

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    Default Re: Lapdance Strategies

    Most of the time I straddle the guy and kneel over his lap. Lots of hugging and rubbing and touching his hair and face, but no actual grinding. If he looks like he's getting bored I'll flip around and rub my bum on him a bit, but not super heavy grinding. Mostly putting my head on their shoulder, arching my back, breathing in ear. I try to focus more on my lapdances being similar to foreplay or the after sex cuddling and playing.

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    Default Re: Lapdance Strategies

    Duh...if you grind him til he comes....then he'll stop buying dances.

    I employ the 3 second rule
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    Default Re: Lapdance Strategies

    Lap Dancing as Entertainment vs A Way to Get off...
    An interesting question and pre-dic-ament , lol.

    I look at it this way.
    YES we ARE Entertainers, but honestly, why do Guys get lap dances?
    It usually isn't to have a better place to talk (although talk can be what some are after)...
    It IS to get that much closer to us (in a more private place) and to SEX.
    I am not saying that they will ever get it from me (paid or not), but when it comes down to it that is what most are probably looking for...
    In short, most want to get off.
    Could we not be described as hovering somewhere between (them watching) a porno and prostitution?!
    Saying this, I AM NOT an 'EXTRAS girl'/prostitute, and as such he is NOT allowed to touch anything that is wet with anything.
    Nor do I allow their mouths to go anywhere.
    I do admit to allowing some to lick my breasts BRIEFLY. (I have realized that even that is starting to fuck up my own love and sex life and so I am discontinuing it)
    I will NOT touch their dick, nor do I want to see it.
    I DO NOT do hand jobs or BJs or anything else and I will not make out with a guy.

    I DO however, " Sell the IDEA of SEX" and I Sell them THEIR Desire for Sex.

    I Know that a few guys I have LDed for have got off...and I Made Damn Sure they took as long as I could to get there...
    To me I look at it as a way to make sure they are going to leave me with as little in their wallets as I can possibly make them; by keeping as much blood out out the brain at the top of their body for as long as possible.
    After all the brain at the top of their head is the one budgeting the money in their wallets!
    It is budgeting money for LDs from OTHER girls, it is worrying about their bills and booze money, girlfriend/wife, what time it is, how long they have been away from their buddies and thinking about all the other things they could be doing.
    But No guy is going to want to stop and leave when they are feeling 'that good' any more then they would if they where actually having sex. So the trick is to prolong that 'feeling that good', for as long a time as possible.
    The 'heavy breathing' mentioned is a good thing to me; It is a sign that they are forgetting everything outside of 'US' and the focusing of budgeting their wallet is beginning to be forgotten by them. I also pay Close attention to his Dick. Again, I am not an Extras girl/ Prostitute.
    By pay attention I mean that I make myself aware of where he is in terms of getting off.
    If I can tell he is getting close to cumming, I will Slow right down or switch my position.
    I Always do this in a way that is not too abrupt or obvious.
    I will do something like 'show them my cookie' or take off another piece of clothing, caress myself, do some air dancing, look into their eyes and smile seductively (For my mental and emotional sake I will deliberately unfocus my eyes and blank my mind and or focus on the music or THE MONEY)...which distracts them in a good way.
    I also always make them feel special; I will run my fingers through their hair, breath in their ear, moan, grip their pants...
    We are entertainers, YES... Which means we are Actors in a play where we can and do routinely brake 'the fourth wall' and where the audience's belief in the story(fantasy) we are creating for and with them and their participation helps us make more money.

    It is wanting more that keeps the money coming out of their wallets.
    It is keeping what they really want (sex and or love) plausibly within their reach (but never actually attainable) that keeps them coming back for more.

    I have often turned, 'Just one Dance' into several, turned several into BANKING!!
    Even with the economy being as it is, I will usually get more then they were going to spend whenever I deliberately help them at least get close to getting off.

    One thing I always do is 'ask' them is I can sit on their lap, while I get dressed.
    I have a few reasons for this:
    -They cannot leave with my money still in their wallet if I am sitting on it.
    -It makes them feel special, cause it makes them think I am in no hurry to just take their money and leave.
    -I can give them an extra little bit of teasing to think about (to cultivate a return/regular/more lap dances now), as I lean back to Wiggle ;P into my thong and skirt they can also see my boobies, I am leaning up against the possibility that that they may just ask for more dances too, which has happened.* Now that I will remember to use the 'Pussy Juice' behind the ears (or on the ridge of your ears) trick, it will also help to get their noses more of a tease as well...which could lead to more money!!
    -Keeps them away from spending any more ( LOL,of MY) money on other girls or more booze or leaving...for that much longer.
    -Keeps them with me that much longer... Could=more Money for me.
    -I often have watched another girl getting dressed ALONE; having collected her money, or with the guy standing there pulling out his wallet... I cannot help thinking that it looks bad or cheap in some way...sad maybe... I am NOT saying that She is Cheap or bad at all...It just seems so Empty or something...like the fantasy is over and what is left is a cold naked business transaction.
    Do you know what I am saying?

    Could we not be described as hovering somewhere between (them watching) a porno and prostitution?!

    Cock Tease?!

    HELL Yes!!

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    Default Re: Lapdance Strategies

    I work nude, non contact, but we can charge for touching, except vajayjay

    My basic routine is
    1.Clothed, facing custie, put my arms either side of his head, caress his hair, neck shoulders
    2. Straddle facing and undo top/lower dress (still have bra on) Lots of boobs-in-face, and one way touching, plus I breathe against their necks, and rest my head on their shoulders
    3. Spin around, sitting in lap, maybe grind for a second, then arch back with my arm around his neck, so he has a view down my body (usually if they havent tipped to touch, they will at this stage, it seems to be instinct to go for the boobies in this position)
    4. Slide to the ground and either kneel and wiggle butt or stand back up facing away
    5 If kneeling, turn around and come between his legs and stroke near his knees (nowhere near groin)
    6 Hands either side or him and body slide up to standing. Slide off dress
    Repeat
    Repeat, removing bra in position 3
    Repeat
    Repeat, removing gstring in position 4
    Once nude I dont like to get on the floor or face away much, just incase they try for a grope.
    The above routine takes 3 songs (our dance length)
    Theres no sense crying over every mistake,
    you just keep on trying till you run out of cake

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    Default Re: Lapdance Strategies

    Every club is different. Some are more "entertainment" clubs that are more stage performances and air dances.. And, some are more contact clubs.. And, of course, some are full out extras clubs.

    As a dancer you have to choose which type of club you want to work at, and as there is much variation within dancers at each club, you have to decide how much contact you will personally allow.

    Everyone is different, and there is a customer for every kind of dancer (thank goodness!!)..

    Now, for MY opinion~ I work in an "entertainment" club and I am a strictly "entertainment" dancer.. I do not want to grind, never want to feel a hard penis, and do not allow touching (on his part and for my part on his naughty bits).. I feel strongly in the fact that I believe stripping/DANCING is my job, but I will not provide sexual favors (such as grinding to the point of ejaculating). I am a DANCER, an ENTERTAINER, and nothing else.
    My dances are no contact and my VIPs are pretty much the same, with more of a focus on making the customer have a FUN time, laughing and being treated like the most important man on earth, rather than a grinding/sexual experience.
    That is my personal preference.. I don't judge those who feel differently and I recognize the fact that in many places, I would not make any money! Which is why I don't travel, and stay at my home club. Fortunately for all of us, there is a club and customers for each type of dancer, so everybody's happy! (in whatever sense of the word )

    Oh, and if a guy is just trying to get off, he's not going to stick around for too long once he realizes you aren't going to get him there.. They are pretty persistent in asking/pressuring you to grind.. or they just move on to the next girl!

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    The more you do the less you will make. PERIOD.
    Last edited by Delvina; 02-01-2010 at 11:42 AM.
    Stop talking. Start spending! lol

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    Default Re: Lapdance Strategies

    Duh...if you grind him til he comes....then he'll stop buying dances.
    Big Duh.

    Letting a guy nut should not be a lap dance strategy whatsoever. Your goal should be to get as much money out of him as possible. Not tend to his needs.

    Why girls do this amazes me. No amount of money is ever worth it.

    Puke on his shoes. I like that.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Christyismyalias View Post
    Every club is different. Some are more "entertainment" clubs that are more stage performances and air dances.. And, some are more contact clubs.. And, of course, some are full out extras clubs.

    As a dancer you have to choose which type of club you want to work at, and as there is much variation within dancers at each club, you have to decide how much contact you will personally allow.

    Everyone is different, and there is a customer for every kind of dancer (thank goodness!!)..

    Now, for MY opinion~ I work in an "entertainment" club and I am a strictly "entertainment" dancer.. I do not want to grind, never want to feel a hard penis, and do not allow touching (on his part and for my part on his naughty bits).. I feel strongly in the fact that I believe stripping/DANCING is my job, but I will not provide sexual favors (such as grinding to the point of ejaculating). I am a DANCER, an ENTERTAINER, and nothing else.
    My dances are no contact and my VIPs are pretty much the same, with more of a focus on making the customer have a FUN time, laughing and being treated like the most important man on earth, rather than a grinding/sexual experience.
    That is my personal preference.. I don't judge those who feel differently and I recognize the fact that in many places, I would not make any money! Which is why I don't travel, and stay at my home club. Fortunately for all of us, there is a club and customers for each type of dancer, so everybody's happy! (in whatever sense of the word )

    Oh, and if a guy is just trying to get off, he's not going to stick around for too long once he realizes you aren't going to get him there.. They are pretty persistent in asking/pressuring you to grind.. or they just move on to the next girl!
    This is exactly how I am too. Sometimes our bouncers "overlook" a little hip/leg touching so they get that extra tip, which pisses me off, because your just don't know where theyre hands have been, and then the guy I'm dancing for is to busy looking at her getting touched then paying attention to me! Or he's whining to me "how come shes letting him touch". If I talk to management they just don't care (they say they do, but nothing ever happens) and because our bouncers are just so tip hungry. Any ideas on how to keep his eyes from wandering and seeing what other girls are doing?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Delvina View Post
    The more you do the less you will make. PERIOD.
    YES.

    And this seems to hold true in any business, not just in this industry.

    Any job I've ever worked, the customers who spent the most money were the most laid-back, relaxed, respectful people.

    I've NEVER had a customer tip me hundreds of dollars, then become disrespectful and start pressuring me for extras.

    I HAVE had many customers tip average or less (usually less), then act entitled to whatever they wanted. And they'd say, "Oh, but I tipped you all that money!" (It's usually like a 5).

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    Default Re: Lapdance Strategies

    Lots of eye-contact and smiling. Try to project how much you enjoy his company through your eyes alone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britneyireland View Post
    Duh...if you grind him til he comes....then he'll stop buying dances.

    I employ the 3 second rule
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