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    I've never been one to make friends in a strip club, for the most part, as I stick to myself, concentrate on making money, and then go home. However, I met a girl on here who had another friend from here (both say that they use EDN more now, so I'm not really worried about either reading this - even if they do, it's no biggie.) We both work @ the same club. Long story short, I consistently make more than she does - not just a couple more dollars; not just $100 more, either.

    I'm not sure if I'm being paranoid, or if she really is starting to act bitchy to me in the club bc she's jealous that I'm making more, esp of slower nights. For instance, last night right when she sees me, she starts telling me how I shouldn't use my tanning lotion bc it makes me blotchy (even though I've been blotchy) and asked me in a condescending tone what I was wearing. I told her that it was my fav outfit, atm, and she said, "THAT is your fav outfit?!" She proceeded to tell me in a non-jking tone that I looked like a confused schoolgirl. I brushed it off and laughed, while explaining that people really liked my pink socks, to which she replied that "they ARE strippers." Actually, it's the customers, too. Anyhow...

    Fast forward to about an hr late: there are about 8 girls and 4 guys who are all occuppied. I'm on stage and my friend's sitting w a guy who comes up to me. He tells me that he wants me to sit w him, but I tell him that I can't as long as he's got someone there, but I'll catch up w him later. After my stage set, I scan the floor and he's still sitting w her, but a few minutes later, she leaves. I talk and he gets LDs, then I put my $ away in DR. She sees me and asks if he wanted LDs, and I respond yes, and she storms away.

    3rd encounter was after I did 2 rooms (and it's still bad for everyone else), and the DJ wasn't told that I'm in a rm, so he called me onstage, leaving me less than 1 song to get myself together after a rm. I tell him that I was in a rm, and he apologizes and says that nobody told him and that he'd put me up after the girl who is supposed to go after me - my friend. So, he calls her up, and she sees me in DR, and says, "YOU'RE still here?," to which I respond yes, and she asks why I can't go onstage. I say that I just walked out of a rm (nobody goes on stage right after a rm), and she says, "SO?!" and storms away again.

    I know that she's insecure (she's straight-up said that to me when I asked her why she doesn't do more VIPs, saying that her insecurity gets in her way). I also know that she's been in a rut, has recently gone on antidepressants, and she also has told me that she's very competitive (even though I wouldn't have thought so, otherwise). This leads me to really think that she's getting tired of me consistently making more than her, bc she knows that I do...I really just think it's turning more into jealousy, even though I hate being one of those girls who think that people are jealous...

    I don't want to quit working when she does, since I don't get in the club often, as it is, and I still want to be her friend bc she's not really like that when hanging out outside of the club. I really don't know what to do, and I understand her agitation at not making as much . I can also understand how it could be MORE angering/annoying to not make as much as someone closer to you, as opposed to a stranger.

    What should I do?

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    Thats a tough one, I've been in the same place before. There's not much you can do but wait for it to pass. Definitely don't change your work schedule around this or let it chip away at your money making ability. I've been in her shoes before too I guess. It stings at first but hopefully she'll get used to it and not be so upset...

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    I have a friend like this, and I just avoid her in the club. Like your friend she is mostly cool
    outside, but in the club she can get bitchy (but not as much as your friend). I would just try and keep how good you're doing to yourself and maybe try and help her out when you can by doing double dances. If she's in a rut, maybe that could help boost her confidence and make her less bitter/jealous towards you.

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    I'm evil I would make her feel bad for not making as much if she even tried to make me feel bad about making more and trust me if it's a friend and you do it nicely by taking consider and offering her advice to follow so she can become a money maker like u she'll stop and eat all the money talk real quick.

    My bff at the club and I were completive (well more like she felt she had to be #1 always)--she made more but by doing more which I was cool with making less on those terms, but nights I did better she would hate it & act like a brat cuz she knew I didn't care or work as hard/did as much as her. We counted each others money every shift, but she stopped the comparing dollar for dollar with me when I decided to be a bitch about it and treat her out letting her know that I'm much more comfortable with what I make then she is with how she makes it. After that there was no more talk about who made more whither she or i did beyond i'm gald u made money girl or yay you won today.
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    Default Re: How to deal w friends in strip club

    I would just talk to her. Ask her why she is acting upset. Maybe its not just the money thing. It does sound like it, but who knows. I have a problem with a friend I work with who makes more money, but it's not cause the money, it's because she does a lot of things I would consider "extras" to get the money and then treats me like I am inferior because I don't make as much. She has also taken control of dances with my regs when we do doubles which pisses me off. I don't treat her bitchy though, I just suck it up cause it's not worth messing with our friendship. But if I was subconsciously acting like a brat and she asked why I would tell her. I'm not saying you are like this but it is worth talking about it instead of just assuming why she is behaving the way she is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by audrey_k View Post
    I have a friend like this, and I just avoid her in the club. Like your friend she is mostly cool
    outside, but in the club she can get bitchy (but not as much as your friend). I would just try and keep how good you're doing to yourself and maybe try and help her out when you can by doing double dances. If she's in a rut, maybe that could help boost her confidence and make her less bitter/jealous towards you.
    Yeah, I def try to avoid her, but it's hard bc my locker's right where people have to pass through to get to the rest of the DR. I def keep how well I'm doing to myself, but it's easy for others to see...esp when it's not crowded and when I'm really the only one doing anything .

    Quote Originally Posted by UV69 View Post
    I'm evil I would make her feel bad for not making as much if she even tried to make me feel bad about making more and trust me if it's a friend and you do it nicely by taking consider and offering her advice to follow so she can become a money maker like u she'll stop and eat all the money talk real quick.


    My bff at the club and I were completive (well more like she felt she had to be #1 always)--she made more but by doing more which I was cool with making less on those terms, but nights I did better she would hate it & act like a brat cuz she knew I didn't care or work as hard/did as much as her. We counted each others money every shift, but she stopped the comparing dollar for dollar with me when I decided to be a bitch about it and treat her out letting her know that I'm much more comfortable with what I make then she is with how she makes it. After that there was no more talk about who made more whither she or i did beyond i'm gald u made money girl or yay you won today.

    LOL. I consistently try to help push her to do well. Even when I'm not at work, she will text me when she's at work and tell me how it is. If she's doing well, I congratulate her and motivate her to keep going. If she's not doing well, I tell her how she can work w/the small/cheap crowd that she has.

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    I would just talk to her. Ask her why she is acting upset. Maybe its not just the money thing. It does sound like it, but who knows. I have a problem with a friend I work with who makes more money, but it's not cause the money, it's because she does a lot of things I would consider "extras" to get the money and then treats me like I am inferior because I don't make as much. She has also taken control of dances with my regs when we do doubles which pisses me off. I don't treat her bitchy though, I just suck it up cause it's not worth messing with our friendship. But if I was subconsciously acting like a brat and she asked why I would tell her. I'm not saying you are like this but it is worth talking about it instead of just assuming why she is behaving the way she is.
    I don't think it's JUST the money thing, but I think that it's a combo of that and, in general, just a bad night for her (nothing to do w me). But you're totally right...I will ask her later why she was acting so upset when I see her. I figured that she wasn't PMSing, bc she always tells me when she is - or when something else is going on. I guess that's part of the reason that I linked the money thing to her actions, as well as the fact that except for the 1st encounter, the other ones (some of which I didn't write) happened directly after and/or pertained to events during which I got a room or lapdance or a customer wanted me instead of her.

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    so update...

    we saw each other another day that we actually worked together. long story short: i asked her why she wasn't talking to me...and she said that it was better that we don't talk at work because it makes her feel catty..yeahh

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    hmmm well maybe it's for the best that she isn't talking to you anymore... after all, it's work, and as our managers tell us, "you're here to make money, not friends."

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    What a draining friendship to maintain. She sounds like one of those people who base their self-worth on how much money they make a night and so they can't stand for someone to make more. The only way to please her is to do badly yourself, and I doubt you're gonna do that just so you can be friends (I hope!).

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